Read a thread I wish I hadn't

[Happy happy]

So its my 12 wk scan in just 8 short days..feeling very excited but nervous in the same measure.
last night I was just having a scroll through some of the posts on here and there was one where a lady was saying it's common to have two mc in succession before a healthy pregnancy. ..This is not what I wanted to see!!
I read you are no more or less likely to have a mc after having your 1st mc than someone who hasn't previously had one at all.
I've been feeling very achey in my lower back and stomach the last few days now I'm worrying myself sick that there will be something wrong and once again I will get to my scan to be told "sorry but it's not good news".
just need some reassurance please lovely ladies xoxo

 

[xxyjadexx]

Wishing you the best of luck with this baby! I believe every new pregnancy is a fresh start and you are no more likely to suffer a mc than anyone else!

 

[Happy happy]

That's what I'm choosing to believe!! Been feeling a lot more positive up until now and had no spotting or bleeding so no reason to believe there's anything wrong !! Good luck to you too xoxo

 

[NandO1]

I dont think what she said was true hun.You are more likely to have a healthy pregnancy after one or 2 mc and are at no more real risk than someone who has had none. Have you mc'd before? as pregnancy after a loss is always a scary time. Good luck with your scan and enjoy seeing your healthy little bubs xx

 

[teamandy]

I would stay away from the scary threads! You're almost there!!

 

[londonangel]

I have read that the chance of miscarriage is slightly higher when you've had a first miscarriage (although that heightened likelihood goes down again if you have a healthy baby after a first miscarriage). However, it is only very slightly higher and as another poster has said, it is far more likely that you will have a healthy baby rather than another miscarriage. Miscarriage is common but recurring miscarriage is less common.

I lost my first baby at about 9-10 weeks gestation. I hated being pregnant last time round as I spent so much time thinking there would be something wrong with the baby. I remember vividly being in floods of tears two days before my 13 week scan as I had really bad period-type pains and was convinced the baby had died (I'd seen the heartbeat about six weeks before).

When I went for the scan the baby was absolutely fine.

I'm now pregnant with number two (or three, depending on whether or not I count the first miscarriage). Still not relaxed. Scan Friday 18th - cannot wait - I hate not knowing whether there is actually a baby in there or not and if there is, whether the baby is okay.

Best of luck but I am sure your baby will be absolutely fine.

 

[ladders]

I was told by my doctor after my miscarriage that new research has shown you have higher chance of having a successful pregnancy than normal if get pregnant within 6 months of the mc so don't worry
Totally know how you are feeling I thought once I got past the point of my previous mc I would feel happy and safer but now I have my date for my 12 week scan all I can think about is mmc

 

[Happy happy]

I found out at my 12wk scan in Oct last year I'd had a mmc after seeing the hb at an early scan at 6/7 weeks due to a bleed. The miscarriage itself was pretty horrific and if the same was to happen again I've said we would look into adoption as I just couldn't put my body or my family through that again.
It's such a nerve wracking time..just wish the was a sign that all was okay!!.Thank you for all you reassuring words ladies!! We will get through this!! Xoxo

 

[Happy happy]

I have read that the chance of miscarriage is slightly higher when you've had a first miscarriage (although that heightened likelihood goes down again if you have a healthy baby after a first miscarriage). However, it is only very slightly higher and as another poster has said, it is far more likely that you will have a healthy baby rather than another miscarriage. Miscarriage is common but recurring miscarriage is less common.

I lost my first baby at about 9-10 weeks gestation. I hated being pregnant last time round as I spent so much time thinking there would be something wrong with the baby. I remember vividly being in floods of tears two days before my 13 week scan as I had really bad period-type pains and was convinced the baby had died (I'd seen the heartbeat about six weeks before).

When I went for the scan the baby was absolutely fine.

I'm now pregnant with number two (or three, depending on whether or not I count the first miscarriage). Still not relaxed. Scan Friday 18th - cannot wait - I hate not knowing whether there is actually a baby in there or not and if there is, whether the baby is okay.

Best of luck but I am sure your baby will be absolutely fine.

Thank you so much for the responce.
With my previous pregnancy I just had a feeling something wasn't right then I had a bleed so had an early scan which showed a hb but I still just didn't feel happy so was kind of prepared for the worst when I got to my 12wk scan..didn't make it any less devastating but I just knew there would be something wrong.
This time round I've felt so much more positive..I've had constant nausea since 4 weeks..and now if I smell something I don't like I have to run to the bathroom and just yesterday I was randomly bursting into tears ( which my DD found highly amusing) so these, to me, are all positive signs.
I just pray all is well...I've my scan on 17th then a family bbq for my birthday on the 19th (my b day is actually the 12th but I've postponed it) so I want to be able to tell everyone our happy news and not force a smile on my face!! Xoox

 

[Happy happy]

I was told by my doctor after my miscarriage that new research has shown you have higher chance of having a successful pregnancy than normal if get pregnant within 6 months of the mc so don't worry
Totally know how you are feeling I thought once I got past the point of my previous mc I would feel happy and safer but now I have my date for my 12 week scan all I can think about is mmc

That's exactly how I feel. Luckily my mum was at my 12wk scan with me last time when I was told the baby had died (my DH couldn't be there) so she knew the measurements and has been reassuring me that I'm well past the point the hb had stopped but know i think what if it's a mmc as I've had no signs at all to make me feel there could be anything wrong! ! Just need to get the next Thursday and all be okay then I can try and enjoy being pregnant! !
good luck lovely, fingers crossed we both get our little babies xoxo

 

[NandO1]

I had a mmc and found out at 12 week scan. I had heard the hb on my doppler at. 9 weeks then at 10 + 6 couldnt find it. My bloat went and boobs deflated somewhat so it wasnt such a shock but none the less devastating to be told at the scan that the baby had gone. It measured 10+2. I got my bfp a few months later and all seems to be going well (fingers x'd) I can feel baby kick as i type! I felt very differently this time, weirdly relaxed (although wobbly days too) in first tri but that could have been because for the first time, in 5 pregnancies i had ms and a whole host of other symptoms. To me it was like my body trying to tell me things were ok. I also found the hb at 7+6 on my doppler which helped. I think you will be fine, and make sure you update us with some lovely scan pics xx

 

[Happy happy]

I had a mmc and found out at 12 week scan. I had heard the hb on my doppler at. 9 weeks then at 10 + 6 couldnt find it. My bloat went and boobs deflated somewhat so it wasnt such a shock but none the less devastating to be told at the scan that the baby had gone. It measured 10+2. I got my bfp a few months later and all seems to be going well (fingers x'd) I can feel baby kick as i type! I felt very differently this time, weirdly relaxed (although wobbly days too) in first tri but that could have been because for the first time, in 5 pregnancies i had ms and a whole host of other symptoms. To me it was like my body trying to tell me things were ok. I also found the hb at 7+6 on my doppler which helped. I think you will be fine, and make sure you update us with some lovely scan pics xx

Ahh that's really reassuring. Sounds like you went through a similar experience to me which I'm sorry to hear but congratulations on your pregancy! !
Yeah I've been feeling awful, I'm around 11 weeks and the nausea is going but I can't stand certain smells and they male me sick..like if I walk I to the kitchen and there's bits left over from tea...and deciding even the thought of a chicken breastfeed makes me gag so I'm feeling pretty hopeful...Most of the time!! Haha xoxo

 

[NandO1]

I'm sorry for your loss too and congrats on your pregnancy. M/c robs you of your innocence. I thought i would be a wreck for the 1st 12 weeks but i was surprisingly calm. Studies have shown a correlation between ms and healthy pregnancies so i think your symptoms are reassuring and im sure you know that its normal for them to be tapering off now.

 

[TryinFor1]

Hm, my doctor told me the risk is the same, but that the chances of having two in a row are small. My research indicated the same, so I wouldn't believe what she said. you will be fine.

 

[USAFWife319]

My doctor told my at my 12 week that it was very unlikely. I was watched closer but from the research I've seen it's unlikely. I miscarried in January and got pregnant in March (both a surprise).

 

[Happy happy]

Thank you all so so much. You've really put my mind at ease today. I just want the next week to fly by...This time next week I'll be a nervous wreck/as excited as a child on Xmas eve!! Haha xx