really?? F&%king Facebook.....

[hopefull85]

it just really annoys me when people think its just fine and dandy when they post pregnancy pictures, pictures of their kids, pictures of sayings that say like if you love your children, etc...but when an infertile person post anything about being infertile they become smartasses. Oh im so sorry that you dont want to see something so depressing but hey guess what i have to live that everyday. do i say anything rude or smartass on pics of your kids etc no i do not. so why do you have to be that way towards me. Fertile people just dont understand and just think that we are being whiny and whatever. i just wanted to get this off my chest.

 

[SashimiMimi]

I've unsubscribed from 75% of my FB friends for this reason. It amazes me how uncomfortable people become around the topic of infertility. I didn't choose this, but it's part of who I am. I was just saying on another thread that there are so many movies and reality shows about pregnancy (teen or otherwise) but nothing like that on infertility. It's a common problem, maybe if some light was shed on what women like us go through, then we shouldn't be considered "jerks" for opening up about our struggles.

 

[kassiaethne]

*peaks in* did you know there is a add on for google chrome. that can block key words and pregnancy photos and such, whatever you want blocked on your face book and replace it with pictures of cats or whatever you put it to replace it with. >.> Just saying it might be helpful

 

[SashimiMimi]

Woo hoo! Thanks for the tip!!

 

[Bump2B]

Sashimi, I can't think of any movies off the top of my head but infertility features in main storylines in Friends, Gavin and Stacey and Sex and the City. I feel I can relate to them better because of these storylines and I'm glad they used them instead of treating infertility as a taboo.

 

[SashimiMimi]

Ohhh that's true Bump. I haven't watched Friends or SATC in a while, but maybe it's time I revisit. I'm actually in my first IVF cycle right now and could use something to get my mind off of it and remind me I'm not so isolated in all of this.

 

[hopefull85]

The Odd Life of Timothy Green is a new Disney movie thats in theaters and its about infertility my husband and i went and saw it just the other day. i thought it was a really good movie.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v8hbKeN1QBI

 

[xxshellsxx]

there is an american sitcom called 'Rules of engagement' and the married couple in that are infertile and are going through surrogacy, they have talked about all the testing and things.... quite refreshing!

 

[tamithomas]

Wow I'm in tears from the trailer, thanks for sharing! It shows exactly what we're looking for..for that love of a child, biological or not

 

[hopefull85]

Wow I'm in tears from the trailer, thanks for sharing! It shows exactly what we're looking for..for that love of a child, biological or not

there were many parts where my husband and i both cried. i knew i would even before watching it just knowing that it was going to hit so close to home. but it is honestly a really good movie at least i think so.

 

[Bump2B]

I definitely want to see that, I'd never heard of it! Thanks for sharing!

 

[vaniilla]

I'm sorry that people are being really insensitive on Facebook they don't have a right to try and put down what anyone says, infertility is a horrible thing to go through, people are just as mean when you already have kids, my infertility is "not real" because I have one already and I'm apparently selfish!

when I was pregnant with my son I put nothing on there, people didn't find out about him until after he was born because I didn't want it being a public thing and didn't want to upset anyone, I do put lots of photos of him but I'm not from the UK originally and apart from mum, dad & sis all of my relatives are abroad, it's the only way they get to see him growing up.

 

[hopefull85]

I'm sorry that people are being really insensitive on Facebook they don't have a right to try and put down what anyone says, infertility is a horrible thing to go through, people are just as mean when you already have kids, my infertility is "not real" because I have one already and I'm apparently selfish!

when I was pregnant with my son I put nothing on there, people didn't find out about him until after he was born because I didn't want it being a public thing and didn't want to upset anyone, I do put lots of photos of him but I'm not from the UK originally and apart from mum, dad & sis all of my relatives are abroad, it's the only way they get to see him growing up.

i dont say anything rude to anyone posting pics about their kids or when they post pics with sayings in it that say " if you love you child repost this". but when someone going through infertility puts something about it online then they have to post something that has nothing to do with what was posted. im so tired of feeling like poo when i want to post something about my infertility. im so tired of fertile people thinking that im selfish and just need to let it go. well i have news for them i will never let it go and i will never give up the fight for my unborn child

 

[tamithomas]

I have a strong belief that if BFP ladies are aloud to moan and groan about their symptoms, well you're darn right we should be aloud to moan and groan about IF!!! So tired of it being shamed and named. Told to get back in the closet once literally. Needless to say that person didn't last long as a "friend". The worst I heard was "if you're infertile you should be at therapy not facebook" ggggggggrrrrrrrrrrr

 

[SashimiMimi]

Tami that's awful! The way I see it, most people choose to be pregnant but no one chooses infertility. We have nothing to be ashamed of

 

[spidergirl]

Hi i know how you feel cause i'm there too, when someone i know posted scan and then baby photos i didn't say anything but when i posted a photo for if i was yelled at. When they moaned all through pregnancy and labour i didn't say anything but when i put something about my ICSI i was yelled at. Don't get me wrong i also think pregnant woman should be able talk about what they are going through but she just took it to far. Some people i don't mind them posting photos but some people just peck my head and i've had to hid them or delete them cause i couldn't take any more in the end i deleted my own account. That film looks great i'll think i'll be going watching that.

 

[Kimiw]

I have a strong belief that if BFP ladies are aloud to moan and groan about their symptoms, well you're darn right we should be aloud to moan and groan about IF!!! So tired of it being shamed and named. Told to get back in the closet once literally. Needless to say that person didn't last long as a "friend". The worst I heard was "if you're infertile you should be at therapy not facebook" ggggggggrrrrrrrrrrr

OMG somebody told you that??? I would be PISSED. I kept my infertility a seceret from FB for a long time but one day I just had it. I posted "if one more person asks me or my husband when we are going to have kids, I am going to delete them!" People got the hint REAL fast but, it didn't stop the endless pictures and sonograms being posted, I just ignore them now . So, we belong in therapy and not facebook huh? So...only men and women with children or pregnant bellies are allowed on facebook? Am I hearing that right? The nerve of some people. And as you know, because you recently went through this, I did NOT feel superior to others because I was pregnant. I kept my mouth SHUT on facebook. NOBODY knew other than close family members. Yes I was happy (for a very short time) but I remembered all my wonderful friends here who struggled, and I remembered that struggle. I had a better mind to not shove it in the face of others.

 

[Chatterwockin]

I dont understand why someone would have something to say, if a post was about IF. I dont get it, my "friends" post all sorts of things... moans about their day/friends/boyfriends. Whats IF got, that the other rants dont, why doesn't that count as an everyday problem?

I think everyone should get new friends, i did, i had a friend, whose very existence disgusted me, never been a more repugnant human being on the face of the earth! ( She made her ltttc best friend, accompany her to 3 abortions! and it was me who was there to pick up the pieces!) So "that **** got deleted" Thank you azealia banks lol

 

[tamithomas]

it really is sad how stupid people can be, I mean... people are spreading cancer, animal abuse, gay marriage and everything awareness..but heaven forbid we try to spread awareness about something that is very real to us. It almost seems like these dumbies think that by being around IF they're gonna catch it like a contagious virus

 

[hopefull85]

it really is sad how stupid people can be, I mean... people are spreading cancer, animal abuse, gay marriage and everything awareness..but heaven forbid we try to spread awareness about something that is very real to us. It almost seems like these dumbies think that by being around IF they're gonna catch it like a contagious virus

oh that is so true. or its like people around you can go on and on about their kids or pregnancy but the moment you try to say something about infertility then they dont want to talk anymore, or they just ignore what you just said and keep on about themself. im to the point to were i feel that i cant say anything to anyone ( other than you girls ) because they make me feel like im selfish. BUT IM NOT SELFISH i am just human and a woman. a woman with a broken body. believe me i do not want to be in the position, who would. but no matter how much we bitch and moan about infertility. those who are fertile will always have something smartass and rude to say.