Sex life...

[MarsMaiden]

I am so totally with all of you! I remember when we first started ttc, it was all so romantic thinking that we could be making our baby at that very moment. Over 2 and a half years later and it's definitely lost its shine! And why does my DH suddenly decide to clam up when he knows that it's the most important time? I try not to let on that I'm mid cycle and just make a move and then there's that moment when he really says no and I have to say 'but we have to' - nothing like ruining the moment! Then it all becomes entirely mechanical and no fun at all, I hate it!

Then of course are the times when he says pffft, how can you expect to have a baby if you never want to have sex when he's trying to make a move and I'm only two days past my period and just don't feel like it!! Um, hello, how many times do I have to explain this?!!

 

[vebanfield80]

Yup, all this sounds very familiar!

DH and I have been together 8 years and married for 4 (yesterday!) so we're past the first flush of wanting to be at it all the time and to be honest we've both got a fairly low libido anyway. At times it feels like TTC has destroyed even that and as Fluffy puts is, recreational BDing is very rare.

Is it wrong that I'm actually kind of relieved when I know I'm past ovulation and don't 'have' to BD any more? It's not that I don't love DH, I do, I love him to bits!

Ha ha, Leila Fae, I know exactly what you mean - its not wrong, we just know too much about our bodies, sometimes the internet can be your worst enemy!

 

[vebanfield80]

I am so happy to see this thread!! Most months when AF comes, I'm upset I'm not pregnant, but then I kind of feel a bit ugh, we have to do it all over again! I would love to have a normal sex life, but it's just not going to happen!

That is sooo true, you think "we must have done it this month" and lo and behold we have to do it all over again... to top it off a friend just emailed me to say that she is now 13 weeks pregnant after an "accident" - 1 night of passion and bang..... not month after month of "just pull my nighty down when you've finished, love"..... I think we should start a new thread "I HATE TTC"!

 

[vebanfield80]

I am so totally with all of you! I remember when we first started ttc, it was all so romantic thinking that we could be making our baby at that very moment. Over 2 and a half years later and it's definitely lost its shine! And why does my DH suddenly decide to clam up when he knows that it's the most important time? I try not to let on that I'm mid cycle and just make a move and then there's that moment when he really says no and I have to say 'but we have to' - nothing like ruining the moment! Then it all becomes entirely mechanical and no fun at all, I hate it!

Then of course are the times when he says pffft, how can you expect to have a baby if you never want to have sex when he's trying to make a move and I'm only two days past my period and just don't feel like it!! Um, hello, how many times do I have to explain this?!!

**BANG BANG** head, brick wall..... what is it with these men, don't come near me if i'm not fertile, ha ha