September Snugglers 2016

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Thanks everyone for the info on mucus plugs etc. No news is, well, no news, although I convinced myself last night that I was getting more contractions and cramps. But that should happen no matter what I guess?

Aman- online classes? Aren't your students only in 3rd grade? In universities they are trying to move over to online courses, especially for colleges that have multiple classes/ commuter students and it just doesn't work the same. I hope the sub takes the job.
 
xan...I teach high school and most of my students are 9-11th graders. But I teach Spanish and I just don't see how putting the students in online classes with a virtual teacher is going to do them any good at all :[ They need to hear the language and practice using it, and ask lots of questions! I'm just worried because an online course can't adapt and change gears as well as a real teacher when they kids are struggling or excelling with something. And the online curriculum that my school offers does not match the curriculum we teach at all...so I'd pretty much have to change everything I do next year :[
 
Hopie- Good luck at your scan hun, I bet everything will be fine and wonderful! We are so close to the finish line now I can't believe it! Let us know how your appointment went. Breathe! :)

Aman- You sound like a lovely caring teacher. I've always admired teachers like you who actually care! I pray that the applicant takes the job and does a wonderful job at it!

Xan- You could very well be contracting, sometimes they're called "irritable uterus syndrome" and lots of things can trigger those contractions, they feel like real contractions but don't do much to your cervix. I had contractions on and off the last 3 weeks of my last pregnancy.
 
Fingers crossed the sub teacher takes the job Amantilia!
Also, regarding your hips, could be that baby had moved lower and engaged that day and then decided "nah, I'll pop back up for a bit!"
I think my baby has done this a few times, as some days I've barely been able to lift a leg, bump was in the way, and had been so painful, but then yesterday for instance, I put my trousers on like a non-preggo person - I didn't realise until afterwards that it wasn't a struggle, which had me thinking something had gone wrong - why hadn't my bump been an obstacle? Has it shrunk a bit? Maybe my waters have gone and I've not realised!? But then later on in the day, I could barely move and it all seemed back to achey miserable normal ;)

Hopie, hope your scan went well, I'm sure it did!

My friend has her c-section yesterday, little Thea arrived mid morning, and she's adorable!
 
campn...aww thanks :blush: I do really care about them and want them to actually learn something, which is why I'm so frustrated about this online class idea. Plus, it's going to make my job a whole lot more difficult when I return in December because I'll have to probably reteach a lot and change my whole curriculum. Frustrating.

mumma...oof! If that's the case I hope he stays nicely popped up and not engaged until he's ready to come out! I seriously don't think I could deal with that pain long term :nope: And congrats to your friend on little Thea's arrival! Lots of my friends have just had their babies and I'm loving all the newborn pics. I'm officially next though in my friend circle! I don't know anyone in real life who is due before me and hasn't had their baby yet! Woohoo!

I found out today that the math teacher I used to work with at my old school passed away today. On his wedding anniversary. They had been married two years today. It's been a very sad story to watch unfold...he struggled with alcoholism and got very sick because of it but got better a few times. He just didn't get better this time. I feel so sad for his wife because I'm not sure she understood how serious his addiction and illness was when she married him and I know she wanted to have children right away more than anything. Just a sad story.

Also, what would you ladies do in this situation? My mother in law is a NICU nurse and did all of her research on SIDS and it's a topic that is near and dear to her heart. My sister-in-law just had her baby 2 weeks ago and keeps sending pictures of the baby sleeping...and she's literally doing everything that they recommend against to prevent SIDS. In the latest pic, baby had a wad of blankies under his head, he was on his side, and covered in a big fluffy blanket. I think it's driving my mother-in-law nuts but she's too afraid to be direct and say something because she doesn't want to be an overbearing mother-in-law/grandma. She even sent my sister-in-law a safe sleep swaddle blanket (one of the velcro ones) and my sister-in-law thanked her by sending a pic of the baby in the blanket with tons of blankets shoved under his head as a pillow. I want to say something so badly, but it's not my place and I know it won't be well received even though I have good intentions. I really wish my mother-in-law would be straight with her (or at least talk to her son about it) especially since she's the expert about safe sleep. I told my husband that he should talk to his brother about it so he can discuss it with my sister-in-law. Hopefully if the brothers talk it won't be badly received...:[ I don't want to be the asshole know-it-all (because I'm not and I'm sure I'll make 100000 mistakes of my own) so I'm hoping my husband will talk to his brother. If not, do you think it would be out of line to talk to my mother-in-law about it and encourage her to at least talk to her son? Because I would want her to feel comfortable talking to me about something that was potentially dangerous for my son rather than beating around the bush. What would you ladies do? Am I being unreasonable? Should I just stay out of it?
 
Aman- I think it depends on the person, is she someone who takes advice like that with open arms? I'm all for listening to advice as long as they mean well and the tone is right. She could simply just not be aware and would like to be englightened. I think your MIL should talk to her son and nicely tell him and then leave it up to him. He should say he read it though and not say "mom told me this!" Cause my DH told me that one time about something baby related and I took it to heart.

Mumma- Maybe your baby is dropping so some of that pelvis/hip pain isn't too bad? Although mine was bad before and after dropping! It must be the way they're laying in there that triggers pain or not.

My sister is still pregnant! We are all shocked haha but hey I try to remind her that she's only 39 weeks and it won't last forever, but oh I'll bite my own tongue when I'm 39 weeks and hating life!
 
Aman- I would definitely make sure she heard it from someone. Someone who she trusts and can talk openly with. If it's not your MIL, then maybe her husband. She might get upset, but I'm sure it's nothing compared to how she would feel if (god forbid) something happened. And if it doesn't happen and she has another baby, would she do it again? Even if she got upset, I would err on the side of protecting the baby.

And sorry I thought you taught little ones, pregnancy brain? I agree online courses for Spanish don't seem very useful.

Uni- I hope you are well, I've been thinking about you and sending you happy baby wishes.
 
aman - I might be going against the majority here, but I would make sure that your SIL is educated on SIDS prevention one way or another. A good way would be to encourage MIL to talk to her son or to have your OH talk to his brother. As long as whoever talks to the ILs doesn't come off as preachy or know-it-all, I feel there would be no reason for SIL to get offended. And if she hears it from her husband, it would probably go over better. Either way, she's got to hear it from someone. I think its better to address concerns and possibly save a life than to worry about offending someone or causing a little drama. Don't get me wrong, whoever talks to the ILs should be compassionate, but I don't think anyone should hesitate to say anything just to spare feelings.

My youngest daughter died from SIDS when she was 3 1/2 months old. So this is one of those topics that hits close to home. And from being on the other side of it, I can promise you that hurt feelings or a little drama are a small price to pay to not have to go through the tragedy of losing a baby. I think a lot of time people are less concerned with the guidelines because there's always the underlying mindset of "it won't happen to me." And it's not a nice thing to think about at all. But it does happen, and anything you can do to try to prevent it is a good idea. Even if that means having hard conversations.

*Sorry if I came off as really preachy or bitchy - that's not my intent* :flower:
 
I always want to say something when I see someone covering the car seat or stroller entirely, I understand it's hot outside and sunny, but it's much hotter inside the carseat when you cover it, but I don't want to cause drama.

Someone on my Facebook had her first baby years ago and posted a pic of her in the car seat and someone told her hun I don't mean to be rude but the clips should be at armpit level and the new mom was so classy and thanked her saying I had no idea, thank you for helping me keep my baby safe.
 
Amantilia - I agree that SIL needs to be made aware of the risks, and yes, that probably the best way to go about it is via MIL talking it through with her son, maybe even providing him with some literature that he can pass on. The problem here is that there are so many people have the attitude of "I did this with my baby, and they were OK" so think they're handing over great advice, and the person receiving the advice must think it's OK too.
Hopefully your SIL will listen and be grateful that the family care enough to want to say something, accept the advice graciously. Hell, if I heard something from someone who obviously knows their stuff in that matter, I'd be glad to have been told!

Campn - I dunno, but I thought that the more baby dropped, the more painful it is in the hips? Because the head is putting more pressure down there.... or have I just got things arse-backwards again?(easily done!)
Also regarding the carseat thing, I didn't actually know about the clips having to be up at armpit level! I don't think I've ever seen any instruction saying that, or even when we were given demonstrations at baby stores! Unless of course I had a brain fart and that particular piece of instruction escaped.. but yes, something I shall remember next time!
 
Campn- thanks for the advice! I had no idea, and probably would have covered the baby up all the way thinking it was better to keep the sun off of him.

Aman- now that I'm thinking about it, my mom was adamant that the best way to prevent SIDs is to lie a baby on its side and alternate sides every night because that was the advice when we were little and that is how you're supposed to position an adult if you find them in distress. And in a store a sales woman told me that bumpers should be fine and were actually important so that they don't get their legs stuck between the bars. Maybe someone is giving your SIL bad advice? I'm the kind that goes and researches everything, but not everyone would.
 
Xan- When I was pregnant with my first I had no idea bumpers shouldn't be used until someone "nosy" brought it up so maybe we do need those kinds of people in life! :D my mom was all about let's put layers and layers of clothes on the baby cause he's cold when it was summer out and hot, so the rules and knowledge definitely change over time.

I'm glad my mom isn't staying with us this time, or my MIL cause they drove me completely insane.
 
Maybe have MIL talk to her son and he can talk to his wife and together they can decide how baby will sleep? Post a sids awareness sleeping method article on your own wall as an "I never knew this" type thing?
 
MummaMoo - just been looking at my thread I done when I was 39 weeks with dd..and you were actually on there commenting too =) how funny is that. We're both pregs same ish time again haha.

I use baby gro sleep bags... I hate blankets. At least in the sleep bag they can't move it over their faces. I actually purchased swaddle blankets with velcro. Never used them before but with the way this little man is wriggling in my belly I think it might be good buy.

Bumpers I used them but by the time dd was in a cot she knew or was aware of moving cloths away from her face. I've got 2 different ones this time.. the new one is actually a mesh material. It twists between the bars on the cot and with it being mesh there's holes.
 
It's official- I'm delivering one way or the other on the 25th! I'm not dilated and baby's head is still high. If next week he doesn't engage, I'll do a c-section. Otherwise, it looks like an induction.

I guess the baby dropping was in my head :wacko:
 
Thanks for all of the advice, ladies. I don't want to step on toes, but I also want to be sure that my nephew is as safe as possible. My husband doesn't want to be the one to talk to his brother, so I'm going to put a bug in my MIL's ear and encourage her to say something...because I would totally want her to talk to me if she saw I was doing something potentially harmful to my baby! Hurt feelings hurt a lot less than the potential alternative.

aidensxmomma...I'm so sorry about your loss and experience with SIDS. It is one of my worst nightmares and I can't even begin to imagine the pain. You don't come off as preachy or bitchy at all. The experience and feelings you shared confirm how I feel about this situation and that I should speak up and make sure that she hears what she needs to from someone. You're right...a little bit of drama or hurt feelings would be nothing compared to a loss. I'm going to start by bringing it up to MIL and encourage her to say what's been on her mind.

On a happier note:

xan...yay! That's right around the corner! Can't believe we are going to have beautiful newborn pics to look at soon!

AFM...the potential candidate to fill my long-term sub position is interviewing on Friday and is interested in the position! So I have to go in and sit on the interview committee this Friday before my doctor's appointment. Fingers crossed that she's what we need and that she accepts the position! I could sleep so much better knowing that the position has been filled.
 
Oops, just snapped at my mom. She keeps asking what I need for the baby, but then telling me I need to help her fix her phone, she needs to get off work for the 25th, etc. So the last time she said make a list of what you need I said "I need you to go to the Apple store and get your phone fixed and get off work on the 25th!" Argh.
 
Xan- Some babies don't drop until you go into labor, and some drop weeks before but nothing happens, don't let it discourage you!

Also I understand snapping at your mom, I've snapped at mine the other day cause she was scolding me for posting my scan picture online, even complained to my sister about me as if I'm this little kid. I want to share the picture of my last baby, I want to celebrate it and be happy, let me be mother! I told her one more comment like that and I'll block her on Facebook :p hormones!?

Aiden- I'm also so so so sorry for your loss. You do not come preachy or bitchy whatsoever!
 
Uni, hopie- I hope that everything is going well for you ladies and wanted to let you know that you are in my thoughts.
 
Uni- Like the other ladies said. Please update us when you've the chance. We're all thinking of you!

Hopie- How did the scan go!? I'm hoping you got a good picture!
 
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