Recurrent Miscarriage Thread

[garfie]

Ladies

Firstly BIG to you all

Anyone tell me how long I have to wait for AF after a natural m/c - 74 days today and counting (even though this weekend I was sure she would come whilst I was at a big music festival)

I am now waiting for the Dr to get back - as I tested this morning and NEG (maybe I'm having the hook effect) - yep I've been googling!!!!



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[x_Rainbow_x]

Hello confuzion,
So sorry you have to find yourself here I take it if you are waiting to naturally miscarry that this foetus won't be tested?
You know, even if you or your husband are found to have a balanced translocation it doesn't necessarily mean babies are impossible to have. One lady who used to frequent this thread had a balanced translocation. She was advised that in her case no boy babies would survive but that girls would. Bizarrely (and very happily!), she ended up giving birth to a healthy boy but my point is that it really depends on the specific chromosome that is affected and it doesn't necessarily mean that all babies would be affected.

It's probably going to be quite nerve-wracking to wait for the results and being in miscarriage limbo surely doesn't help so big hugs to you

Thank you for lengthy helpful response . The RPL specialist said since there's only a 1cm sac (barely 5 week pregnancy), there would really be nothing to test and not worth a d&c.

& I know it can be done even with a balanced translocation but it certainly would complicate things immensely. My husband is already pushing for IVF with PGD because he's afraid we'll end up with a special needs child. But I guess we just have to wait and see what the results say. And if one of us does have it (more than likely me as the abnormality from loss #2 was shown to be of maternal origin), what type and what it means for us.

And yes waiting for the results right now is much worse than miscarriage limbo. I'm feeling a little numb to this loss. Never really let myself get excited about it so it wasn't as much of a blow. And considering we're waiting anyway, the waiting doesn't feel so bad thankfully.

Thank you newlywed. I will try to read back some time soon and familiarize myself with everyone.

Sorry to intrude but I have a BT, and a very tricky break at that, I spent years being told I'd never have kids naturally. I have 1 little girl conceived naturally with complete normal girl chromosomes n a boy due anytime now which is looking like hel have a normal set to.. It can be done. If you need any support or help through the waiting times I'm always about somewhere. Iv been there, and even tho times were hard and dark I came out the other side.
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[Squig34]

Sorry Garfie, I don't know - my AFs have always come more or less on time. But I have seen stories from other ladies who've had to wait a long time - try the Mama Bears thread if you don't get many answers on here. I hope your doctor has been able to offer some advice or explanation?

 

[confuzion]

Hello confuzion,
So sorry you have to find yourself here I take it if you are waiting to naturally miscarry that this foetus won't be tested?
You know, even if you or your husband are found to have a balanced translocation it doesn't necessarily mean babies are impossible to have. One lady who used to frequent this thread had a balanced translocation. She was advised that in her case no boy babies would survive but that girls would. Bizarrely (and very happily!), she ended up giving birth to a healthy boy but my point is that it really depends on the specific chromosome that is affected and it doesn't necessarily mean that all babies would be affected.

It's probably going to be quite nerve-wracking to wait for the results and being in miscarriage limbo surely doesn't help so big hugs to you

Thank you for lengthy helpful response . The RPL specialist said since there's only a 1cm sac (barely 5 week pregnancy), there would really be nothing to test and not worth a d&c.

& I know it can be done even with a balanced translocation but it certainly would complicate things immensely. My husband is already pushing for IVF with PGD because he's afraid we'll end up with a special needs child. But I guess we just have to wait and see what the results say. And if one of us does have it (more than likely me as the abnormality from loss #2 was shown to be of maternal origin), what type and what it means for us.

And yes waiting for the results right now is much worse than miscarriage limbo. I'm feeling a little numb to this loss. Never really let myself get excited about it so it wasn't as much of a blow. And considering we're waiting anyway, the waiting doesn't feel so bad thankfully.

Thank you newlywed. I will try to read back some time soon and familiarize myself with everyone.

Sorry to intrude but I have a BT, and a very tricky break at that, I spent years being told I'd never have kids naturally. I have 1 little girl conceived naturally with complete normal girl chromosomes n a boy due anytime now which is looking like hel have a normal set to.. It can be done. If you need any support or help through the waiting times I'm always about somewhere. Iv been there, and even tho times were hard and dark I came out the other side.
Xxxx

I really appreciate this. Going through a rough time right now so taking a break from BnB but once we get the results back and find out if it is our issue (RPL specialist straight out said that it would actually be for the best if one of us did have a BT) I hope it will be ok if I look you up and PM you. Your story definitely gives me some hope in a time where I just feel like giving up so thank you

 

[confuzion]

garfie - my AFs have always come about a month after a natural miscarriage so I'm sorry I'm not much help. It does seem like an awfully long time, and if it's not a new pregnancy, maybe you've got retained tissue? I would get checked out. Good luck.

 

[dairymomma]

Garfie-just wanted to pop in and say I've had to wait as long as 8 weeks after a natural miscarriage to get my period. It's always been about 4 weeks after my hCG drops back to 0 and that has taken up to 3 weeks. Typical wait for me though is 6 weeks-ish. Hope you find out what's going on soon!

 

[NorthStar]

My first mc AF arrived 28 days after the bleeding started, and I ovulated (and conceived) that first normal cycle (I was 7 weeks pg at time of loss)

Don't know if I'll be so "lucky" this second time around(though I don't think lucky is the word for any of us on this thread) at 9 weeks pg when mc started

Been offered RPL testing and think I need a couple of months off this treadmill anyway

 

[x_Rainbow_x]

Hello confuzion,
So sorry you have to find yourself here I take it if you are waiting to naturally miscarry that this foetus won't be tested?
You know, even if you or your husband are found to have a balanced translocation it doesn't necessarily mean babies are impossible to have. One lady who used to frequent this thread had a balanced translocation. She was advised that in her case no boy babies would survive but that girls would. Bizarrely (and very happily!), she ended up giving birth to a healthy boy but my point is that it really depends on the specific chromosome that is affected and it doesn't necessarily mean that all babies would be affected.

It's probably going to be quite nerve-wracking to wait for the results and being in miscarriage limbo surely doesn't help so big hugs to you

Thank you for lengthy helpful response . The RPL specialist said since there's only a 1cm sac (barely 5 week pregnancy), there would really be nothing to test and not worth a d&c.

& I know it can be done even with a balanced translocation but it certainly would complicate things immensely. My husband is already pushing for IVF with PGD because he's afraid we'll end up with a special needs child. But I guess we just have to wait and see what the results say. And if one of us does have it (more than likely me as the abnormality from loss #2 was shown to be of maternal origin), what type and what it means for us.

And yes waiting for the results right now is much worse than miscarriage limbo. I'm feeling a little numb to this loss. Never really let myself get excited about it so it wasn't as much of a blow. And considering we're waiting anyway, the waiting doesn't feel so bad thankfully.

Thank you newlywed. I will try to read back some time soon and familiarize myself with everyone.

Sorry to intrude but I have a BT, and a very tricky break at that, I spent years being told I'd never have kids naturally. I have 1 little girl conceived naturally with complete normal girl chromosomes n a boy due anytime now which is looking like hel have a normal set to.. It can be done. If you need any support or help through the waiting times I'm always about somewhere. Iv been there, and even tho times were hard and dark I came out the other side.
Xxxx

I really appreciate this. Going through a rough time right now so taking a break from BnB but once we get the results back and find out if it is our issue (RPL specialist straight out said that it would actually be for the best if one of us did have a BT) I hope it will be ok if I look you up and PM you. Your story definitely gives me some hope in a time where I just feel like giving up so thank you

Anytime Hun. Whenever your ready xxx

 

[ttcbabyisom]

to everyone here. I'm still lurking...

 

[garfie]

So ladies I had blood tests on June 25th they were as follows:-

HCG - under 1 cry

LH 9.7

FSH 13.7

Estradiol 458

As I haven't had a period yet since my last mc I asked for some more tests the results are:

HCG 1 cry

LH 3.1

FSH 6.8

Estradiol 261

So what am I to take from these readings - is she on the way? have I got PCOS? Oh wow now I'm confused I was expecting the levels to go up (43 soon) not down - I'm on CD77!



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[floridamomma]

I think there is a med to take to jump start af if she doesn't show up soon

 

[Squig34]

I don't know Garfie, I just wanted to say that for once, I hope AF does show! And that you can get some help from your doc. I'm still waiting for AF too, should've been here Thursday or Friday. I know that's not the same as CD77, but it's unusual for me, I hope it's not the start of a long cycle.

 

[chistiana]

Garfie I ve been reading up on some of the posts, just wanted to say after my 1st mmc at 11w af started after 2 months..not quite the 77 days but close enough. And no, even though I m not a doctor n I might have this wrong your numbers don't suggest pcos, I think the ratio between lh and fsh should be the other way round to be pcos (anyone please correct me if I m wrong). Hope it's he shows up soon for you lady.

 

[kelly1973]

hi ladies I hope you are all ok, my doctor has decieded to test to see if I ovulate this month does anyone know what day it has to be done on? I cant remember when she said oooops

 

[dan-o]

I went for a scan and baby's crl is measuring 4-5 days behind... Not entirely encouraging.

Now the usual tortuous 2 week wait...

 

[LPF]

Hi ladies,

I've got my RPL consultant appointment on Thursday but I picked up my blood test results from the GP to take with me today and saw:

FSH - 9
LH - 5

After a quick google, it looks like I'm on the verge of ovarian demise and I just want to cry. I thought I might have pcos given my symptoms but the ratio is the wrong way round for that......any hope?

 

[LeeC]

Hi all. I've been taking break from forums and social media so I have lots of catching up to do. It saddens me to see so many new names on returning here though.
It may take me a while to read back and catch up.

Hope, you know that you are constantly in my thoughts, I hope you received my card, hugs to you my lovely xx

Hugs to everyone else here too x.

 

[sportysgirl]

Hi ladies. I am deeply sorry for everybody's losses. It is a heartbreaking and emotional roller-coaster journey to be on.

I have a question and wondered if any if you would know he answer?
Following a recent miscarriage it means I have had three in 11 months, should I be seeing my gp for some help? X x

 

[ab75]

Hi sporty, after 3 you will get referred for tests to see if there is a reason for recurrent miscarriage. I can't remember what they all are tho but I am sure one of the other ladies will be able to tell you xx
Sorry for your losses xx

 

[Squig34]

Sporty - as AB said, yes, go to your GP and they can refer you for help.

Dan-o - FX for you in spite of the measuring behind, I know they don't worry if it's less than a week.

Kelly - it depends how long your cycle is, but it was probably day 22 or 23.

LPF - I think there is hope, I've heard of girls with a lower AMH than you having children. FX for you. Also a friend of mine whose was lower than yours improved hers by eating organic food, taking more exercise and reducing stress. But I believe that the figures can also vary in month, so it may not be as low as it seems