Hi Dolly, I've had multiple mc's and once you have 1, you're forever changed. It's not nice to go through losses but have faith that your body knows what it's doing and will follow through with this pregnancy.
I always lost my babies around the 8 week mark and while my doc was good enough to give me scans at 7,8, and 10 weeks, I was beside myself with anxiety at 12 weeks with this pregnancy. My midwife told me to bump up my scan date from Friday to Tuesday the 12th week as I was crying and just couldn't focus at work.
My second mc was a donor egg IVF baby, how is it that I can't even carry a young healthy 26 year old egg and my DH's sperm is strong and plentiful
when I mmc'd that last IVF baby, I immediately paid for immune testing through Dr Beers office in California (I live in Canada far far away, we paid $3000 and sent them 15 vials of blood each through the mail) and the testing diagnosed 2 different forms of clotting problems which will both put myself and my baby in danger. That mc was actually a mmc, at the 12 week scan we found out the baby had died at 8 weeks so I requested a D&C and pathology to see if it was 1. My body or 2. A chromosomal problem with the baby. Turned out that that baby had Turner's Syndrome, had I known that right away I wouldn't have spend the $3000 on immune testing, thank goodness there was a delay in the pathology report! The immune testing was worth every cent.
So they've got me on baby aspirin, and 2 injectable blood thinners/day. This has allowed this pregnancy to survive. Your body is wise and will not allow babies that are sick or chromosomally impaired to go through. I'm sorry you've had to go through a mc. My doc says that some women's bodies work too well, not all eggies every month are good or in some cases like mine with Turner's Syndrome a bad sperm gets in. Some women are super efficient and get pregnant anyways realizing later that there is something wrong with baby. So you're at least hitting the getting pregnant lotto. I also have problems getting pregnant as I have premature ovarian diminished reserves. So after 6 years of ttc, 7 ivf's, 3 with donor eggs for us to get pregnant naturally in Jan while we were getting ready to do our 7th IVF... I chalk it all up to pulling that jackpot machine handle and so many good things came together in one go! And to think I couldn't even remember
that month
Hope for healthy sperm to meet healthy egg and do everything you can to take care of body while it's hatching that embryo.