Should you wait or TTC Find out here!

[Twag]

Twag- i think that if you feel you could still do your exams whilst pregnant then you should TTC

Living arrangements - Rent a lovely 2 bedroom flat together

Age - I'm 20 and OH is 24

Married? Or length of relationship, single? - Been together 2 and a half years, living together for a year

Reason(s) for waiting - We would like to save more money, would like to be married and i might be starting uni this year

Thanks I would be TTC now as I feel I can but it is my DH that thinks I cannot hence the WTT!

 

[fumbles]

Lovin' everyone's stories! Think we should all just jump to TTC now! We have each others blessing what more do we need!

Here's another question to ponder. Some animals have the ability to reproduce without a partner. If humans could do that, how many babies do you think you would have, if you could fall pregnant just by thinking about it too much? For me? I think about 100,000,000,000 in fact I don't think I'd ever be not pregnant

 

[Aoife1987]

Living arrangement: rented house near the university: 1 bedroom, 1 bathroom and a backyard

Age: me and OH 23 (24 next month)

Married or legnth of relationship: engaged, been together 2 years 10 months

Reasons for waiting: want to finish our last year of university, tie the knot and get a house with a second bedroom

CANT WAIT TO TTC!

 

[Aoife1987]

oh and sofaqueen, and mrs magpie you guys should definitely go for it!

 

[pixie23]

Living arrangements: we rent, we would love to own, but OH's job keeps us moving every few years. We're happy with what we've got though.

Age: 22

Married? Or length of relationship, single? Married for almost 3 years, we've been together for almost 6.

Reason(s) for waiting? None left except that we are currently separated by OH's job. We had started ttc, then he was sent away for training.

Aoife1987 I think those are great reasons to WTT. I always support marriage prior to children, it is a great step in a relationship to get to experience before bringing on a LO.

 

[BunInTheBelly]

Living arrangements: Renting a nice duplex.

Age: 23

Married? Or length of relationship, single? Engaged to be married next April. Been together over 6 years.

Reason(s) for waiting? Not married, OH wants to get his Master's and teaching career going first, and for some reason he wants to buy a house first too.

Pixie23: I think not having your OH around is a good reason to wait! But once he's back in the area, go for it!

 

[Rosered52]

This is a nice little meet-and-greet thread!

Living arrangements: Own home with my darling husband, our two dogs, and our kitty

Age: 31, same as DH

Relationship status: Together for 8 years, married for almost 1

Reason for waiting: I'm diabetic, and I need to get my blood sugar levels under better control before resuming TTC. It sucks, but it's just how it is.

Hey, BunInTheBelly! I think I'm a party-pooper, but I'm a fan of taking things slow. Enjoy each phase of life for what it is, rather than trying to move imediately on to the next. That said, I hope you guys can get on the same page, and buying a house is sooooo not necessary to having a baby! Good luck!

 

[Mrs Cupcake]

Hope you don't mind me playing - im a bit of a lurker most of the time!

Living arrangements: We own a three bed house with garden in a village

Age: 25 (almost 26) Hubby is 27

Relationship status: Together for 6 years married for 2

Reason for waiting: to save some money and waiting for the right time of year (we would like a spring/summer baby if poss)

I have been waiting patiently for ages but should confess we are due to TTC at the end of this month!!! not long to go!

Rosered52 - sounds like you are almost ready to go, just the sugar levels to control and then you will be off. How long will it take do you think? Are your doctors helping you?

 

[Miss_Jade]

Living arrangements: Live In A Shared House With My OH and my best mate and he bf and our house mate

Age 21, OH is also 21 he is 22 in december

Married? Or length of relationship, single? married! Together for 7 Months, 3 Weeks and 6 days (on 6/6/11)

Reason(s) for waiting? Because we live in a shared house and also because we will have been together 10 months or a year and 10 months by the time we try (wanna get preg in august so i have baby in may - there is a reason for this lol)

 

[comotion89]

hi there woo it's my first post ok

living arrangements: I am currently at home ,bf lives with his parents
planning on moving in together

age:22

length of relationship: 1 year

reasons for waiting?:
Major one has to be the fact we don't live together or in the same city currently also I am currently looking for a new job I'm a nurse , ive been really broody lately but I don't want my child to be deprived of nice things or have to get by...argh I need advice !! the bf is 24 n ready to have a baby.

 

[libbymarks198]

Living arrangements, renting a huge house with a massive garden, close to everything, have two beautiful doggies, close to family, only have one car though (but it is a family car)

age: both 20,

Length of relationship: 3 years, been living together for 2 and a half...

reasons for waiting: traveling to europe for a month in April 2012, want to own our own home, and at least be engaged, and a bit older, OH to get a permanant job although on my wage we have enough money but would be good so i didn't have to goback to work after 4 months , and parents do not like my OH so would be good to try and get a better relationship with them before we try for a baby

reasons we want to try so bad!!! (sorry wanted to add this), we can easily afford a bbay, want one so badly, have had 2 m/c's in the past 3 years and it has really affected us emotionally.

Comotion89 - i think you should wait until you set yourself up in a house together, that costs a lot of money and then you need to get used to living together and getting to know each other all over again (living together is very different then staying over together).. try move in together as soon as posible and wait a year i would say them start trying

 

[Lownthwaite]

Living arrangements: Own home, 3 bedrooms.

age: Me nearly 26, DH 27.

Length of relationship: 6.5 years - married for 2.

reasons for waiting: Money is a big worry for me. I have a new job which will be taking off in the next 6 months or so and will be very hands on so can't really be swanning off on maternity leave - or heavily pregnant!! I worry how my body would cope with another pregnancy / labour following the emergency section 1st time round

Libbymarks198 - I agree that you should WTT. You should get the travelling out the way as that would be near on impossible with a baby in tow. Also you would feel more financially secure once your OH has a permenent job and I think would worry less. (ps I'm sorry for your losses)

 

[SillyHale]

Living arrangements: Own a five bedroom house, large yard with fence because we have 3 dogs and a cat. Have lived there for a little over a year.

age: Me 26, DH 30

Length of relationship: We just had our one year wedding anniversary yesterday And we've been together for 3 years.

reasons for waiting: Money is big, we both work but don't make a bunch. We get by right now but DH is a big spender and he's got a lot of things he always wants to buy. I like to save so this is kind of an issue. Then I think maybe we haven't done enough living like going travelling yet this is pretty impossible as I have a step daughter and she starts school this year so we won't be able to travel anyways.

Lownthwaite I think you should wtt until you figure out what will be happening with the job. But that all depends on what's more important to you. But if it's an exciting new job opportunity that you could get your foot in the door with, work there a while and then get pg again, you'd at least get maternity there after working for a bit. But if expanding your family is more important bd away

 

[vaniilla]

Living arrangements Rent 3 bedroom house

Age me 20 OH 23
Married? Or length of relationship, single? married

Reason(s) for waiting? for Rowan to be a little bit older and so that I don't give birth before the end of my course


SillyHale I think you should go for it, maybe once your pregnant your oh will curb his spending or maybe go through all the things you need to buy with him and work out some sort of plan together on saving the money

 

[Becwantsababy]

Hi All,

This is my first post so just wanted to get my situation out there. I must admit, we seem to be the only people waiting because of the reason that we are.

Living arrangements: We own our own 3 bed back to back with a smallish garden

age: I'm 29 (30 in Jan) and OH has just gone 31

Length of relationship: We're not married, but been together 10 years in Sept and living together for 5 years.

reasons for waiting: The only reason we are waiting is for me to get to a healthy weight (I am 5'5" and 19st (266lbs)) I have always said that I want to be a healthy weight before TTC but I'm am getting so impatient and broody it's ridioculus.

Reasons to TTC: We own our home, we have a car, we both have good jobs and we love each other. Plus my biological clock is ticking

Our reason for waiting is really putting pressure on me as at the moment I am wanting a baby more than I want to be slim. We have numerous talks about it and he has basically said to me, that if I don’t lose the weight and be ready for a baby within the next 2 years we’ll split. I think this is a little harsh, but I do have my problems with my weight and it has been going on all the time we have lived together (5 years). Help!!!!!!!

Sorry to ramble on!!

Vaniilla – I think you should maybe NTNP. You seem to be ready but maybe you just need that little extra time to get those little things where you want them to be i.e your sons age, your course etc. Hope that helps x

 

[chubbin]

Hi, I want to play
Living arrangements: renting large 2 bedroom 1st floor apartment. Plan to be renting 2/3bedroom house with garden in next 6 months.
Age: Im 38 (39 in Feb) DH is 46 (47 in Jan)
Length of relationship: Been married for nearly 3 years, wedding anniversary this month
Reasons for waiting: I was advised to wait a year after my c-section before ttc(although DS is now nearly 13 months old so no longer an issue). Having a baby has been a huge shock to my system, Ive found it tough, and Im often a bit unsure if I could 'handle' two children. We want to travel a little bit (easier with one than two children) and Ive just embarked on a research post which has the potential for me to begin a fully funded PhD next September (2012).
Reasons for ttc: Just look at our blinking ages! Also, if I fell pregnant soon, it would mean I would be ready to begin the PhD next September (although I would have to stop the research post for maternity, which may harm my chances, Im not sure...). We want two children. Even though the first bit will be tough, when the youngest is 1, I feel confident it will be lovely to have two children.
Ooooh, cant wait to hear what the next person thinks...
Becwantsababy - Welcome to BnB Your situation is a bit of a head scratcher. I have a nice mummy friend who was about the same weight/size as you when she conceived. She had a healthy pregnancy, but her baby was born 2 months premature by c-sec. Im not sure if this was due to her weight. She did not have any gestational complications, but I know this will be a consideration for you as it can happen.
Since having her LO (now nearly two), she has remained the same weight and it gets her down. She is going to have gastric band surgery in July, which I fully support her with. Id like to know what things youve tried re: losing weight, as my friend has tried everything but she just can not find the impetus to keep it up.
Hmmm, Im not sure that I feel good about the pressure your OH is putting on you. But I wonder if he's trying to give you the motivation to lose weight by saying that? If my DH said that to me I think Id feel so miserable Id probably comfort eat...
In conclusion, its a difficult one. I feel like I need to know more about how able you feel to lose weight and how possible it's going to be for you. Even just losing a little bit would put you in a much better position to start ttc. So on that basis Id advise, maybe try Weightwatchers and speak to your GP (if you havent already done those things), set out a reasonable time frame and goal weight, and give it an all out bash Ask your OH why he has given you this ultimatum, was it motivational or is there another reason? Decide if youre happy with his answer...and if you are, and the weight loss is successful - then you can GO for it hun, and I wish you oodles of good luck xx

 

[Becwantsababy]

Thank you so much for your message Chubbin. I have tried every method under the sun to try to lose weight. The latest (2 years ago) was LighterLife. I lost 5 stone in 6 months on it and was about a stone away from goal but then just ended up going back to my old eating habits and putting the weight back on and more. I feel that the only way I canshift this weight is surgery but I don’t want to do that as I don’t feel that is the kind of life I want to lead. But then again being this weight isn’t either!!

I do understand why he has given me this ultimatum as he is hoping that it will motivate me to lose the weight. I think he is just getting frustrated with me not losing weight and now feels we are in the right place to finally have them and it’s me holding us back. Plus we have also been together nearly 10 years.

Even his brother who likes to be on the wrong side of the law and all the money he has, he spends on illeagal drugs. Both him and his gf live with his mum and dad and he treats her like crap and they announced the other week that she is pregnant!!! (Take a breath!!!!) When I heard, I was crushed as it doesn’t seem fair that we have everything and are ready for children and they are having one due to an accident (or so I think!!)

Sorry for hijacking this thread band having a bit of a rant.

 

[Tigerlily01]

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[MsCrow]

Hello, new member here, this thread is really helpful to read and I'd appreciate thoughts on this too.

Living arrangements - mortgaged little terrace, two double bedrooms, no garden but allotment lol

Age -31, husband 38

Married? Or length of relationship, single? Married for 11 years, together for 15

Reason(s) for waiting? I'm sitting on the fence about this. We're currently NTNP on account of coming off BC last October, using the diaphragm but feeling recently like we're ready. He really wants to be a dad and be the main carer. Reasons to wait are that I have just completed my thesis, I am in a part time contract until Feb 12, he is full time employed and could (just) about support us. I could do with developing my career. We're not getting any younger though!?!

 

[Mel85]

Living arrangements- own home on a mortgage, quite a chunk of income though

Age- me nearly 26, hubby nearly 28, married 4 years, together for 6

Reasons for waiting- personally im not waiting, hubby concerned about long term finances and being able to afford childcare.