Random idea but.......

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  1. wishandwant

    wishandwant Well-Known Member

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    Hi ladies this may be a random/stupid idea but wanted to know what you thought!

    You probably know from my posts that I list a baby just over a wk ago and whilst I will never forget I was thinking of getting a permanent reminder (apart from my scars).

    I was thinking of getting a small tattoo somewhere, I'm thinking somewhere know one else will see so it's just for me really. I was thinking of a small star or angel wings.

    My dad passed away a few yrs ago so was thinking of getting one for him too, so 2 small stars beside eachother or 2 angel wings!

    What do you think?

    Xx
     
  2. aviolet

    aviolet Mommy of 1 angel

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    Sounds beautiful :hugs: so many people get those permanent reminders just for themselves. that's a lovely tribute idea :hugs:
     
  3. bellamamma

    bellamamma 3 with wings...

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    I think it's perfect! I've been trying to decide what to do for my 2 losses, as well, it seems wrong to not remember them in a special way...
     
  4. baileykenz

    baileykenz Well-Known Member

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    lovely idea
     
  5. croydongirl

    croydongirl Well-Known Member

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    I think it is important. I just found a necklace as a memorial to our 4 angels, abut also to remind me of the journey hubby and I went on over the past year and the changes in us too.
    Here is a link to our blog, I posted a pic of my necklace, I found it on Esty.com
     
  6. cowboys angel

    cowboys angel new mama & wife and ttc#2

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    I have a tattoo for one of my m/c's. It's a little butterfly, above my left ear. It's mostly hidden by my hair, but I think of it as she is sitting and whispering in my ear, on the days I get really down.
     
  7. holly2234

    holly2234 Well-Known Member

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    I think its a lovely idea. My OH has a tattoo of the name we chose for him and i have a bead on my pandora bracelet. I plan to get a tattoo too when its safe to again
     
  8. cowboys angel

    cowboys angel new mama & wife and ttc#2

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    I think it's a great idea, and good for the mother. I got it mainly cuz when I started to recover and move past it, I started dealing with guilt of thinking I was going to forget. I never have and I know I never will. I know just cuz I don't think of her every moment of every day doesn't mean I've forgotten. But that's why I got the tattoo. Cuz it was a permanent reminder of her, not counting the "permanent reminders" I should not have put on my body. (I cut myself for a long time). The tattoo was a GOOD reminder, and helped me feel better about 'getting over' my loss.
     
  9. HanaLu

    HanaLu WTT with the Soldier I <3

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    I was thinking something similar to remember my Little Angel. Just waiting for his Daddy to come home and then we can pick something together. I terrified of ever feeling for one moment I've forgotten my baby. XXX
     
  10. wishandwant

    wishandwant Well-Known Member

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    ok so I was thinking as I said of either 2 stars or angel wings but also thinking of a wee quote. if the wings i might put the quote in the middle then a wing either side, or if the stars probably below it.

    Can you help me with quotes, ive found these ones, what do you think?

    - i know every day for the rest of my life, i will be missing you
    - death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal
    - when someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure
    - sleeping with angels, living with god
    - memories will comfort until we meet again
    - always loved and never forgotten
    - requies aeterna....latin for eternal rest
    -may angels quide us
    - no easy way from earth to the stars
    - hinc illae lacrimae....latin for hence those tears
    - post tenebras spero lucem.....latin: after darkness i hope for light
    - quem di diligunt adulescens moritur....latin: he whom the gods love dies young
    - requiescat in pace...latin: rest in piece

    i know theres loads there, but any you particularily like? or any suggestions of your own??
     
  11. aviolet

    aviolet Mommy of 1 angel

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    These are my favorites, especially the one in bold. I tend to go for the ones that are more positive - i personally wouldn't want to look at a tattoo that symbolized anything negative or sad, i like the twist of something beautiful coming out of the pain. the 'no easy way' quote is my favorite because it acknowledges a major loss for you and how hard it is but it also suggests a bigger and better plan for the little one who is somewhere beautiful right now, in heaven. the ones in latin are also very peaceful and well-meaning, and i like that it's in a different language so you can keep the words a little more private.

    just a suggestion that you will probably want to keep the quotes pretty short (just a handful of words like the ones i quoted) if you want to keep the tattoo on the smaller side.
     
  12. aviolet

    aviolet Mommy of 1 angel

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    Just a random thought, I came across a cool idea of making your babies footprints (or footprints representing your baby) into the wings of a butterfly :) here's the website so you can see what i mean (made me think of this thread because i remembered you were considering wings of some kind) https://butterflyfootprints.blogspot.com/
     
  13. cowboys angel

    cowboys angel new mama & wife and ttc#2

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    I like these. I also really like the footprints to butterfly thing. I wish I had known about that before I got the butterfly tattoo that I got for my first m/c. Very neat aviolet.
     
  14. cowboys angel

    cowboys angel new mama & wife and ttc#2

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    https://i55.tinypic.com/j5umwi.jpg

    This is what I got for my m/c. I got it in June of 2010, and this was taken actually at the tattoo parlor so it looks very painful... (It was haha)
     
  15. aviolet

    aviolet Mommy of 1 angel

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    that looks so pretty cowboys angel! love the placement
     
  16. cowboys angel

    cowboys angel new mama & wife and ttc#2

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    Thanks. It hurt so bad...took 7 minutes to do the actual tattoo, and I cried... It bled for like a week, versus the normal 40 mins lol. It's directly on top of my scalp. :(
     
  17. aviolet

    aviolet Mommy of 1 angel

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    Wow yeah you were brave!! I have a high pain tolerance for every area except my scalp! I don't think I could do it. At least it didn't take long to do (though I'm sure if felt long!)
     
  18. cowboys angel

    cowboys angel new mama & wife and ttc#2

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    Well it felt long, and I also got in on the two year anniversary, so I was already highly emotional...
     

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