Should you wait or TTC Find out here!

[Jackyx]

Twag- I think your as ready as you'll ever be, your OH is like mine- worried about money when he doesn't need to be

I'm 22- 23 in July, OH is 31, been together for nearly 6 years (Met at work )
We got on better then we ever have done

We own our own home, 3 beds (1 room currently contains our 2 babies- guinea pigs called poppy and pebbles who are nearly a year and a half old)

reason for waiting is to pay the car off in september- then we'll have loads more money and can save loads while i'm preggers

 

[0203]

Jackyx - you were meant to do me :O

 

[Jackyx]

Jackyx - you were meant to do me :O

Lol i know- you wasn't there when i started writing my message so i only saw your message after i posted mine- sorry

Anyway what i will say about you is it sounds like you have things you still want to do like going to uni so i'd say you should be WWT otherwise i would have said you would be more or less fine TTC now

 

[odd_socks]

Living arrangements? Currently apart but he will be moving in with me when he finds a job locally

Age?Im 26

Married? Or length of relationship, single? married! Been together offically 2 ears 3 months, unoffically 3 years

Reason(s) for waiting? OH doesn't feel ready

My added bit
Reason(s) not to wait Specialists have told me to TTC within a year (which was back in January 2011) b/c back issues, otherwise i may not ever be able to carry a child

 

[odd_socks]

Jackyx should wtt beens shes so close to ttc anyways

 

[Amarna]

Living arrangements? Own our place, it's only a two bedroom but the bedrooms are large so I feel there's plenty of room. We're saving to build our dream house but that'll probably be a few years in the making at least.

Age? 24.

Married? Or length of relationship, single? Married, we'll be married for 5 years as of September. Been together for 6 total.

Reason(s) for waiting? Timing, I'm in uni right now, I have one year left before my BA and hope to finish it up except for a few courses I will take online over the summer next year before giving birth. So we're hoping for a summer baby to avoid having to put things off by a semester.

odd_socks seems to be in a tough situation. If it wasn't for the medical/back issues I'd say to go ahead and wait, no sense in pressuring the OH into something he's not ready for but I personally wouldn't deal well with the medical stuff.

 

[MissyBee]

Living arrangements Live with OH, we have a 1700 sq/ft 3 bedroom house. Just us and the dog so it's pretty empty.

Age Twenty, OH is the same age. We're both young, but we have good jobs and make enough money to support ourselves and a baby.

Married? Or length of relationship, single? In a long term relationship. Planning on marriage one day.

Reason(s) for waiting? Miscarried last week. OH wants to wait a few years, but I want a baby now. He says he wants us to be better off financially, which would make sense and be fine, except that we already make as much as my dad does, and my father raised 3 children off that income without a problem. I don't know how much more money he wants us to make, or how long it would even take for that to happen.

Amarna I think you should wait just until you finish your BA, just because it sounds like it's something that is important to you. That way you won't have anything holding you back from being the happiest mommy in the world when your new baby arrives.

 

[almostXmagic]

Living arrangements: not currently living together

Age 20, 21 in september

Married? Or length of relationship, single? long term relationship, together for almost 2 years. planning marriage next fall

Reason(s) for waiting? we want to be married and out of college, making better money and have a year to enjoy being married together before we bring a LO into the world.

i think MissyBee should wait a little while, take some time and heal from your miscarriage (so sorry about your loss hun) and try and get OH to get on board with things.

 

[ams23]

Living arrangements - our own 2-bedroom home (well it's mostly the mortgage company's, but some of it is ours!)

Age - me 24, hubby 35

Married? Or length of relationship, single? Been together 6 years, married for nearly a year

Reason(s) for waiting? Finish uni and try to find a decent job! My job at the moment is only part-time and rubbish... I've done a law degree and nearly finished my postgraduate legal practice course, so really hoping to find something in that field (although decent law-related jobs for a new graduate are so rare at the moment - it could take years to find something, and I don't have the patience to wait that long! Willing to wait 6 months max, and if I've found nothing by then, then we are just going for it! lol).

almostXmagic - I think you sound really sensible! You and OH will be in a really good place to have a little one when you have done all that, and enjoy the special time you have together without worrying about childcare, babysitters etc

MissyBee - so sorry to hear of your loss x

 

[Webbykinskt]

Living arrangements - Renting from DF's Grandmother (which he will inherit) a two bed end terraced house. Hoping to look for a three bed towards the end of the year.

Age - Me: 20 DF: 19

Married? Or length of relationship, single?: - Together for 4 years, Engaged for a year & a half. Hoping to get hitched at the end of the year too.

Reason(s) for waiting? He's not 100% on board yet (Jury is still out on that) and Uni but I can always figure a way round that.

Reason(s) not to wait? We suffered a chemical (or possible faulty test) in April and we were gutted. If I get preggers soonish then I can take a gap year between my first and second year... otherwise I will be discontinued anyway as they will stop doing my course soon.

Ams23 - Just go for NTNP! You sound like you've got your head screwed on right and I'm sure something will turn up! haha xx

 

[mina]

Hello im new here, hope you don't mind me adding to this, will appreciate your opinions

Living arrangements - owners of a 2 bed house

Age - 30 next month


Married? Or length of relationship, single? long term relationship 11 years this December! Lied together 8 1/2 years.

Reason(s) for waiting? - money, i am a student nurse but receive a bursary, partner has a good job (electrician). Bigger house. These are all reasons my partner wants to wait, however i don't want to, and can already hear my biological clock ticking!!

I think if people are in stable circumstances they should go for it! xxx

 

[Meadows]

Hello, i'm new on here too and wouldn't mind hearing what you all think about my situation......

Living arrangements - Own 2 bed house

Age - 27 in July

Married? Or length of relationship, single? Married 3 years, been together 7 years

Reason(s) for waiting? Am currently on maternity contract in my job (am a teacher) and have been since Oct 4th 2010. My job is turning permanent this October and so don't want to go back in September announcing that i'm pregnant as i'd feel bad!!

Love to hear what u think!!!

Mina - i think you should twist your partners arm and start TTC - very exciting!!

 

[Webbykinskt]

Hello im new here, hope you don't mind me adding to this, will appreciate your opinions

Living arrangements - owners of a 2 bed house

Age - 30 next month


Married? Or length of relationship, single? long term relationship 11 years this December! Lied together 8 1/2 years.

Reason(s) for waiting? - money, i am a student nurse but receive a bursary, partner has a good job (electrician). Bigger house. These are all reasons my partner wants to wait, however i don't want to, and can already hear my biological clock ticking!!

I think if people are in stable circumstances they should go for it! xxx

I'm a student nurse on a bursary too! xx

 

[lilmissbroody]

Meadows, I think you should go for it!!

Living arrangements? I am renting to own a 5bedroom 4.5bathroom house. OH is moving in when we reach 6 months together - even though he's here most days anyway.

Age? we are both 18

Married? Or length of relationship, single? married! known him half my life, only been dating a little while (see ticker below)

Reason(s) for waiting? lose weight, get halfway through my degree.

Reason(s) not to wait too broody! plus, we are more than financially stable

 

[Mrs Magpie]

I love these!

Living arrangements? Own a 2 bedroom house

Age? We are both 25

Married? Or length of relationship, single? Getting married in July! Been together for just over 5 years

Reason(s) for waiting? We've got a holiday booked to Las Vegas in Feb, need to save some money and lose some weight.

Lilmissbroody - your WTT until the same time as me! I'm torn with you - your married and have got a fantastic house, but doing a degree can be hard work, I know mine was! Maybe NTNP in April? I don't know!! Oh go for it in April - we can be bump buddies!

 

[Sofaqueen77]

Living arrangements? I owe my home, 4 bed/3 bath. OH pays rent, and half of all bills now. Hoping to get married next year, all bills incl mortgage will be split 50:50

Age? Im 33, (34 in July), OH is 31, (32 in Sept)

Married? Or length of relationship, single? Been together 4 years next December, living together for a year, hoping to marry next year!

Reason(s) for waiting? For me: Id love to get rid of some debt, but I'm actively working on this - thats all for me I think! OH: I just don't think he ready!










Mrs Magpie - A Vegas baby sounds good!!

 

[PrincessKay]

Living Arrangements :- Own our lovely little 2 bedroom house
Age :- Me 22 OH 27
Married? Or length of relationship, single? In a relationship - see ticker
Reason for waiting? Holiday in Sept then straight to TTC. Ideally would like to save some money but im not bothered


Sofa Queen i think you should TTC!! Just make sure OH is ready!

 

[w8ing4bean]

Living Arrangements :- Own our own 2 bed house

Age :- Me 22 OH 31

Married? Or length of relationship, single? engaged

Reason for waiting? been ttc since jan 2010 with no luck waiting until after the wedding&honeymoon then will go to docs for more tests if need be! SO DAMN BROODY!!

I think PrincessKay is right to wait til after holiday, not long now!!

 

[smokey]

Living arrangements? Renting 2 bed flat, will buy our own place as soon as I start playing the lottery and my numbers come up (so not long now)

Age? 30, oh 31

Married? Or length of relationship, single? Been together over 11 years and married for 3 years

Reason(s) for waiting? Holiday in November (I love my rollercoasters) plus waiting for LO to be a little older.
Im ok with waiting but I do get stubburn impatiant moments

Reason(s) Im broody, pig headed, stubborn, impatiant.

w8ing4bean even if you do wait to TTC I say go for some tests now seen how long you have been trying, there is nothing worse then getting to a point where everything else is good to go and finding out you should of and could have done something to help yourself earlier and prevent an even longer wait.
If I had pushed my dr's about confirming and treating my PCOS (they didnt believe me or care) when I first thought somthing was wrong 15 years ago I wouldnt have had a 8 year TTC battle.

 

[w8ing4bean]

thanks hun, my cycles have been up the wall since mc last jan. my doc has done blood tests and sent me for a scan, they found nothing wrong and ruled out pcos but she didnt think i was ovulating. got referred to gynae who said to just see how it goes, my cycles are getting a lot shorter now so we shall see. we're still NTNP for the time being, get married next july

(sorry that was so rambly)