If you'd bothered to read, my OH was in jail 5 years ago, he's sat near me now watching a very sodden 24 Hour race from Spa.
Sorry to be blunt but I've also been a victim of horrific violence - I was raped and beaten over a period of nearly 3 hours to the point that I was put on a high dependency unit. I was then "advised" not to seek any form of counselling before trial as it might reduce the quality of my evidence, go to court and have my credibility ripped to shreds by a defence barrister who has just doing his job. It is an experience that is degrading, humiliating and frightening in the extreme.
The aftermath, well... I still suffer from PTSD and cry uncontrollably when I'm caught off guard by violence etc on TV or in a movie - I still cannot sit comfortably alone in a room with a strange male when the door is shut.. doctors, opticians, the lot.
I have no idea if my assailant has family that keep in touch with him, but if he has, and they want to keep in touch, it is not for me to say they shouldn't be allowed to... they have done nothing wrong, I have no quarrel with them whatsoever.
There are more victims in the criminal justice system than the injured party.. and this is true for both sides of the coin, there are no winners at all.
I've already said that I'm a massive, massive hypocrite when it comes to the death penalty, as although I don't agree with it, if it had been available in my case then I not only would have wanted it, I'd have wanted to do it myself. That would make me, quite rightly if they were supportive, a villain in the eyes of his family and goes against everything I have just said, and it's maybe just as well that these decisions are left to the courts and not the victims.