Should i be happy or sad?????

[wishful think]

hi all. Ok i dont know whether to jump up and down with happiness because we are a step further on as we are being referred to the infertility clinic or just fall down crying cause we prob will never achieve it naturally!!! I had an appointment with my gyno today and i had my whole speech ready on how i wanted to be sent for a laparoscopy and wanted to be referred to the infertility clinic and turned out i didnt have to fight to get what i wanted. The doc was thinking the same things. So he said my lap will prob be in about 6 weeks which is great because my af is just getting crazier every cycle and im afraid its endo!!! And then he said because of my dh's low sperm count and motility it was time to refer us for assisted reproduction as there is little chance of it happening naturally. He said the clinic will decide what treatment to start off with!!! So now im kind of happy and have some hope because we will be getting help but also sad because its just never gonna be easy for us!!! Really dont know how to cope with this news!!!!!!

 

[Whitbit22]

such a huge step forward! Just take it one day at a time.

 

[Lou32]

I think this is really positive. I remember when we got similar news and it just felt like the end of the world, but help getting pregnant is better than no help. After a while you start to focus on getting pregnant rather than mourning the fact it probably won't happen the way you always thought it would.
If you don't mind me asking, what kind of count and motility results did you get? x

 

[rachelle1975]

Its a huge positive lovely step to being a mum chick.... just think, it's the closest you have been so it's gotta be a good thing huh?

Mixed feelings are normal - bizarrely our referral for IVF left me feeling happy but our start date freaked me out because it was 'real'

 

[ladypink]

It's good news hun as you are one step closer to being a mum but it is also a very emotional and can be a long road ahead, focus on the positives even though it's difficult as you just think "Why do WE have to go through this?" Remember; you are not alone. Have lots of support around you and come on here to rant and share all the time, lots of hugs xxx

 

[wishful think]

If you don't mind me asking, what kind of count and motility results did you get? x

Hi Lou32, of course i dont mind ya asking. First SA the count was 2.7 million and motility was 11%. Second SA the count was 7.3 million and the motility was 15%. He has another SA in July so we are hoping that there is another bit of improvement. He is well below the 20 million & 50% motility mark so assisted reproduction is the road for us!!!! In one way i am so happy that i hounded my doc very early on. We are 14 months trying and i think we are really far on on the journey now that we are being referred.

 

[wishful think]

It's good news hun as you are one step closer to being a mum but it is also a very emotional and can be a long road ahead, focus on the positives even though it's difficult as you just think "Why do WE have to go through this?" Remember; you are not alone. Have lots of support around you and come on here to rant and share all the time, lots of hugs xxx

thanks ladypink, i do get real comfort coming on here. I wish all of us ladies were'nt on this chat site and we had no issues but life isn't easy and at least we can give each other support and advice I just thought last night "Jayus how bad the 2 week wait must be when doing ivf, like it's terrible every month but that ivf cycle u know that there is a fertilised egg in there". I will be an emotional wreck See there i go again, my mind racing ahead - one step at a time Thanks chick xxx

 

[Blue12]

I think this is really positive. I remember when we got similar news and it just felt like the end of the world, but help getting pregnant is better than no help. After a while you start to focus on getting pregnant rather than mourning the fact it probably won't happen the way you always thought it would.x

I totally agree with Lou32. At first you are devastated that you are going to have to go through the medical route. Then you are praying that the medical route will even work for you.

Best wishes. This is a great step - as upsetting as it is right now.