SAHM or Career Mom?

[Wnt2beAMom]

Hey,
This may be a sensitive subject but it is such a toughy....I'm really getting my career going now but will be TTC in April. I'm worried now about being pregnant on the job and what work will think....
DH and I talk a lot about whether I will go back to work or not after the one year mat leave too. I really feel a sense of my self identity in work and love it, but DH isn't too fond of the idea of day care.....His career is really taking off too and he thinks he will be able to support us just on his earnings.

He even said last night maybe we could just be that couple that makes lots of money and uses it for travel and doing fun stuff vs. raising kids It made me sad but kinda felt some part of me agreeing since I like working. I don't want to give anything up....In a perfect life I could have happy kids even while we both work and take family vacations...

any advise or personal stories?

 

[ForeverAutumn]

Your hubbys suggestion is great for the short term but what happens when youre older, too late to have kids n you regret it? Theres time I wish I could go on holiday and buy myself nice stuff but then I know I have all that to come when my babys older, so we get to have the best of both eventually.

Theres lots of career women at my place who are also mums. I dont personally agree with putting your kid in full time day nursery so you can go to work. Im going back part time, and when hes older i'll up my hours or apply for a full time position in the same company.

 

[Wnt2beAMom]

Thanks for the reply

Your hubbys suggestion is great for the short term but what happens when youre older, too late to have kids n you regret it?

Ya that is what I said to him...but we are still young, me 23 DH 25 birthdays in June and April respectively. He thinks more along the lines of NTNP so when it happens it happens and if it doesn't happen too quickly then we just make the most of it with doing fun travel things and such. I'm sure I would go back part time and increase hours as kids get older, but with my career right now I don't think it is possible to be part-time. I would have to take a demotion or get a completely different job.
I guess the main thing right now is to live in the moment. I'm bad at always having to plan the future and all the different paths to navigate to get where you plan to be down the road.

 

[Vesta]

I've found going part time was a good compromise for me. I get to continue working but I don't feel like I'm missing out.

 

[Pearls18]

I'm a working mum through choice not necessity and love it, we don't need to pick any more. I work 4 days a week which is a great compromise for me but would choose full time work and being a mum over SAHM. DS thrives in nursery, he loves going, I feel lucky for being able to give him that experience. I also study part time for a masters. There is no such thing as the perfect family dynamic, happy parents breed happy children, if that means work, work.