wanabamummy
cautiously preggas!
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We are only in 3mths of TTC, but i now feel that i am in the swing of reading my body and doing my temps.
However my OH has always had a lower sex drive than me. I thought things would change when we started to ttc. but its only upped cos i have tried it on.
We had a barny the other night cos 'he was tired' and i told him that we should stop trying cos he clearly is not interested. but he is says he is , he has only got used to the idea that there are only a certain amount of days that i am fertile (even though he managed to produce 2 kids 13 years ago with a previous relationship). and he felt like it was a science project and gone where the days that you did it and fell pregnant. i told him it is SCIENCE!!! thats how the blooming body works!!! he feels like he is losing the me and him enjoying part. i told him that i always enjoy it and i am thinking yey lots of sex!! hmmm....
anyhow, i managed to get him to do it 2 days in a row! wow!!! but i just felt that he wasnt quite with me on day 2.... which has made me so sad.
I thought about things yesterday and came home and told him that next mth i will stop my temps, stop my chart, try to stop counting my days, stop looking up stuff on the net and try to forget for a month and see how we go. he said that he didnt think i could do that. cos i have read so much.
I told him i would try as long as we have sex more frequently. he agreed... but i am not sure he will go through with this. and i dont want to be the one to keep going for it. This makes me so upset feel like crying as i type. cos i feel like this is a test for him and i will probably miss out next mth.
I told him i wanted a summer baby so that the child can enjoy their birthday in the sun, and everyone wants to have fun in the summer. he said i had obsesessed way to much over birth dates. but i have always thought that being a summer baby myself...
Gosh i am rambling, but i cant speak to anyone about this cos they say i should just 'chill' out and it will happen when it happens.
anyway my point is, should i source him viagra (not that i have a clue where to get it) and do you think that would help him.?
thanks
However my OH has always had a lower sex drive than me. I thought things would change when we started to ttc. but its only upped cos i have tried it on.
We had a barny the other night cos 'he was tired' and i told him that we should stop trying cos he clearly is not interested. but he is says he is , he has only got used to the idea that there are only a certain amount of days that i am fertile (even though he managed to produce 2 kids 13 years ago with a previous relationship). and he felt like it was a science project and gone where the days that you did it and fell pregnant. i told him it is SCIENCE!!! thats how the blooming body works!!! he feels like he is losing the me and him enjoying part. i told him that i always enjoy it and i am thinking yey lots of sex!! hmmm....
anyhow, i managed to get him to do it 2 days in a row! wow!!! but i just felt that he wasnt quite with me on day 2.... which has made me so sad.
I thought about things yesterday and came home and told him that next mth i will stop my temps, stop my chart, try to stop counting my days, stop looking up stuff on the net and try to forget for a month and see how we go. he said that he didnt think i could do that. cos i have read so much.
I told him i would try as long as we have sex more frequently. he agreed... but i am not sure he will go through with this. and i dont want to be the one to keep going for it. This makes me so upset feel like crying as i type. cos i feel like this is a test for him and i will probably miss out next mth.
I told him i wanted a summer baby so that the child can enjoy their birthday in the sun, and everyone wants to have fun in the summer. he said i had obsesessed way to much over birth dates. but i have always thought that being a summer baby myself...
Gosh i am rambling, but i cant speak to anyone about this cos they say i should just 'chill' out and it will happen when it happens.
anyway my point is, should i source him viagra (not that i have a clue where to get it) and do you think that would help him.?
thanks