mylittlebubs
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We never have saving money, if we did not much and not for long maybe a few months and it's all gone...
I;m not pushing the responsibility to oh coz now we are couple but i know before i met him i was a good saver..but since i stay at home and oh 's earning the money and all income basically he never put in the saving account...
last year he got into this business that gave him really good salary that he could have saved over 1k a month but he never did...i told him that how much expenses we have each month and when he got paid salary he should put the rest in the bank but he said he wanted to enjoy life and go out and have good time (drinking,eat out a lot and go out all the time and he always offered to pay for his friend for many meals and also he likes to buy new things as soon as he has money )
we've been in a this situation for a long time and the past few months has been really bad, i told him he has to learn to live without new things coz we used to have a lot less than what we have now and was very happy..but every time he buys new things...
2 weeks ago he got a few good customers and made good money but that should be enough for 4-5 weeks but when he got money he went and bought new computer stuffs that cost almost £100
the thing is i think he;s used to having what he wants all the time from his mom and still is coz if he emails his mom and tells her he wants something she would give him
my mom told me i have to try to save money and not tell him coz he just want to spend it if the money he's got in his account is gone..so i started for a couple of months now...
i keep it a secret ....i don't have income but when i have to buy food i always have some change and i put that in a secret account ..it's going quite well and he never notice it so i hope it works coz i think saving money is important in a long-term
I;m not pushing the responsibility to oh coz now we are couple but i know before i met him i was a good saver..but since i stay at home and oh 's earning the money and all income basically he never put in the saving account...
last year he got into this business that gave him really good salary that he could have saved over 1k a month but he never did...i told him that how much expenses we have each month and when he got paid salary he should put the rest in the bank but he said he wanted to enjoy life and go out and have good time (drinking,eat out a lot and go out all the time and he always offered to pay for his friend for many meals and also he likes to buy new things as soon as he has money )
we've been in a this situation for a long time and the past few months has been really bad, i told him he has to learn to live without new things coz we used to have a lot less than what we have now and was very happy..but every time he buys new things...
2 weeks ago he got a few good customers and made good money but that should be enough for 4-5 weeks but when he got money he went and bought new computer stuffs that cost almost £100
the thing is i think he;s used to having what he wants all the time from his mom and still is coz if he emails his mom and tells her he wants something she would give him
my mom told me i have to try to save money and not tell him coz he just want to spend it if the money he's got in his account is gone..so i started for a couple of months now...
i keep it a secret ....i don't have income but when i have to buy food i always have some change and i put that in a secret account ..it's going quite well and he never notice it so i hope it works coz i think saving money is important in a long-term