Religion & your LO

[Nimyra]

My son is not christened I want him to make up his own mind when he is old enough. though where i live you need to be to get into schools, we have one mixed primary school he can get into and no secondary schools so by then I am sure he will have made his mind up. Dont care if anyone else does it. My family arnt happy with me at all over it but we arnt religious.

I've never heard of areas where you have to be Christened to go to school... what if you are Jewish or Muslim or Buddhist? Your public schools discriminate based on religion?

 

[louandivy]

My son is not christened I want him to make up his own mind when he is old enough. though where i live you need to be to get into schools, we have one mixed primary school he can get into and no secondary schools so by then I am sure he will have made his mind up. Dont care if anyone else does it. My family arnt happy with me at all over it but we arnt religious.

I've never heard of areas where you have to be Christened to go to school... what if you are Jewish or Muslim or Buddhist? Your public schools discriminate based on religion?

I went to a very high ranked state Christian secondary school and most girls had to be christened to get a place, a very small group (including me) were accepted on a non-Church place. Its pretty bad actually.

 

[EmyDra]

My son is not christened I want him to make up his own mind when he is old enough. though where i live you need to be to get into schools, we have one mixed primary school he can get into and no secondary schools so by then I am sure he will have made his mind up. Dont care if anyone else does it. My family arnt happy with me at all over it but we arnt religious.

I've never heard of areas where you have to be Christened to go to school... what if you are Jewish or Muslim or Buddhist? Your public schools discriminate based on religion?

In Northern Ireland I've heard of people asking if you are a Catholic Jew or a Protestant Jew. No joke.

In England when I was at school my RE was really interesting and diverse. In N.Ireland, despite going into the next year I ONLY got information on Christianity. It was a conversion subject rather than a relevent one.

I would say it's less than 1% non-white non-catholic/protestant in N.I. Honestly, so when the rare cases of other religions do come up there is probably a way to sort it.

Coming to this country is probably what genuinely caused me to lose my beliefs and my faith.

 

[Natasha2605]

We're neither so are not bringing up Summer with any particular religious beliefs, she can choose when she's older if she wants to xx

 

[vaniilla]

I'm pagan and oh is an atheist, we won't be bringing up lo religious, we believe its something personal and that if he does decide to become religious when he's older he's got to arrive there on his own rather then be pushed or swayed, we have a few relatives that want us to baptize him but is not going to happen!

 

[Dragonfly]

My son is not christened I want him to make up his own mind when he is old enough. though where i live you need to be to get into schools, we have one mixed primary school he can get into and no secondary schools so by then I am sure he will have made his mind up. Dont care if anyone else does it. My family arnt happy with me at all over it but we arnt religious.

I've never heard of areas where you have to be Christened to go to school... what if you are Jewish or Muslim or Buddhist? Your public schools discriminate based on religion?

Catholic schools you have to be christened to go to. And there are no muslims of jews really here if there are they go to an integrated schools which are few and far between. One primary school will take all here, my Other half went there and he had to be christened later on so he could go to a local high school. Thats onlyt reason most get it done here my mum has had this row with me before my son was even born about what school he goes to and how he needs christened. I think its like blackmail. They dont educate on all religions in schools here which is what annoys me .

 

[Dragonfly]

My son is not christened I want him to make up his own mind when he is old enough. though where i live you need to be to get into schools, we have one mixed primary school he can get into and no secondary schools so by then I am sure he will have made his mind up. Dont care if anyone else does it. My family arnt happy with me at all over it but we arnt religious.

I've never heard of areas where you have to be Christened to go to school... what if you are Jewish or Muslim or Buddhist? Your public schools discriminate based on religion?

In Northern Ireland I've heard of people asking if you are a Catholic Jew or a Protestant Jew. No joke.

In England when I was at school my RE was really interesting and diverse. In N.Ireland, despite going into the next year I ONLY got information on Christianity. It was a conversion subject rather than a relevent one.

I would say it's less than 1% non-white non-catholic/protestant in N.I. Honestly, so when the rare cases of other religions do come up there is probably a way to sort it.

Coming to this country is probably what genuinely caused me to lose my beliefs and my faith.

I agree and I lived here all my life to. You get taught your religion is the right one and none other exist. I had so much crap told to me when I was young when I realised it was all threats I turned my back on it. Thats not a way to go on about religion at all I dont think. And I was taught by nuns. I want my son to learn about more, what others believe and how to respect them not that one is right and everyone is wrong. Causes so much conflict and I think we all had enough of that. I think after seeing so many years or conflict I cant be blamed for turning my back on religion in this country either.

 

[cbmommy]

It's funny I just found this thread because religion has been quite the topic of conversation in my family the past few days. I am Jewish and DH is Catholic. I am not religious at all and infact I don't believe in God. I of course would not push those beliefs onto my son though. He can make up his own mind as he gets older. And if he has the beliefs still then great! We felt as though choosing one religion for our son to be brought up in was important. DH felt pretty strong about raising him Catholic. So that is what we're doing. I'm not 100% thrilled about it. But this isn't about me. This is about my son. We are actually going to get him baptised as well. My Dad is a very religous man and he was not pleased at all when I told him we weren't going to raise our son Jewish. Infact he just about flipped out. But he really has no right. This is OUR child. So it's been tough. But my parents are just going to have to get over it. This just isn't their choice. I do find important to give a child a path and teach them about a specific religion. And like I said earlier.. they can make other choices later in life if they'd like.

 

[Dee_H]

I'm Wiccan and DH is atheist. We plan on exposing Rian to various religions when she gets older and let her decide on her own what she wants to do and what works for her.

 

[Szaffi]

I'm Catholic and OH is not affiliated, but isn't exactly atheist either. My family is pretty religious though, and we had a Catholic wedding, so OH already undertook to baptize any kids we have. So DD was baptized at 6 months old. It was a lovely family occasion.

I take her to church also already, she loves to see the lots of kids and the music. I am planning to take her - it's an English speaking community in belgium, so it's not only about the faith, but also about finding friends with her 'father' tongue (me myself am not native English), they run scouts groups, etc.

However, anytime she decides she doesn't want to go, I definitely won't force her.

 

[Jchihuahua]

I come from a religious catholic family and went to a convent school run by nuns but I am not personally religious myself at all and neither is hubby so we are not bringing Daisy up to be religious. She can make her own choices when she's old enough. We're having a naming ceremony rather than a christening for her.

 

[mommyof3co]

We are just now becoming more religious. We were both brought up in church but we spent the last almost 10yrs just trying to figure out what we believe. We have recently joined a church that we really love and the boys are attending too. Our church doesn't christen or baptise babies but you can have them dedicated...more just welcoming them to the church but it's not a commitment of any kind which I would be fine with doing, but as far as anything else we would wait until they are old enough to make the decision on their own. None of the boys have been baptized and won't until they make that decision

 

[emsiee]

We got Jess christened 2 weeks ago...I believe you have the right to choose your childs faith as a parent, I was brought up that way and will bring Jess up the same way. We are all C of E and Jess will be brought up that way too.

Christening a child in my eyes, is the celebration of life and a promise to God...hence the reasons for getting her baptised.

 

[Lover]

My mum didn't have me baptized when I was a baby and I'm glad she didn't because I'm not religious at all. I will let my child decide when he or she is older if they want to believe in a religion. They will always have the choice (as children) to go to church on Sundays with my mum too.

 

[Mrs RC]

We are just now becoming more religious. We were both brought up in church but we spent the last almost 10yrs just trying to figure out what we believe. We have recently joined a church that we really love and the boys are attending too. Our church doesn't christen or baptise babies but you can have them dedicated...more just welcoming them to the church but it's not a commitment of any kind which I would be fine with doing, but as far as anything else we would wait until they are old enough to make the decision on their own. None of the boys have been baptized and won't until they make that decision

We had Lucas dedicated too - but lit was more than a welcome into the church. We said thank you to God for him and then promised as Christian parents to bring him up in a loving Christian family with the hope and expectation that he will come to know Jesus as his own personal saviour and be baptised when he is older.

X

 

[beatnick]

I was brought up quite christian but never really carried it into adulthood. i think i liked church as my two friends went!!

since loosing a member of my family i have turned to the spiritualist church. it doesnt really have a religious denomination. i would like LO to be quite spiritual but i would never force a religion on him.

we are not having him christened as we went to a christening a year ago and realised it just wasnt "us". since joining the spiritualist church i feel even further away from my original christianity.

 

[aob1013]

OH and I are not religious. If we were we still wouldn't christen Leni as i don't believe it is up to us to decide what religion he will be. He can make that decision for himself.

 

[mummy3]

Our children will be mainly raised jewish, we have christian relatives also though so a xmas tree will be had lol.

 

[jenny82]

I hmm-ed and haa-ed over this for months but in the end, we decided not to get LO christianed. OH & I were both brought up catholic but don't practise it at all. I felt it would be very hypocritical to go to church and agree to bring LO up catholic and agree to everything else when we know we won't actually follow through with it.

I know that this means he won't attend a catholic school but tbh this doesn't really bother me at all (just bothers my mum). I would prefer it if he went to an integrated school anyway.

 

[smokey]

Brian is baptised and will be attending a catholic school along with sunday school.
When he is older if he wishes to change his faith or not practice it then that will be completly his choice but I feel as a young child it is my responsability to make these choices for him for now and for him to attend as part of the family.

Ill supprt what ever he wants to do religion wise though when hes older