she is coming down this weekend. But that doesnt mean we cant do something together the following week. but now he says he cant get time off. He will gladly take time off to be with his daughter but i cant even get an afternoon together. how exactly is that fair.
I just want to point one thing out, I support him paying for his daughter etc which he does what im saying is if he doesnt have the money to do something as a couple how does he have the money to do it for her? her mum moved to the other, so its her who should feel guilty he didnt have any say. its not a jealousy thing cuz he gives her attention, its cuz he doesnt understand how much it upsets me to see him with her and be excluded.
he doesnt see her very often but special days like my 21st birthday should be a one off. I never ask him for anything and i spoil both him and his daughter. Just every now and again i would like him to do something for me, like he does for his daughter.
she is coming down this weekend. But that doesnt mean we cant do something together the following week. but now he says he cant get time off. He will gladly take time off to be with his daughter but i cant even get an afternoon together. how exactly is that fair.
I have talked to him and he just blanks it or passes it off.
I just want to point one thing out, I support him paying for his daughter etc which he does what im saying is if he doesnt have the money to do something as a couple how does he have the money to do it for her? her mum moved to the other, so its her who should feel guilty he didnt have any say. its not a jealousy thing cuz he gives her attention, its cuz he doesnt understand how much it upsets me to see him with her and be excluded.
he doesnt see her very often but special days like my 21st birthday should be a one off. I never ask him for anything and i spoil both him and his daughter. Just every now and again i would like him to do something for me, like he does for his daughter.
she is coming down this weekend. But that doesnt mean we cant do something together the following week. but now he says he cant get time off. He will gladly take time off to be with his daughter but i cant even get an afternoon together. how exactly is that fair.
I have talked to him and he just blanks it or passes it off.
ok i dont think people are really understanding wehre i am coming from.
my partner sees his daughter occasionally and during that time we spend as much time together as a family unit and do things as we can.
what my problem is that when she goes home (back to her mums), thats it, we as a couple go out the window. I work long days every day and we never get any time together, yet im expected to take time off when his daughter comes home.
All i ask is one day a week we spend together. just us. if daughter is with us then yeah she would be included but every other time it should just be us.
I mentioned the teddy at my birthday becuase a) i spend so much money on him b) he said he didnt have money when he clearly did and c) he is actualy due me money.
We arent married and dont live together.
what i was meaning by the teddy was that my birthday was supposed to be us time (we had just gone through bad patch with his other ex) yet we did more in the two days we spend with his daughter than we did in the whole month of my birthday. for my birthday his mum cooked my tea and gave a cake. he did mnothing. im from a poor household and i dont agree that money is the bare all and be all of everything but a little attention wouldnt go a miss.
i am not talking about leaving him becuase of his daughter. i accept her and have done right from the start. I drove (volunteered) in the first two weeks i had known him, for 4 and a half hours so he could see her on her 4th birthday. but i never got a thnaks or anything.
Does no one understand where i am coming from. if this was my child things would be different becuase there would be a routine and iwouldnt be working as much. is some time and affection too much to ask.
and to whoever said i have been in his life for 1.5 year and dont matter. that hurt. cuz no one really knows the truth about where his daughter came from and to be honest no one knows for sure if it is his (althoughthere are similiarities). he pays child support as well as addition income. but all im asking is two days of the year i get spoiled like your supposed to do at the start of relatinships. doesnt haveto be money. could be a nice hot bath togethr etc.
what i was meaning by the teddy was that my birthday was supposed to be us time (we had just gone through bad patch with his other ex) yet we did more in the two days we spend with his daughter than we did in the whole month of my birthday. for my birthday his mum cooked my tea and gave a cake. he did mnothing. im from a poor household and i dont agree that money is the bare all and be all of everything but a little attention wouldnt go a miss.
i am not talking about leaving him becuase of his daughter. i accept her and have done right from the start. I drove (volunteered) in the first two weeks i had known him, for 4 and a half hours so he could see her on her 4th birthday. but i never got a thnaks or anything.
Does no one understand where i am coming from. if this was my child things would be different becuase there would be a routine and iwouldnt be working as much. is some time and affection too much to ask.
and to whoever said i have been in his life for 1.5 year and dont matter. that hurt. cuz no one really knows the truth about where his daughter came from and to be honest no one knows for sure if it is his (althoughthere are similiarities). he pays child support as well as addition income. but all im asking is two days of the year i get spoiled like your supposed to do at the start of relatinships. doesnt haveto be money. could be a nice hot bath togethr etc.