Recurrent Miscarriage Thread

Thank you hmm! I praying that I can join the PARL pages. Right now I'm focused on getting my mental health back in order. As everyone in this forum knows it's hard preparing for a baby and then having that joy ripped from you for known/unknown reasons. I'm just praying that I can get through the next few weeks.

I certainly do know. Getting the referral to the RE seems to have helped me this times around. I just feel like we are finally moving on and might have more hope now. Our OB is fabulous and caring, but he ran out of options for us. I am still obsessively reading RPL blogs...I just want to be on the other side of this story. I can say I am emotionally much more stable than I was this time last year, but it is on my mind pretty much constantly.
 
I'm looking forward to the day that I'm on the other side as well. It's funny because no one else in my family has fertility issues. It's just me so there's no one to talk to which is why I'm glad I found this forum. I never knew so many women struggled with fertility. When is your RE appointment?
 
Our appointment is November 19...less than two week! We wanted to wait to be sure the hormones were completely out of my system before going. Luckily, I took a test three days ago that was negative. We were lucky to be able to get a quick appointment. I am feeling positive about this and better than after the last loss, but that didn't stop me from having a complete breakdown to the DH last night when we were supposed to be having a nice evening at home together...
 
It's okay to break down every now and again. One never thinks that something we're built to do would come easy for some and is hard for others. There are a ton of emotions involved throughout the process. Is your DH supportive and understanding?
 
It's okay to break down every now and again. One never thinks that something we're built to do would come easy for some and is hard for others. There are a ton of emotions involved throughout the process. Is your DH supportive and understanding?

He is wonderful. I am very lucky to have a supportive husband and family. I don't talk too much about all of this with the family because they don't understand, but the DH has been by my side through thick and thin for 10 years and we have gone through these 3 losses together the last year. I know I am lucky for that, and I am thankful.

I made the mistake of looking at the Virginia department of social services webpage last night, and now I can't stop thinking we should stop trying and adopt. There is a group of 4 brother (1-12) who need a stable home, and I would love to provide that for them. DH is not on the same page when it comes to that, but that's because he worries he won't have patience for the difficulties that will inevitably come with adopting an adolescent. I came from a family of three girls, and I am the only biological child. I am confident we will adopt at least one child, but I don't know when DH will be ready to adopt an older child (if he ever is.)

Do you have a supportive partner?
 
It's wonderful that you have a very supportive spouse. Most people in extended family don't understand unless they've been there too. Adoption is a wonderful thought! I have friends that are adopted and I have friends that have worked and are working for various departments of child services. It's very rewarding to give a child a loving home regardless of what age they are. At the end of the day they just want a loving stable home.

As for me my partner decided that he wanted to leave. This was after I found out I was pregnant. I was already high risk and all of the stress was too much for me to bare and I lost the baby at 7 1/2 weeks. We had a loss earlier this year and I'm don't think he recovered from that and on top of that his mother passed away from cancer. So as a result of all the stress and back to back losses I was diagnosed with postpartum depression.
 
I am sorry to hear you are going through so many things at once. I'm sure it was difficult for your partner to lose so much, but that doesn't make it better for you. I just heard a story about many couples have trouble after one loses a parent. Do you have any other family nearby?
 
Yes my mother and sister live 30 minutes away. It really took a toll on the both of us. I thought that we would get through it but unfortunately we didn't survive all the loss. So right now I'm focusing on me and my health.
 
I just made a thread about this but wanted to share here in case it helps someone. I had two losses this year, The first at 5 weeks 5 days and the second at 5 weeks. All my tests (clotting, hormones, 3d uktrasound of uterus etc) came back normal. I do have two autoimmune diseases though, and I highly suspect my losses were due to them. I saw a naturopath who specializes in fertility issues and she put me on 600mg coq10, 2 pills of Wobenzym Plus, and 1200mg NAC. Once I got my positive I stopped the coq10, stayed on Wobenzym, and went down to 600mg NAC and started baby aspirin. Anyway, Im only 8.5 weeks so no gaurantees yet, but so far Ive had no issues and things seem to be going well. I wanted to share this as Ive seen lots about baby aspirin on here but not much about the wobenzym and NAC. This is a link to some stidies on NAC https://sites.google.com/site/miscar...cetyl-cysteine
And you can find info and studies if you google Wobenzym and miscarriages.
I hope this helps someone else out there.
Hugs to all the ladies who find themselves here :hugs:
 
Just a quick update as it's been a long while since I last posted here...After talking to my uncle-who has been hit with every genetic whammy in our family tree it seems-I asked my current dr for a referral to a genetic counselor. He sent me to a hematologist who specializes in women with RMC and/or bleeding issues and if this dr can't help me, there are a few genetic counselors who work within the same clinic that I can see later on. I'm currently waiting to hear when my appt will be with the hematologist but they need my hospital records before they schedule me so Monday I am sending off the referral/release form and get this ball rolling.
 
Hi ladies
I am going through my 3rd miscarriage in 19 months with no children.
I am going to see my GP next week to start the process of being referred to a specialist. Hoping this wont take forever, but I'm guessing it depends on how busy they are. I am in the UK so will be going through the NHS.
Have any of you other ladies started testing. What tests have you had? I want to prepare myself so I know what to expect.
Sorry that you all find yourself in this position too. It's so frustrating and just feel the need to have some kind of answer.
 
Sorry you're going through this. I also just experienced my third miscarriage. I had a D&C on Friday.

I had a bunch of testing done after my second one (in the US). They did blood tests for thyroid, the clotting disorder, and DH and I both had chromosomal testing. I also had a hsg to see if I had any uterus issues. Everything came back normal, so right now we're just struggling with unexplained recurrent miscarriages.
 
Hi michellebelle. Thank you for your reply and sorry you you have also had to go through this 3 times. I am back to the clinic on Tuedday to confirm baby's heart has now stopped (was only 40bpm and measuring 10 days behind). I too will be opting for another D&C.

We only get teste after 3 here but I was tested for anti phospholipid antibodies after my second as my cousin has the disorder. That all came back clear.

How strange that the results can all come back clear but you still miscarry. Have they given you any options or they they just tell you to carry on trying?
 
They are doing testing on the tissue from the D&C to see if they can determine anything from that. Otherwise, I'm not sure. We're supposed to meet with my doc in a couple of weeks to discuss next steps.
 
Hopefully they find something. Fingers crossed for you. I need to ask for our pregnancy tissue to be tested too, I'm sure they will automatically now anyway being its the magic number 3 😞 Can't believe they make women go through this 3 times over here before anything is done. Makes me so mad.
Hope all goes well with your doctor. Please keep me updated. Hope your recovering well from you D &C too :flower:
 
Welcome and I'm sorry you find yourself here. I've had several losses and most of my testing has come back normal. I've been tested for the rH factor, thyroid function (several times), FSH, progesterone, something to do with blood sugars?, basic clotting disorders, a few autoimmune disorders, STDs, and most recently, a genetic mutation called MTHFR. My history has been that my progesterone levels are on the lowest end of the 'normal' bracket for the first tri so I supplement from bfp to 14 weeks, I tend to bleed in the first tri whether it's a rainbow or not, I've had an unusual amount of blighted ovum pregnancies, and I tend to miscarry between 7 and 10 weeks (I've had one loss at 14 weeks). I have no 'official' diagnosis aside from the low progesterone and about six months ago I found out I have two bad copies of the MTHFR gene. My current treatment plan is progesterone supplements from bfp to 14 weeks, high dose folate daily, and I'll be on blood thinning injections with my next pregnancy. I'm also possibly going to be on low dose steroids.

I learned that my particular MTHFR mutation causes folate deficiency as well as a few other issues (possibly clotting issues) so I started the high dose folate supplement to help with that. However, I also recently found out that there is a whole host of hereditary issues that have started to come to light on one side of my family and because of these issues, my doctor felt it would be best if I was referred to someone with a bit more knowledge on inherited disorders than he has. I see a hematologist in April (due to the bleeding in my first tri, my dr and I have long suspected an unknown clotting issue as well as possibly unknown autoimmune issues even though testing has come back negative for both. this dr would also know more about some of the hereditary heart issues I'm finding out are strongly linked to my family tree and my MTHFR mutation so it only makes sense to talk to him.) and after that meeting, I may be referred to a genetic counselor as well. However, it's been a long road to this point and after 10 miscarriages thus far-even with my 3 miraculous rainbow babies-I'm quickly approaching my limits. We're waiting to try until after I've met with the hematologist and the genetic counselor (if it comes to that) but my next pregnancy is likely my last. I want to know I tried everything possible to get to term one last time before I say 'enough is enough' and I want answers not only for myself but for my kids since many of my issues are looking to be hereditary.

I do want to add though that your issues are not likely to be as difficult as mine and you may find out it's a relatively easy 'fix'. Something as simple as adding progesterone supplements or high dose folate may be all it takes for you to get to term. I hope that's all it is for you and that you don't need to go through any further heartache. But no matter what, this thread is amazing and the women here are supportive, knowledgeable (sometimes more so than the doctor), and understanding. Feel free to vent away anytime.
 
Dairymomma
Thank you so much for you reply and for sharing your story.
I can't begin to imagine how much heartache you have been through. You have been through so much. Life really is not fair.
I am glad that you have your rainbows, you must hug them so tight every day and feel so blessed to have them with you.
Your issues do sound very complex, but there is always hope especially with modern medicine. I pray that you will have your 4th rainbow baby :hugs:
I am going in for my D&C on Thursday and they are going to do some genetic testing on the pregnancy tissue. I am seeing my GP later on to to get our refferal underway as I know it will take a while.
I still have hope but I just fear the unknown. Really hope we get some answers. If not we will be going to a private clinic for further testing
 
So sorry for your losses.

I am in UK and my doctor referred me to Professor Quenby at Birmingham Heartlands Hospital. ( she refereed me after 1 MC due to my age - 40 - plus another MC 3 years previously)

She did a number if standard tests which were all clear. I was also tested for uNK killer cells (came back clear but I already had 3 children)

uNK killer cells can quite often cause recurrent miscarriage in first timers. Basically the body sees the baby as a foreign body and attacks it. If you have raised levels of uNK cells, it can be resolved by taking steroids.

My results were all clear, but I think age was the factor with me. I did get my rainbow shortly after this after being prescribed progesterone and clexane.
 
Hiya.
I have heard of NK cells. My cousin had three losses and found that this was the cause. She is now expecting again and has far got to 14 weeks with treatment.
I said to DH that if all comes back clear on NHS we will get private testing for NK cells as I don't think they test for it in my area.

I have also heard of progesterone being a problem too. What is clexane?

Glad you got your rainbow in the end. I won't give up hope. I will be a mum one day :flower:
 
Thank you. Yeah, it's been hard and I've struggled ALOT at times (I've been diagnosed with post-partum depression and PTSD because of my losses) but knowing we're finally figuring things out is HUGE for me.

I hope you get some answers as well. I did want to mention I've never been tested for NK cells but I'm in the US and very few doctors here feel it's an issue but I'm pushing for steroids in case it is my problem. Also, clexane is just another name for blood thinners. You may have heard it called heparin or lovenox but it's a blood thinning medication that you inject and for some women, it helps. I'm going to be on heparin injections the next time because we've long suspected I have a clotting issue but it's currently unknown and the baby aspirin I've taken in my previous pregnancies isn't enough anymore.
 

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