Ready for #2 but dreading TTC

[dlj2]

Hi all

Pointless thread really guess I'm just hoping for inspiring stories!

We have decided we are ready to start trying for #2 but I'm so anxious to properly start it took 4 long agonising years to get my beautiful daughter.

Fertility appointments, tests, procedures etc, she finally came along I believe due to concieve plus, but who knows after all that time as I'd been taking supplements as had hubs for over a year, I'd had a laperoscopy and dye couple months previous, husband had stoped all alcohol/caffeine. So basically it was a natural conception but with some holistic support!

So my worry is having to go through that again, our relationship really took a battering and our sex life hasn't ever really recovered will it be easier this time?????!!!!!!

Any thoughts welcomed.xx

 

[Seoul]

Just wanted to say good luck! I always have heard that the second time around it easier because you are not so obsessed over having one but I wouldn't know first hand. I am also in a similar situation wanting to try again but dreading the feeling of seeing more BFNs. I have made up my mind to think that I am happy with the one I have and if I have another one he/she will be a bonus

 

[dlj2]

Thank you that's very kind, and lots of luck to you as well.xx

 

[tubs]

Hey! I know how u feel. It took us four years to conceive our DS. We did all the fertilty treatment but got pregnant naturally in the end. We had the best sex life BEFORE ttc. I really want another baby but like u am dreading TTC again!

 

[MumToEva]

There's a school of thought that actually TRYING to conceive causes some womens bodies to react to the stress, making conceiving more difficult. What about taking a not trying, not preventing type approach - no ovulation sticks, no checking temperature etc, just having sex if and when you and your OH feel like it. It might be worth trying for a little while? Maybe easier said than done not to stress about it though! Hope this time is a lot easier for you.

 

[dlj2]

There's a school of thought that actually TRYING to conceive causes some womens bodies to react to the stress, making conceiving more difficult. What about taking a not trying, not preventing type approach - no ovulation sticks, no checking temperature etc, just having sex if and when you and your OH feel like it. It might be worth trying for a little while? Maybe easier said than done not to stress about it though! Hope this time is a lot easier for you.

Thankyou it's a good idea but this is our regular 'contraception' as it were hehe. We havnt used any contraception for years due to our issues with concieving and I don't plan on using opk this time round as I knows cycles pretty well now, but do Agee less pressure is best! Thankyou.x

 

[minties]

It took us 8 years to conceive Thomas, and just one night to conceive Sophie. Having Thomas seemed to jumpstart something!

I also have a regular cycle for the first time in 20 years of having periods. Granted it's 7 weeks long, but it's regular! I used to get 2-3 periods a year.

 

[Cccbb61013]

Both times I've conceived has been with the assistance of clomid. The reason I can't get pregnant without it is unexplained. The first time we "tried" (had not used any form of birth control for 5 years), I saw a fertility specialist after 6 months. Did all the testing & conceived on my 3rd cycle of clomid. Took a year total. I didn't decide to TTC with my second until my first was 4, but again didn't used birth control in those 4 years. With my second I went straight the the doctor as soon as I was ready & got on clomid immediately. I conceived on the 3rd cycle again. So 3 months this time. I'm not going to lie & say the negative tests this time around weren't disappointing, but it did happen faster this time.
I say if you are that unsure that you may be willing to put it off, then just go for it. That way if it takes time again, it won't be as heartbreaking. Baby dust!

 

[irish_cob]

It took 19 months to conceive my dd1, we were just starting the fertility tests, appts etc when finally, finally I got my bfp. This time round I was pregnant in 2 months. It seems my body knew what to do, other friends have told me similar things so I hope it's the same for you x

 

[Gym knickers]

I've tried to be more relaxed about it this time although I am a poas addict!! I have pco so crazy cycles. Been using opks on and off the last few months in preparation for properly TTC in January. Was pretty relaxed about it but then had a positive opk which I couldn't resist and that ended in a chemical. It's set me off all over again!! I think I need clomid for a healthy baby, have 2 cycles left from DD which I plan to use in jan whilst waiting for more! Honestly, it is easier as you already have your baby to distract you and to give all your love to!!! I was sooooo much better with this chemical than I was with my first before DD. I can't say you won't get really into testing etc as you prob will but it definitely isn't so consuming- it can't be!! Hugs, I know exactly how you feel. TTC is stressful xxx

 

[meli1981]

good luck ttc

 

[Dolly84]

Good luck ttc, it took us 2years to get our son with the help of a lap and dye and clomid. We decided to not use anything since his birth and see if anything happens. So hopefully it won't take 2years this time , good luck and baby dust xxxxx

 

[Nevaie]

I know the feeling. It took me almost 5 years to have #2. I'll most likely be TTC #3 in June and though I'm excited and in some ways can't wait, I'm also trying not to think about it. It's been almost 6 months and my period hasn't returned, though I am pumping so that could be part of it. But without meds I only had 2-3 periods a year anyways, so this may have nothing to do with breastmilk production delaying it. I'll very likely be going back on my supplements when I switch DD over to formula in the next month or so, and may just go straight back onto clomid when I officially start TTC. There's no point waiting around if I'm not ovulating on my own. I definitely see no reason to use any form of contraception anymore. I don't know if I could do another 5 year journey. I may give it 2-3 years of TTC and give up after that if it doesn't work. The first couple years weren't too bad last time (comparatively), but the last couple were terrible and heartbreaking. I really don't want to go through that again.

I really hope it goes fast for you. I have heard from lots of women who had better luck and got pregnant faster after finding what was wrong and what worked for them. Good luck

 

[overcomer79]

It took 3.5 years with ds. So the next two we decided to go NTNP route...five months with dd and this one was the first month of ntnp...

 

[moonstone312]

New to the site, hope I'm posting right...
Anyway, I have been TTC #2 for 6 months now. This is month 7, and I was just put on Clomid by my obgyn due to low progesterone levels. We conceived baby1 our first month, so I never dreamed I would have troubles getting pregnant with number 2!
They said if Clomid doesnt work in 3 months, we need to go to a specialist, which is just scary to think about! We have our fingers crossed that everything works!
Good luck to everyone else TTC, it can be a stressful time!