Scared of having another MMC!

[Chimpette]

I just found out i'm pregnant again after being told we had a MMC in Dec 09. I had a D & C in Jan and now i'm terrified that I'm going to have another Missed Miscarriage...

I know I should stay calm, but I just can't stop thinking about it....

 

[leigh75]

hey, i know exactly how youre feeling....congrats by the way,
i had a mc in jan and have conceived straight after with no period, and am also really anxious, i had my mc at about 5+1, so i feel a bit better now that i have passed that date, but still nervous. I have booked a private scan on the 17th march, when i will be about 8 weeks, hoping everything will be ok, i do feel different on this one, i have really bad morning sickness, but i didnt get that far on my previous. How many weeks were you when you mc? Perhaps you may feel a bit better when you get past this stage? but i still feel like im 'touvhing wood' over everything.

 

[Chimpette]

I was 9 weeks when we found out, but baby only measured 6. I didn't have any sickness but then I didn't have any with my son either so I didn't really think anything about it.

I'm not having any sickness with this one either, but I do feel differently about this one as well, so hoping that all will be ok. I have a reassurance scan on the 1st April, so counting down the days until then....

Good luck with your scan, i'm sure everything will be fine

xxx

 

[sue247]

Hi CHimpette, i feel the same way. I am almost 5 weeks. I had a MMC in Dec. I am also so scared that it will happen again. It is hard to relax and stop thinking about it! I was considering a short break or something to take my mind off things before i go mad! I will try and get an early scan around 7 - 8 weeks. With my MMC i had a early scan at 6w 2d and all was ok and baby had a heart beat so i want to do it later this time. Are you planning an early scan?

 

[Chimpette]

Hi Sue,

Glad I'm not alone!

Yeah I'm having one at just over 7 weeks on the 1st April, but it's 3 looooooong weeks away...! Still I'm just gonna have to try and keep myself busy until then.

xx

 

[sue247]

That is the best thing. Just to try and keep busy! Are you not having any symptoms? I am not having any really. I try not let that worry me as i have never really had symptoms in pregnany. I usually get MS later, around 6 weeks. Have you been to your doctor and arranged the scan already? I have not been to see my doctor yet. I am just so nervous this time i had not planned to even go and see the doctor for a few weeks (last time i was so excited i went to see him before i was even 4 weeks! The same when i was pregnant with my son)

 

[Chimpette]

Hi Sue,

We have quite alot in common, both had a MMC in Dec 09, both already have a son, and both called Sue.. well I'm Susan, but close enough.. haha!

I'm not having any except for being tired and hungry, but then I didn't have any symptoms with my son until my 4th month which is when I got morning sickness for about 2 weeks and then nothing.

I went to the doctors yesterday, he was really nice and arranged my early scan for me, said I could have it when I wanted, so I chose 7 weeks as baby died at 6 weeks last time. Fingers crossed everything will be ok.

I must say that last time I thought I might miscarry, I can't put my finger on why, I had a dream about it one night and then I actually started spotting and was sent for a scan the day before xmas eve which is when we were told the bad news...

I don't think I could bare going all through that again.. all the heartache!

I hope your doing ok???

xx

 

[sue247]

I was about to suggest being buddies. Would be nice to have another buddie who is going through the same thing to talk to and help each other get through it. Yes, we have a lot in common even down to when we had out MMC. (Although my name is Tracey, not Sue lol). Still, would love to be buddies.

Like you i get tired and a bit hungrier but that is it. I don't have sore boobs as people always talk about, but i never have (they might tingle a bit later on)... I think 7 weeks is a good time to have a scan, everything i have read (i wish i did not do so much reading as thinking about it so much just ends up getting you more worried!) suggest if there is a hb around then the risks go down. Last time i saw the hb at 6 w 2days and the baby died at 6 wk 4 d. So a scan will help but i wont relax probably until nearer the 12 week mark.

Fx crossed this is our year and we will have healthy babies in November!!

Is your OH supportive with you being anxious? My Oh tries but does not really understand.

 

[eckarta]

I think that anyone that has a miscarriage feels this way.. i kept telling myself i just have to get past that 7 week mark where i lost baby last time... i dont know if its even possible to have a miscarriage at the exact same time.. but it made myself feel better... its a stressful trimester to go thru.. wanting everything to work out and knowing its not in your hands... just try to be as positive as you can.. and im jealous that you guys arent sick.. im horribly sick.. not so much throwing up but just nothing tastes or sits right.. so be thankful for that!!! best of luck!!!

 

[Chimpette]

Oh sorry just thought it was Sue because of your sign on.. haha!

No boobie action for me either, I think that's why I'm so anxious because on the reading i've done they say your more likely to miscarry if you don't have any symptoms... WT...!!!!

I'm sorry for what happened in your last pregnancy, I can't imagine going and seeing the heartbeat and then finding out about a MMC, it must have been horrific for you..!

Not really, he tries but then I think he gets bored with me talking about it, the other day he even said to me that I'm he doesn't understand how his mum can have 6 babies all fine and do everything that needs doing, when I'm not doing anything (as I now refuse to iron, hoover or carry heavy things, I guess because my last pregnancy I still did all those things, I was even in the loft getting down the xmas dec's...), I said that's the way it is, don't like it... tough!!! haha! He's usually good so he must have been having a bad day or something.. LOL

I think the problem is men just don't understand all the hormones and worries that come along with pregnancy.

xx

 

[sue247]

I am the same, i am not lifting anything heavy!! I am tying to avoid lifting my son too much too.

 

[Chimpette]

Oh my god how funny me too. How old is your son?? Mine is 20 months but he's very heavy, i'm not sure why as he isn't fat, just very tall and very solid. His dad (my husband) is Fijian so I guess I'm always gonna have big rugby playing boys, or lovely dancing girls.. haha!

Where abouts are you in London, we live near Windsor

xx

 

[sue247]

My son is 3. His dad is West Indian. We are both quite small people so think he won't be a huge child. I need to go and bath my LO I will send you a PM later.