Sick of sex!

[FJL]

Is it just me, or are other long term TTC'ers sick of sex too

Sure, it was fun in the beginning but now its all timed and a bit of an anxious time each month its kinda taken the fun out of it

Even DH is sick of it and we find ourselves each month going "not again" and celebrating when its over!

Surely trying to make a baby shouldn't have to feel like this, but I guess when you prepare youself for yet another disapointment and just have sex to get pregnant its not exactly romantic!

Ok...please tell me i'm not the only one

 

[Arcanegirl]

Nope definatley not the only one.
Right now i could happily go without but then i keep thinking well we wont have any chance at all if we dont do it even the once!

 

[Mojo]

yeah it's changed for us too

we used to bd about twice a week but now after doing it 2/3 days in a row during o, we barely do it at any other time of the month.

 

[Iwantone!!!]

aaawwww hunni this is a process u will have to go through to get ur baby so just think evrytime ur BD the nearer u may be getting to that mircale baby the other alternate is not to worry and stress and just do it when u want it instead ogf making it out to be a task

 

[FJL]

We always go hard core (heheeh) around O time, but apart from that hardly do it. We used to do it out of love and enjoyment a good 4 times a week. Now its only for a baby. Its almost like infertility has ruined our sex lives!

 

[skiwi]

what about sizzeling it up a bit, does not have to be just the bedroom....

 

[Mynxie]

you have to find other ways to make it fun

lingerie

toys

anything

 

[wannabmum]

Hi FLJ,
I can totally sympathize (sorry sp) before we found out oh had azoospermia sex got like that for us, it was always planned and felt more like a chore than anything else there was so much pressure on BD and always found myse3lf wanting it over with annd wondering if it worked since we have stopped trying our sex lives have went back to normal and we are enjoying it again.

xx

 

[Wobbles]

Are you still counting the cycle day etc? If you are you want to try and stop doing that part of things and losing yourself somewhere & ya know ... get on with it lol

Hope you know what Im trying to say

 

[SadieChick81]

Yeah I am kind of tired of it too!

 

[avistar]

What about more fore-play, like when you were younger and just holding hand gave you butterflies and made your heart flutter...

 

[FJL]

Thanks for the ideas guys!

Wobs, I have NO idea what you're saying, afraid you're going to have to go into detail just kidding hehehee

 

[NeyNey]

Thank god I'm not the only one!
It's becoming a real chore after more than two years.
Sometimes during the BD I'm thinking "whats the point?"
We've tried spicing it up, and it works for that time...
But it's a huge effort to spice it up every time! lol.....
Sometimes I just can't be bothered.....

DH doesn't seem to lose his drive....but sometimes I'm just
"finish already!" lol.....

 

[FJL]

Hahahahah NeyNey, I hear ya! I resemble a starfish by the end of the months Bd'ing

My hubby is sick of it too which is a HUGE statement from him since he is a typical horny man LOL

 

[jo27]

Im with ya girls, ttc has so messed up my sex life! The past month tho i've taken a break from ttc and just done it when we've felt like it. That seems to have helped but wait until Jan 2008 he won't know what's hit him i'll be back to only BD'ing around ovulation!

 

[cuddlykitties]

I am totally with you. We have only been TTC for 7 months and I am already tired of it. Every month the excitement rises for just a few days thinking maybe this month we will be blessed only for them to be crushed shortly thereafter. It is a cruel joke played on women. We are given the wonderful blessing but it is so difficult for many of us to achieve the blessing. Many days I have thought well maybe we should just give up. I don't think there is any easy way to dealing with problems like ours.

 

[justme00]

I think it can get boring in general after a while whether you are trying for a baby or not. That's why you have to spice things up. Try something new. I've only been married 3 yrs so I'm sure there are alot of things we haven't tried yet! But I completely understand what you mean.... its just darn tiring sometimes too!

 

[PitBullMommy]

DH and I were TTC for two years and it TOTALLY got boring and repetitive and I was starting to HATE BDing. It's just not fun when it's scheduled. Finally we got our BFP after having a FUN and unplanned BD..not a TTC BD. I was starting to feel like I almost wouldn't want a baby to be conceived from the BDing we were doing cause neither of us enjoyed it and it certainly wasn't out of 'love' that we were doing it. It was just for a baby.

 

[RachiePachie]

This became a problem for my husband and I. We were on a fertility drug and thus had to do it on the certain day etc. The last month we decided to just forget about it until we saw the specialist because it was just too much effort in the end. Oddly enough, that last month where we just decided to leave it we enjoyed it more and oddly enough we fell pregnant. Sadly I lost the baby but all the same we fell pregnant. I think the stress of wanting and trying for a baby really does effect things hormonally.