Rather large Baby & Fibroid- 5 days in Hospital=long story rant

[Alexp]

Well as I can hardly put one foot in front of the other I went to my Pyshio app last Monday, It took 20 mins to walkk a hundred yards. Where my left leg kept giving way and the pain in my front & back passage is horrendous. Both a nurse and the physio were shocked at how bad I was , so took me to Pregnancy Day Care, I was monitored and given a steriod shot and took to Labour unit in a wheelchair. Again monitored and told would be going to Maternity ward for pain relief. Thats when the regular tightenings started. They gave me Oramorpth for the pain from the Fibroid.

Again on Maternity I was given another steroid shot but wasnt told why !
Found out later they thought he was coming so decided to play safe. I saw a Dr who said she would deliver at 39 weeks WHAT ! bloody hell I couldnt even turn on the bed so 9 more weeks made me very tearful and depressed.

I insisted my specialist see me but they forgot to inform her. By this time Im taking Codeine and Paracetomol which is the equivilent to morphine mix. It didnt take away all the discomfort and I still couldnt walk. Also was told baby may become addicted and have to go to NICU for withdrawal. Also made me that constipated Fibrogel and Lactose, loads of fruit and fibre and five days later still no poop . That made me worse still, its a side effect from the medication. They sent me home to continue like this.

Then my specialist arrived to tell me she wouldnt let me go past 40 weeks.
Bloody Brilliant as she has mentioned 34 weeks due to increasing fibroid. She also told me the pain could get much worse so save the Oramorpth till last two weeks.

On the Thursday I was sent for a scan to be told at 31.4 weeks our baby is 5lb 2- 5lb 4oz and chubby. Lots bigger than normal. The sonographer even asked if I was to be delivered earlier as the Fibroid was next to the babys head and just as big. (next to cervix, I have risk of heamorage in ceasarean or rupture at birth)

The thought of an estimated 9lb plus baby and giving birth with the fibroid risk is getting me down. Even a midwife told me he would be fine now as he had had steriods for his lungs. Although she did say she didnt think I would get to 40 weeks with the discomfort in my Uterus. My tightenings are regular everyday. Im just hoping he makes an early appearance as Im mentally and physically exhausted now.

A few weeks of pain I can deal with but Ive had this months on end and its getting worse. Well Ive decided Im not having my baby in NICU with withdrawl symptons I am just going to have to suffer regardless.
The mum in the next bed was having twins at 34 wks both 3lb 2oz each, but one is smaller but not in danger. Her specialist is delivering hers in two weeks just to be safe. Mum wasnt pleased as she wanted to go further and her health is fine. I dont get how they make their decisions.

 

[tootles123]

didn't want to read and run - sounds like you're going through a really tough time. Lots of good on you for pushing for things, but sad to hear how many things were overlooked or not passed on/communicated. Hope things get easier.

Is it worth going to see your DR and talking through the emotional stuff - you're entitled to support for that too

 

[Alexp]

Thanks for replying.

I spent one day in tears of frustration. My Dr originally said 34 weeks and marked it on my booklet. Since changed her tune. I told her Im mentally and physically drained now. She was not bothered, She knows my history and how stressful this pregnancy has been too. Im so scared of something going wrong. I told the midwife if anything happened to this baby then I would definately end my life. I know that sounds selfish and dreadful but I cannot cope with losing another child. This is my last chance at my age.

 

[Minnie_me]

Bloody fibroids I can't rationalise the decisions docs make but anyway. Hope they reassess your situation.

I see my consultant on Tues and am hoping he will set my mind at rest. Whilst my fibroid isn't causing trouble, I have begun to get really scared that labour is going to cause me to have flashbacks to the horrors of a year ago and I am worried the MWs will think I am a hysterical drama queen.

 

[tootles123]

because I have no experience of your situation it's hard to say what's the best thing to do...but I think I would take it above the ppl you're dealing with right now.

I have an anxiety issue and they're taking it really seriously because I'm therefore higher risk of PND - I've been relieved to find support when I've needed it to talk about worries and concerns with an expert. Not impressed at how you've been fobbed off - mental health is so often given secondary importance and that's not ok -

Surely you should be supported through these kinds of things

Any chance of talking to someone above your MW? Maybe at the hospital. I was referred by my GP to a consultant and then on to an expert who has been great.

 

[secretbaby]

Didn't want to read and run - sounds like your having a horrendous time (((hugs))) - I can totally sympathise with you when they change there minds - has happend in my care many many times.

To my consultant its all statistics and care plans - to me its my life.. and to me it is also my last chance (and I also lost my last baby in 2009 so am very scared). I can't offer any magic solutions but would say you just have to keep asking, harranging, telling them, reminding them you are in horrendous pain - will your midwife or GP back your case to your consultant??? could they talk to your consultant on your behalf??? just a thought.

Sorry I can't think of more - but I am thinking of you x

 

[Alexp]

That was the specialist at the hospital not my MW. And she is the top one there.

Im tempted to phone PDC tomorrow as my feet have swollen up I am red hot all the time, having dizzy spells and a headache. But my BP is low 105/ 65
Sat with window open now and its cold outside. Tightenings are still happening too. Although Im pleased baby is lively again as I was worried sick when he was zonked on morphine. Imagine 8 weeks later -poor thing.

 

[tootles123]

hmmm... it sounds like a really difficult situation - really not sure what to suggest, but again, lots of

I still think it might be worth talking to your GP and asking for some more support - and if nobody listens look to take it further at your own GP surgery. You say your Dr wasn't bothered - and she really should be...the things you've said to her/him are really important and show that you've used up as much as you can getting through all of this.

I know it's not the same thing, but getting referred and talking stuff over with someone reallly helped me.

I can't understand why your GP is overlooking what you're saying - actually it makes me really cross!
Not sure what else to suggest but send more
And really really glad you're getting movement - I know how much of a relief that is x