Should be due xmas day..... :(

Discussion in 'Miscarriage Support' started by lauraperrysan, Dec 19, 2009.

  1. lauraperrysan

    lauraperrysan Mummy of 2!! :)

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    Hi ladies, I prob dont know many of you in here now....I've belonged in this section for 2 years now and seen many ladies come and go but I keep coming back to belonging in here :( It's a great place for support but just feeling really rubbish today.
    5 miscarriages in 2 years is too much pain to cope with, I cry most nights when my oh is asleep....I long for my babies and one of my previous m/c's should of been due xmas day and I'm feeling the strain.
    Just feel like I'll never be a mom again or give my daughter a brother / sister....I odviously have an underlying problem just dont know what.

    Sorry for the pointless thread just feeling sad tonight :(

    Hope you all ok.....kisses to angel babies up there xxxxx

    Oh and even the words from away in a manger made me cry....only just realised what the last verse was reffering too.....

    Bless all the dear children
    In Thy tender care
    And take us to heaven
    To live with Thee there :angel:

    xxxxx
     
  2. shocker

    shocker Well-Known Member

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    Im so sorry hun :hugs: i think i know of a few things that might help? do you have facebook? :hugs:
     
  3. Tulip

    Tulip Ruby <i>, Dils, Rowan

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    Laura honey, I'm so sorry for all your losses.

    Are you being transferred to Recurrent Miscarriage specialists by your GP? They really should be looking for answers to your pain. I'd also be asking your GP to put you on high-dose Folic Acid (5milligrams) in case you are not absorbing it properly and it is contributing to the losses (this is a hereditary condition i'm putting my mum's two losses down to it, though she managed to carry my sister and I four years apart with two MCs in between).

    Christmas will be painful for all those who have suffered, but a Christmas due date must be extra hard of course. I hope that you find the strength to at least partly enjoy Christmas for Lily.

    xxx
     
  4. lauraperrysan

    lauraperrysan Mummy of 2!! :)

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    thanks ladies, yes i do have facebook if you want to add me shocker.....do u want my email address to find me?
    of course having lily will take my mind off it at xmas but it's the quite times i feel sad....
    i just hope 2010 will bring me a nice big bump or at least some answers xxxxx
     
  5. lauraperrysan

    lauraperrysan Mummy of 2!! :)

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    sorry tuplip forgot to say, yes i am, had my 1st appointment last month but wont get results till all tests have been done in feb / march maybe april xxxx
    also tried the folic acid last 2 times (higher dose) but still no success :(
    xxxx
     
  6. fluffyblue

    fluffyblue Loving being mommy

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    Hi hunni sorry you are feeling so low and what an awful reminder on whats meant to be such a lovely day xx

    I know the feeling of being low at the moment, this should have been my time before my baby was due in January and its really hard.

    I keep thinking why me, i read back through my posts since I joined in May and ive had 3 BFP announcements followed by 3 miscarriage announcements and it really upset me !


    I keep showering my Laura with so much love, kisses and cuddles she keeps telling me to stop it but she is my only "child" release at the moment - I have two gorgeous baby nephews and as much as I adore them its so painful to be around them. Laura is my world and if it wasnt for our relationship I would have crumbled.

    We will get there in 2010 mate u just watch xxxx
     
  7. Rumpskin

    Rumpskin Free to try again!

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    Oh sweetheart, I am so very sorry. I still think of my angels daily but I try not to think for too long as it hurts so very much.

    Try and get through Christmas as best as you can and dont deny yourself time to think of your special angel that should have been due on that day.

    I had a very difficult Christmas last year. I had just m/c 6 weeks previous and my sister had just announced her unplanned pregnancy. I held myself together as much as I could and got through it.

    I am trying to think forward to what 2010 can bring us - hopefully no more heartache but tears of joy.

    Thinking of you xxx
     
  8. shocker

    shocker Well-Known Member

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    Yeah sure that would be good, im a member of a really nice group on facebook that i can invite you to, the two woman that run the group are really amazing and very kind and theres lots of woman on there who've had recurrent miscarriages who they could put you in contact with althought obviously theres a few here aswell but thought it might help.Theyre really supportive and seeing as your feeling so low at the moment i think you'd find it helpful :hugs: hope todays treating you better hun xx
     
  9. fluffyblue

    fluffyblue Loving being mommy

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    Knocks....

    Can i join to xx
     
  10. lauraperrysan

    lauraperrysan Mummy of 2!! :)

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    thank you so much for all your replies, it's so great to have such kind supportive friends on here :) that sounds great shocker.....I will pm you my email address / details so you can find me on facebook :)
    and im sure you can join too fluffyblue....xxxxx
     
  11. shocker

    shocker Well-Known Member

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    Of course you can! Its a really amazing bunch and the two who run it kellie and christie are just such good people i couldnt praise them enough! send me your email and i'll add and invite you :hugs:
     
  12. Charlotteee

    Charlotteee Married Mum/Stepmum of 4

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    shocker Well-Known Member

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    Ye all can silly! just pm me and i'll sort it for ye :hugs:
     
  14. Widger

    Widger Mummy at last

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    Laura - your posts are never ever pointless!

    Thinking of you xxx :hugs:
     
  15. catfromaus

    catfromaus Mum to angel Aiden Lynne

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    Sending some :hugs::hugs: your way Laura. Hope 2010 is your year.

    Cat
    xxx
     
  16. Smiler13

    Smiler13 Well-Known Member

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    Laura, saw this the other day but only just managed to come on-line, thinking about you.

    I was due on new year's eve, and have just found out that two friends who we'll be staying with over Xmas and new year are pregnant, one of them is as far along as I'd be had I not had my most recent v.early loss. Ouch. Am trying hard not to be jealous. Also trying to focus on the fact that at least this Xmas I am not going through a m/c and can relax and have a drink etc.

    We are v.lucky to have our little ones, but it's hard to keep smiling and giving them 100% with this sadness in our hearts. I sometimes feel guilty for being sad / upset when my daughter is around, and that I am not a good enough mother as I cannot seem to give her a sibling - feel less womanly and like a Mum. Toddlers are a great distraction though!

    I remember you saying that you hadn't told many people close to you about your losses, it must be hard to manage it all with it going round in your head. Hope that there is someone near you who can help this Christmas. And of course there are always the ladies here!

    Take care, am sending good thoughts.

    Let's hope that 2010 is a better year. Here's to that!

    xxx
     
  17. lauraperrysan

    lauraperrysan Mummy of 2!! :)

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