Scared of reactions!

[becstar4]

Anyone else worried about telling parents/friends,

I still live at home and am in a fairly new relationship an am scared my mum will freak out!

How and when am i meant to tell her?

Becca x

 

[lilprince]

First off, CONGRATS!!!!!
I know when I told my mom when I was pregnant with my first (VERY new relationship, I was young) it was a moment I will never forget. I was on the phone and after a long conversation I asked if she wanted to be called Grandma or Amma? There was the LONGEST pause of my life..... But she quietly said 'Amma". It was scary but it had to be done and no matter what the initial reaction is know in your heart they will absolutely LOVE your baby...

 

[MissFox]

I told my mom (which was probably the scariest person to tell for me!) by asking her how long it took for her to loose the baby weight from my little brother. She just tilted her head and looked at me and was like YOU'RE PREGNANT?!!? She was very happy- did her hair and makeup that day so she could say she was a GILF.

 

[Sevenladybugs]

Hi Becca I'm sure it will be a shock for your mom, but if you wait too long you might start to make her suspicious because of symptoms. I'd just tell her after your 1st real Dr visit and get it out of the way so you can focus on enjoying your pregnancy. Chances are after she gets used to the idea she will be happy for you.

 

[thepurlqueen]

well we are waiting a little longer just because I want to make sure everything is ok, but I am a little nervous about telling people.

Only because this baby will be our fifth and I got stupid comments and looks when we announced our fourth, so I am not expecting much better. I don't really care what other people think, but I am so sensitive and hormonal I am certainly not ready for the rude comments either!

Everyone is right. Even if your mom freaks out, once she gets used to the idea she will be so happy to be a grandma and she will love your baby no matter what she thinks about you, your relationship, etc. Good Luck hun!

 

[meow951]

I didn't live at home the first time but my mum is quite traditional in the fact she thinks its better to be married first.

I was quite worried as i'm 19 but i've been with OH for 4 and half years.

She just looked at me and cried with happiness. I think that most parents are just shocked and usually come around to it once they've mulled it over. And definately when they see their gorgeous grandchild!

If i was you i'd try not to make it into a big thing and a negative thing IYKWIM? Just be positive and i'm sure it will be fine.

They'll find out for themselves in a few months anyway haha

 

[libbymarks198]

i am going to wait until i am 12 weeks to tell my mum she is going to nut it at me she did last time and she actually liked OH then she hates him now..

i am just going to write a letter i dont live at home so i will just stay out of her way for as long as possible afterwards i am so scared but i know in the end she will be happy and love the baby to pieces, i know she wont help out money wise and she used to but it caused us to fight more.. i am just scared its going to be twins and then she is really going to spit it because we can only just afford one

 

[becstar4]

Think I'll wait a week or so,after doc appt sounds a good idea!, I'm sure she will be fine after she has come round,I know she will just be worried about how we'll manage financially,and she thinks i'm to young,(she even asked if i was on the pill like a week ago i just said yes an ran in my room!haha) But my Boyf has just got a new job and is very enthusiastic about it all which was such a relief!

She will be very pleased at being a grandma though , my sister has kids but they fell out an she's not seen them in a year.

x

 

[MilosMommy7]

when i was pregnant with the LO me and my OH went into his mom's room before bed and he told her. (i was still living between his house and my parents house). then a few days later she took us to get tested at a clinic. after that meeting she called my mom to have a cigarette with her, and she told her. i was too scared because my dad is super strict about boys in general plus he didnt like my OH at the time.
i plan on telling her this time. i just dont know when. my OH's parents know already. they wanted a second one but my mom thinks it is too soon (LO is 10 months).

 

[Lamsbump]

First of all tell her when you are ready.
We found about a week before we told anyone as we wanted to just have it as a secret for our selves.

 

[janinexo]

Telling my parents was the hardest thing for me, I told them straight away. I tested on the Saturday, and told them on the Monday. My Mum & Dad were not pleased when I initially told them (I live at home too). Mum is really supportive and is helping me out, whereas my Dad is still being a little cold about the whole situation, but coming around slowly. I think most parents have the same reaction, shock! I think they were more worried about my career more than anything as I had just applied to do my PGCE but now, I've had to defer.

 

[Nev23]

I was scared about telling people too, but everyone has been over the moon and super super excited! No one could really say anything as we are adults, we have our own house and both have good jobs.

 

[ladym33]

I was scared of telling my parents and I am 34, i am now almost 7months and i have only been with my OH for 11 months they were over the moon though and really please for me.....my dad was a little less happy as i am still his little girl, but now they both cant wait

 

[happybeany]

How old are you flower? I bet they will be fine, it's a very exciting time! I am 22, newly married and I found out.. told my parents the next day - they are overjoyed and I bet yours will be too xxx

 

[Steph63]

I hope it goes better than you anticipate

 

[becstar4]

Hey, Thanks for the responses. its nice to get some ideas on how to break this 1 to her!, I know i'll feel better for telling her,I'm generally quite rubbish at keeping secrets! Will wait till i'm ready and let you know how it goes

x

 

[Crazy4Emily]

I think i would wait until the 12 week mark. I mean, there is no reason to tell them earlier if they are going to go insane. Especially if your Mom wants to talk you round to other options. Tell them when YOU feel comfortable telling. Otherwise, it's not really her business. (although personally, i'd be saving every penny from now until then becaue my parents would have kicked me out) YOU know your parents best. If you think that's even a possibility I'd start selling some stuff on ebay or whatever and have a little stockpile of $$ to go somewhere...or have a plan b to live with your OH or a good friend. I'm just saying, get your ducks in a row first. Then if your parents are over the moon about it, no harm done. I hope they are really happy. A new baby should be happy news!!

 

[Cazamatazaaa]

aww hey hun!
i was 18 when I fell pregnant with dd, my dad hated my boyfriend lol and always swore he wouldnt want me there if I got pregnant so young, I was so scared it made me ill! in the end I wrote him a letter and stayed out till he read i and rang me, he said he was disapointed but I made it clear in the letter this was my choice and nothing anyone can do can make me feel any better, both me and bf was working full time, he got used to it...

you will be fine hun

 

[loopy82]

My parents were really happy to start with when we told them a couple of weeks ago but then decided they weren't by the next day. I haven't heard from them since but their reasons for it are quite frankly silly and I'm hoping that they will come round soon, after all it will be their first grandchild. I'm sure your mum will be happy if you are and if she isn't to begin she will be. Feel free to PM me to you want to x

 

[becstar4]

Me and OH found out last Friday and are quite liking the calm before the storm lol!, Were both nervous to tell parents. Both his sisters are trying at the moment too,with no luck.so I'm nervous to tell them to! and i lost my job a month ago, arghh,
I'm sure it will work out an everyone will love the baby, Amongst all this i am really rather excited still! haha


P.s .. anyone want to be bump buddies?

x