Should I do it?

[Aidan's Mummy]

No even though they have hurt you I wouldn't do it

I would say it was rather immature. Immature because as an adult you needto learn not to stoop to their level abnd rise above their childish games. If you did what you say it would make you as bad as them
xx

 

[abbSTAR]

hope you get things sorted

 

[Youngling]

Be the bigger person and rise above it all. Ur LO would appreciate u alot more for it
xx

 

[mum#1]

Just as part of my thinking process, why is it immature? shady business practice I see, low blow, but im not sure i see the immature. If i was to make things up, i could understand, but they've done a good enough job of making themselves look like crap. I dont need to add anything. i kinda see it as justice.

Your about to be a mother. So yes it would be immature for someone who's about to give birth to do this.

You honestly dont need the stress. I understand you wanting to hurt them back and get 'justice' as you say, but you need to start being the responsible one for your LO.

 

[Desi's_lost]

Thanks everyone for your thoughts. I knew it was coming, but I guess I never really believed it, you know?
btw whoever said that parents cant make children do things, lol, they can when they are psychotic, manipulative, abusive excuses for human beings. These arent your run of the mill people.

But yeah, time to write them off. One of these times I am going to mean it.

 

[Eabha'sMum]

pet, its a horrible situation... but that would get there backs up more, and they could easily twist it.
you need to bide your time... cut unessential contact until baby is here, like if you feel comfortable, text him or his mum or someone the dates and times of your scans, so they cant say you didnt involve them (save those messages), and send them a pic after, so they cant say you excluded them...
wait til baby is here, then you send them a message with a pic, date weight and all that. and if they still refuse to ignore you... you go to court. you have a back catalogue of refusal to meet the needs of the child. get a paternity test, and prove he is the daddy, and then you make sure they take care of their buisness...

it won't be eeasy,, but it is whats best for Asyria
xx

 

[Aidan's Mummy]

There are being truley vile hun. I hope it gets sorted
xx

 

[minimoo90]

It's soo not worth doing that.

My FOB is a police officer, and is meant to have a moral life, I haven't tried to screw him over, there is a thing called KARMA! and girl it works.

Soo sit back and chill, karma will do her magic soon enough

 

[rainbows_x]

Definitley no!
That would just make the situation a million times worse, and what would it really achieve in the end?

Be the bigger person and rise above it.

xxx

 

[pinkribbon]

I wouldn't bother rising to it or you're showing them that actually you ARE bothered and it's just playing games. Just let it go, and then you've got the moral high ground.

 

[PleaseBaby]

Why would the media be interested in your affairs anyway? If he truely wanted to be apart of your babies life then he would be, I know nothing and no one would stop me seeing my child. Yes his parents are partly responsible if they are making things difficult but he should be man enough to tell them he is about to be a father, it's just as much his fault as theirs but you seem to think he's some sort of saint who's been bullied into this siuation. Cut all contact with him, then go after his ass for child support because he does have responsibilities wether he choses to acknowledge them or not.

 

[AriannasMama]

If I were you I would just get him for child support after the baby comes, he cant run away from that. Fighting with FOBs family is no good and it seems like if you do something, they will return the favor, etc etc and it will never end! Just do what is right for your baby

 

[lushious09]

your having a baby do you not think its time to grow up a little and act mature? im sorry but reading what you have just suggested doing seems unbelievably childish! and i can guarantee it will bite no one in the arse but yourself... if they are so content on been pathetic and not wanting to contribute then they have no part in the childs up bringing simple as...

The fob can see who he likes as you are not a couple... if he wants involvment then tell him he either starts supporting the baby and buying things or he dosnt see the baby! explain you dont appreciate how his family is acting and unless they are willing to sit down and talk 2 u like adults you will not be contacting nor involving them in any matters regarding the baby and they are not too contact you again!

Its simple really just take a bit of adult thinking...

 

[Desi's_lost]

No I do not think he should be able to date who he wants. I would be told off for doing such, so he should have to adhere to the same thing. Now he just has another place to waste what little money he may have left. Oh and more fun, he plans on going to college in the fall, so I am not sure how child support is suppose to work if he has no income. Hopefully they will take it from his parents as he will still be dependent on him and claiming him on tax forms.

But yea, they changed his cell number, and screamed at my mom the last time I tried to contact him about the baby so they have made clear steps that they do not want to know about the baby, so why bother.

 

[samface182]

why even waste your time worrying about him then?

 

[Desi's_lost]

lol Let me rip out your heart,play with it, then step on it slowly and then you tell me why waste my time.

 

[stuffymuffy]

Hun, I know we're in very similar situations so from experience I would say that it's best to just let things be I know it's tough as I've been going through the exact same thing for the past 9 months and I don't want to sound insensitive but it's not the most mature thing to try to do, and tbh the media probably isn't going to care. If he's going to be like that than there isn't anything you can do and trying to force him to take responsibility by airing you're guys' problems is just going to push him farther away. And as for him seeing other girls, he has the right. My FOB started dating very soon after we broke up and I had to see him every day, all day in school parading his relationship in my face. Yes it hurts, but after time you'll move on Be the adult in this situation and just let things go for now. Forget about them, occupy yourself with other things.

 

[samface182]

no need to be like that desi.

i was just saying. no need to go to papers etc. more hassle than it's worth. why bother if he doesn't seem to care anyway? would just make people angry. you may as well just get on with life and forget about the guy.

 

[Desi's_lost]

Oh i wasnt trying to be mean, I actually meant it to be comical =P

The reason that at least the local paper would care is this is a small town, and their grocery store has been there for the past 30 years.

 

[rainbows_x]

No I do not think he should be able to date who he wants. I would be told off for doing such, so he should have to adhere to the same thing. Now he just has another place to waste what little money he may have left. Oh and more fun, he plans on going to college in the fall, so I am not sure how child support is suppose to work if he has no income. Hopefully they will take it from his parents as he will still be dependent on him and claiming him on tax forms.

But yea, they changed his cell number, and screamed at my mom the last time I tried to contact him about the baby so they have made clear steps that they do not want to know about the baby, so why bother.

Why? You and him are no longer together?
To be honest you sound extremely jealous of him and his new girlfriend, rise above it and be the bigger person, else you will just seem very immature.

& at least he is going to college - He is doing something with his life rather than sitting and doing nothing, at least he is making an effort and will get a good job from going college, and will therefore be able to pay for his daughter.

Just step back and take a look what you are doing and how many people you would be hurting, including his new partner - Who has done NOTHING wrong & your own daughter.

xxx