Recurrent Miscarriage Thread

[SweetV]

It's not shots sweet, it's daily tablets x

That's even better. I'm not a fan of needles lol.

 

[petitpas]

Oh sweetV, I had two steroid shots just before ds's birth but that wasn't part of the miscarriage treatment. They were so awfully painful I could never do them every day!
As Tasha said, it's just a daily tablet you need from ovulation (or bfp, depends on the doctor) until the end of first tri. When you stop you need to slowly wean off the meds.

 

[Tasha]

I had them with Honey too (after my waters broke at 28 weeks) and I was so shocked from it all that I didn't feel it the first time, second one was stingy though x

 

[SweetV]

Petitpas- that doesn't sound nearly so bad :happy dance:.

I will have to ask if my doc will do the steroids and then ask for a monitored cycle. If she is not willing to do it perhaps I will see another doctor.

I've only ever had aspirin and progesterone after BFP as well and would prefer from ovulation. I just never get pregnant when I'm suppose to.

Tasha- I also had the shots when my waters broke at 25 weeks. The first one I was in shock and didn't feel. The second one hurt so so much.

 

[floridamomma]

I have to admit this cycle being a monitor it has been a little stressful. Because you literally are aware of every second of what you should be doing and then once you are at point of where you ovulate then every day you're wondering if you got pregnant and I feel sometimes like just a little lab rat with all the meds I'm taking give myself shots every day but I know in the end of it all when I get my rainbow baby comes it'll be worth it all

 

[SweetV]

It was my monitored cycle they discovered that I had adhesions and wouldn't hold a pregnancy. I then got pregnant that cycle anyways after they stopped monitoring and told me not to

I hated the whole process but I too will do anything at this point.

DH is happy to continue trying but he doesn't want to spend any more money.

Good luck with iui

 

[floridamomma]

Sweet I know your little rainbows just waiting for the right entrance. We have to keep believing. Is there financing available? The place I go to they actually have ivf giveaways and things of that nature. They allow people to travel for them as well. Hugs your way sweet. Xx

I found out yesterday I had 11 follicles at least 12mm. I'm a little nervous as I'm being told that my cycle should have been cancelled. Just praying I get pregnant and am not put into an unsafe situation.

 

[petitpas]

Trying to beat Octomum's record?

 

[floridamomma]

Trying to beat Octomum's record?

Hey they told me I had 5-6 at the scan. I called them because I was having pain and he told me that was normal because I have 11 follicles that were at least 12 mm. All I could think was I don't want to be Alexis +11 that TV show doesn't even sound catchy lol

 

[SweetV]

florida- they do have financing as well as the new elected government is trying to get one IVF treatment covered for those that qualify. I'm on a waiting list for free treatment but they do not cover the medications.

Goodness could you imagine 11 kids!!! I would just be happy with one at this point lol.

 

[floridamomma]

I couldn't do anything with 11 kids. After all my losses it would feel like is broken even though

 

[eabwhab]

Hello Ladies,

Florida, I know monitored cycles are really stressful. I hope this is it for you! Do you have a blood test scheduled? I hope your tww will go by fast and smooth and that you will have good news soon.

Sweet, we also spent so much money while on this journey. If we decide to do another IVF we will have to ask for a loan. I hope you qualify for the free IVF, that would be great. Yes, medications is also expensive, but at least the rest will be covered. It also depends on how much you need, if you are young and with healthy ovaries it makes a big difference.

As for me, I went to the doc this morning. My uterus looks clean. Finally, I feel so relevied. I learned the baby passed on Dec. 18!! They will call me later with my HCG number. I hope it went down quite a bit, nine days ago it was still about 9000. I am anxious to go back to normal.

Hello to everybody else!

 

[floridamomma]

Ladies please forgive me in advance if this sounds terrible. My nephew my sister's first son is turning one on the 12. His parties on the 15th. My husband and I decided to take a cruise from the 13th through the 16th. February is a rough month for us as we had miscarriages from in this month and also last year had to watch my nephew be born and then 2 to 3 weeks later we lost our baby. My older sister not my nephews mom told me I was kind of selfish my younger sister who is his mom told me she'd be upset if I didn't show I tried to explain to them why I felt the way I felt. I didn't tell them how hard it was to go through that. and while my sister was pregnant and until my nephew was one-month-old I suffer three miscarriages and until today I have allowed myself to feel the pain of the anniversaries coming up. I feel so alone in this as nobody understands. I have one friend she's never had any miscarriages but she's very supportive and understanding of the way I feel. She says that should go on the cruise. What do you guys think? Am I being? selfish I try to explain to my family one time how bad my heart hurts every day even when I'm smiling how much I miss my angels I know hard it is to pretend like everything's okay. I'm crying right now as I type this

 

[ab75]

florida, go on your cruise. Your nephew is too young to know if you are at his party or not. You deserve the break. If your family don't understand then that is their problem. You need to take care of you!!! xx

 

[eabwhab]

Floridam,
I also think you should go on a cruise. It is very hard to understand if you have not experienced something similar. Your sisters might not understand your pain but nonetheless they should be supportive and FEELING your pain through your words and your feelings. Maybe you can try to explain to them one more time. You are not selfish. You need to take care of yourself and help your heart heal!

 

[floridamomma]

Waited too late. Booked up this morning. I feel so hurt and just drained and depressed

 

[dairymomma]

Florida-I know exactly how you feel. Having had 9 losses, I've had many dates that line up with baby dates for family. In fact, my 14 week loss and the resulting D&C were literally 1.5 weeks before my sister had her 2nd little boy. Because I was the only one available I had to go babysit for her while she went to the hospital to boot! And just last week, she called me to whine about how pg she felt because she was 36+6. I didn't tell her once while she was moaning and groaning about being pg that I was most likely m/c for the 9th time. I ended up m/c the same day she had her baby. It's hard. It's very hard. I've given up family doings or left from them early because of baby announcements so I totally understand why you feel the way you do. If you feel that strongly about having a holiday for yourself and DH, then do it. I highly recommend going somewhere because it honestly feels like you are leaving everything-all the fears, the worries, the anxiety, the sadness-behind you for a bi and it's immensely healing. Don't let your sisters get to you. They haven't been in your shoes and don't understand how you feel if they think it's selfish to go on a vacation instead of to a birthday party. (And really, is he going to know you aren't there? Probably not.) I don't think anyone can understand until/unless they've gone through it themselves.

 

[SweetV]

Florida you absolutely deserve to feel the way that you do. I'm so sorry that your family does not understand. I do not think you are the selfish one at all. If the cruise is booked perhaps you could do something else to get your mind off of everything? Don't torture yourself because other people expect you to be strong. May is my hard month, Multiple due dates and miscarriages in that month.

Huge . .

 

[floridamomma]

Dairy- in sorry you have similar experience thank you for the support. They just don't get how hard it is. I love my nephew but it hurts. I've miscarried on my youngest 2 lo birthdays. So even days that should bring me joy are tainted. My sister had a gender reveal and I found out that day that my baby died. I still showed up. I wish I hadn't. I felt so bitter about everything. My husband says he's going to get me away because he's worried.
Sweet- I'm sorry hon. Hugs to you as well. I don't know what is do without my bnb ladies. Even when I take a break you ladies are a strong source of strength through all of this crazy world of rmc.
Thank you ladies and hugs. I at least know I'm not wrong in my feelings

 

[SweetV]

For the first time since just after my still brith I had a total break down last night. I took a test (BFN) and I couldn't handle it. Literally sobbing. My poor DH thought he had done something wrong. I think I just needed to get it all out as I feel much better today.

How are you holding up today Florida?