Orglethorp
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I had a checkup with my regular doctor today, and she said I'll be given the opportunity to do some basic screening at my next appointment in 4 weeks. I also have my first ultrasound in 2 weeks. (I'll be 10 weeks tomorrow based on LMP, but I'm probably only 9 due to having a 35 day cycle.)
The screening option will be a blood test to determine my odds of trisomy & spina bifida disorders.
I told OH about it when he got home and asked if he wants to do much screening. I've been trying to get an opinion out of him on screening and the possibility of finding things wrong with the baby, since we're coming up on the window to discover these things in a couple weeks now. He's never had a reason to research any of this, so he doesn't really have an opinion.
I'm 29, he'll be 28 later this year, so while we're not old enough to expect higher risks, we're also not the youngest first time parents. There's no history of serious birth defects in either family.
I asked him "would you be okay with [insert broad strokes issue here]" a couple times and it sounds like although he doesn't know much about potential birth defects, we're on the same page. We would not abort a Down's, SB or similarily disabled child, but we would consider it for something like severe microcephaly. We don't mind the thought of raising a disabled child who has a decent shot at living a good life. (Blind, deaf, Down's, autistic, missing a foot, etc. all fine.) On the other hand, if they're always going to have the mental capacity of an infant (severe microcephaly, etc.) we'd rather not. I feel a little horrible for admitting that, but we agree, and it's something we have to consider, right?
Anyone else letting their brains go crazy worrying about what'll be discovered in weeks 12-16?
The screening option will be a blood test to determine my odds of trisomy & spina bifida disorders.
I told OH about it when he got home and asked if he wants to do much screening. I've been trying to get an opinion out of him on screening and the possibility of finding things wrong with the baby, since we're coming up on the window to discover these things in a couple weeks now. He's never had a reason to research any of this, so he doesn't really have an opinion.
I'm 29, he'll be 28 later this year, so while we're not old enough to expect higher risks, we're also not the youngest first time parents. There's no history of serious birth defects in either family.
I asked him "would you be okay with [insert broad strokes issue here]" a couple times and it sounds like although he doesn't know much about potential birth defects, we're on the same page. We would not abort a Down's, SB or similarily disabled child, but we would consider it for something like severe microcephaly. We don't mind the thought of raising a disabled child who has a decent shot at living a good life. (Blind, deaf, Down's, autistic, missing a foot, etc. all fine.) On the other hand, if they're always going to have the mental capacity of an infant (severe microcephaly, etc.) we'd rather not. I feel a little horrible for admitting that, but we agree, and it's something we have to consider, right?
Anyone else letting their brains go crazy worrying about what'll be discovered in weeks 12-16?