Sad that I can't get pregnant

[BlueWater]

How do you handle when someone else is pregnant and you're not?

A colleague at work is pregnant - 6 weeks - while I'm happy for her, it's all I hear her talk about. And I can't avoid her, as I work directly in a team with her. It was her first month of trying.

It's making me want to have a baby so bad - but we can't force it to happen for us. We're going on 2 years or so of trying.

I'm beginning to feel some resentment against this colleague, because she got pregnant so quick and I haven't. But deep inside I feel sad, sad that it's not happening to me. I feel confused too. And a bit hopeless.

How do I handle my colleague being pregnant when I'm not?

 

[cameragirly]

Hello and hugs.

its really hard. I've just had 3 announcements in the last week. It's been 18 months for us. I'm focusing on the success stories, remaining positive and telling myself if others around me can fall pregnant- some after long battles than why not me too.
My doctor is remaining hopeful for us and I feel were finally on the right track and getting somewhere.

Some fall easily and others it's a journey, try to not let it get you down. I'm also a fan of trying new things so I always have a bit of hope for the month! This month it's preseed!

Stay strong and baby dust to you xx

 

[navywag]

I know it's so hard but please don't give up hope, your baby just isn't ready yet!
I was ttc for nearly 5 years

 

[navywag]

Was down to male fertility issues, we were meant to start icsi megs in the Jan as fertility specialist said that's the only way we would cave a chance, but low and behold, bfp in the October! My son is now 11 months old and we are ttc no 3, hoping it won't take us long this time!! X

 

[Essjay86]

There really is no easy answer, Two of my friends are pregnant and one of them I work with and sit two seats away from her. She is 19 and it was unexpected so it makes it even more frustrating doesn't it. And the other friend it was her first month of trying for number 2!
Like Camergirly says, sometimes you just have to try new things or try to remember there is help out there if you need it. I'm on cycle 2 of clomid. and i've been trying for around 2 years. But I know the time will come. I feel like I am getting closer.
It'll happen for you hun xx

 

[BlueWater]

Thanks so much to everyone who has replied, thanks for sharing your story.

your baby just isn't ready yet!
I love this ^^^^

 

[missk1989]

It is really hard I know someone who had her first when my lo was oneish and in september is due her second. She has had two since my lo was born nearly 3 years ago and we are still waiting.

 

[brokenoven]

You likely just need some assistance. Find out what's causing your infertility because infertility is not just bad luck and it's not "normal". If you're not conceiving, there is a reason why, even if some doctors say it's " unexplained". Unexplained just means they haven't found out why. But once you find out what the problem is, you can do things to help it. It could be something simple. Best of luck girl and I hope you feel better.