SIL is having a girl. Slightly annoyed. Rant

[AussieBub]

So my SIL is about a month and a bit ahead of me in her pregnancy and she found out today she's having a girl. This has slightly annoyed me. Mainly because I think and an really hoping I'm having a girl and if I am, she'll accuse me of copying again.

I found out the day after she announced her pregnancy, that I too was pregnant. When she learnt of my pregnancy she accused me of thunder stealing and being a copy cat. We'd thought it was just a joke but she was actually annoyed that she wasn't the only person having a baby. She was so selfish about it that she went out of her way to tell my DH's grandparents our good news. Since this is our first baby, telling them was a big deal to my DH and he was really angry and upset she told them behind our back.

Anyway I knew she wanted to have a girl (she already has a son) and rather bitchingly, I was hoping she'd have another boy as karma for ruining our big announcement. But no she is getting her wish and having a girl. DH and I are really wanting to have a girl but now I dread how much more intolerable she is going to be if I dare have the same gender as her. Oh yeah and I should add that I'm due Dec 1st, which is 1 week before her son's birthday. She's already told me I'm not allowed to have my baby in December because it's too close to his birthday. Yeah like I have any control over when baby wants to be born.

She's not making me feel guilty about being pregnant or anything but I am really starting to grow tired of her me me me attitude!

Sorry for the rant but I'm just annoyed that karma didn't sting her and she is having a girl. I hate myself too because since the ultrasound at 12 weeks I've really wanted the baby to be a girl and I'm afraid I'll be disappointed if I'm having a boy and it'll probably make me angrier at my SIL. DH and I are making sure she is last person to find out our baby's gender. She will not ruin the entire pregnancy for us!!!

-AussieBub

 

[Platinumvague]

You just have to worry about yourself.My SIL is 4 months ahead of me and is also being bitchy.She wanted to be the only one pregnant and god forbid someone pays attention to me and not her for a moment.I haven't talked to her since she told everyone we didn't deserve any more children.If its possible just stay away from her.

 

[Angeltk42]

Your SIL is absolutely RIDICULOUS!!! I can't believe how she is acting. Like you have ANY control when your baby decides to make it's debut! Ignore her!!!
I know what you mean about karma people like that need to have karma bite them in the butt but it never seems to! but have no fear they will most likely have a demon child that will make their life miserable so the karma will come later! Sit patiently and watch it unfold.

I was pregnant last year and found out really early only about 4 weeks. My bf (now ex) had a younger brother who was married to this joke of a woman Jess. Jess had 2 daughters from a previous relationship that were taken away from her and adopted because she was deemed UNFIT!!! Well she ended up pregnant like a week ahead of me. My bf decided to tell his mom that I was pregnant and she told EVERYONE in the family. The Bro and SIL moved in with us and she never shut up about her baby and told everyone in the neighborhood I was pregnant too! I did not appreciate that because i didn't want anyone to know until I was ready. Then she tells me that she was pissed that I ended up pregnant because I was stealing her baby thunder. Well fast forward to me being 5weeks and a few days and I start bleeding then ultimately miscarry. She tells all our neighbor friends IN FRONT OF ME... "i'm so happy nothing happened to my baby!" Then later on when me and my bf were breaking up she says to me... "be happy your baby died because then you would be pregnant and breaking up with him and then where would you be?" I very nicely told her "NEVER mention my child again, because I would not care if I was still pregnant and breaking up with him because that baby meant the world to me despite the fact I was only pregnant a few weeks. I don't think it appropriate for you to tell me that I should be happy my baby died." OMGGG sounds like your SIL and My ex's SIL could be related with the doozies they come up with.

I'm sorry you are going through this. Why do people have to be jealous when other friends or relatives are pregnant?? I was thrilled when I found out me and my BFF were pregnant at the same time. Unfortunately, she didn't seem as thrilled and has all but fallen off the map with me... OH well!

I have all my lovely BNB bump buddies who I adore!

 

[AussieBub]

Wow your SIL is a right b***h! What a horrible thing to say to someone! And I'm really sorry to hear about your mc. I was bummed when I heard my SIL was pregnant but that was before I knew I was pregnant and DH and I had been trying for months. When I got my bfp I thought it'd be cool having someone else in the family to share pregnancy symptoms and stories with but I now want little to do with her. Thankfully she doesn't live close but we do see her when we're both visiting her parents.

Ooh here's another example of her me me me attitude. Her younger sister decided to throw herself an 18th party next week. Pregnant SIL turns 21 the weekend after and she asked if they could have a joint party. Her sister said yes, but then she completely took over all the plans, invited a bunch of people who her younger sister doesn't like or get along with (she's not even close to them herself) and she's gone around telling everyone it's her party but they're gonna celebrate her sisters birthday at the same time. Her younger sister is beside herself and really angry. The venue is already booked and paid for and she'd already invited some of her friends so she doesn't want to cancel but she hasn't been able to regain control and is really annoyed. But yeah, just another example of how self absorbed my SIL can be.

-AussieBub

 

[Angeltk42]

Wow your SIL is a right b***h! What a horrible thing to say to someone! And I'm really sorry to hear about your mc. I was bummed when I heard my SIL was pregnant but that was before I knew I was pregnant and DH and I had been trying for months. When I got my bfp I thought it'd be cool having someone else in the family to share pregnancy symptoms and stories with but I now want little to do with her. Thankfully she doesn't live close but we do see her when we're both visiting her parents.

Ooh here's another example of her me me me attitude. Her younger sister decided to throw herself an 18th party next week. Pregnant SIL turns 21 the weekend after and she asked if they could have a joint party. Her sister said yes, but then she completely took over all the plans, invited a bunch of people who her younger sister doesn't like or get along with (she's not even close to them herself) and she's gone around telling everyone it's her party but they're gonna celebrate her sisters birthday at the same time. Her younger sister is beside herself and really angry. The venue is already booked and paid for and she'd already invited some of her friends so she doesn't want to cancel but she hasn't been able to regain control and is really annoyed. But yeah, just another example of how self absorbed my SIL can be.

-AussieBub

Wow that isn't right! She totally ruined her younger sisters bday. That is so mean

 

[IsabellaJayne]

One word for your SIL...BRAT!!

Ignore her hun

 

[Emma&Freya]

Id completly ignore her!

Even if you find out your having a boy you will still love him

 

[alohalady]

I wrote something and posted it by mistake lol I wasn't finished just enjoy ur pregnancy and forget her!

 

[Bonnie11]

The whole situation is totally ridiculous! How can you 'copy' someone falling pregnant or having a girl? Crazy.
She sounds like a brat, if I were you I would steer as clear as I could. Is it your hubby's sister? Has she always been so jealous?
If my SIL was having a baby at the same time I would be thrilled! I'd love them to grow up together and to go through pregnancy with her together etc.
this actually happened to a friend of mine. Her SIL went crazy when she announced her pregnancy a few weeks after her. Pretty much refused to have anything to do with her since even though their kids are a few weeks apart! Crazy.

it's her loss. I would try and stay as clear from her as possible!

 

[geordiemammy]

Tell her to do one and wind her neck in and you know what it would be funny if you had your baby on her sons bday that would really annoy her people are just pathetic people who like to be the centre of attention need to get a life a pregnancy should always be a happy time and no one has the right to take that away from you xx

 

[Longl3gz]

I think a lot of us have those types of sister in laws. Long story short, mine is jealous of me (says friends and famous) so she competes with me on fb and all. She's a real attention seeker and even wore the shortest dress at my wedding! She changed her profile pic of her in her short dress the night of our wedding and got compliments such as "hot mama!" I wanted to say "it's only hot if it's NOT worn at a wedding." Ugh.

The day I announced our pregnancy on fb she changes her status about how people think how cute her girls are and that people say they look like her. She's sooooo narcissistic it's not even funny!

I wonder how she will react once we announce the gender.

Anyways, I always tell myself she's the problem, not me and people who act like our sils means they're miserable and insecure!

 

[shbh1]

Honestly it sounds like you are dealing with an immature child, not an adult mother to be. I dread to think of the values she would pass down to her children..and its really laughable that she thought you copied her by getting pregnant lol you dont get sillier than that tbh.

My advice to you is to ignore her as much as possible because she just seems clueless. And if your baby is due on the same day as her boy's birthday, then so be it. If she doesn't like it, thats her problem to deal with.

 

[AussieBub]

She is very immature and her son is a little terror. She always has had to be the centre of attention and apparently has always been a brat. In fact all her family are hoping she has a little girl who is a much of a brat as she was lol.

But yeah DH and I are just staying well clear of her except for those family occasions where we'll all be together. Should point out she had her first child at 18 then her and her DH split after he hit her, then after 6 months they got back together and now it's been a year and a half and now they're having baby number 2. She'll be 21 when this one is born.

-AussieBub

 

[All Girls]

Dare i say it but you both are being ridiculous. You both should be worrying about yourselves and not each other.

I think it is childish you were wishing she would have the opposite gender she had a preference for. You say you wish karma had given her another son as if having another son is a bad thing. I'm sure she would have accepted either and loved her baby regardless of gender. She had a 50% chance of having a girl. As do you. She cannot dictate what gender you have no more than you can. It's out of your hands. Forget about it and just enjoy your pregnancy.

As for not wanting your baby to be born in December. Again being stupid and ridiculous. The baby will come when it's ready and does not effect her son's birthday or her life so she needs to grow up.

It all seems so childish.

 

[zanDark]

What is it with the insecure SILs?

My SIL (DH's sister) has always copied everything I've done since I've met her! From haircuts, to getting the same glasses, watches, boots etc! It's ridiculous!

She was very supportive during our IVF and was over the moon when I got pg, but soon after she had a complete meltdown about how she feels she's come to a dead end in her life since she's not having a 3rd child.

She even went as far as to say she was so stressed and freaked out about it that she got her doctor to give her a holter to wear to see if she had a heart problem lol I'm not the type of person to worry about people "stealing my thunder" and silly crap like that, but I had to roll my eyes at her once her results came back completely normal.

Thankfully she stopped all the nonsense once I told her that if she's going to be so devastated by it then she should just pop one out and get it over with since she conceived both her kids immediately and tbh I meant it too! I would be delighted if her or any of my friends got pregnant at the same time I was...but I guess she wasn't that devastated after all

ETA: OP I wouldn't waste my time getting annoyed with your SIL! Every baby is precious, and even if they share the same birthday or gender, it really doesn't matter! Everyone will love them both for the perfect little creatures that they are....if she can't see that then she leads one hell of a boring life that gives her time to freak out over the stupidest things lol rise above the pettiness and be happy she got the gender she wanted you'll feel much better if you just let it all go!

 

[Rainstorm]

It's obvious you didn't go home the day she told you and made your own baby to compete with her. You were pregnant too, just didn't know it. When I told everyone at work I was pregnant, a colleague and friend told us she was expecting too, and she's one month ahead of me. I was annoyed in my mind for like a second, and then I just felt happy for both of us. Besides, since this is my first and it's her second, people have been more attentive with me than her, they even forget she's pregnant too sometimes, and I have to remind them.

 

[Karenfla36]

Sounds like she wants all the attention, and now she has to share. oh, poor thing. tell her the get the F over it!!! congrats to you

 

[AussieBub]

Why is there always one person who had to make you feel bad for opening up? This is suppose to be the one pace I can come to open up about what's really bothering me. Yes how I really feel may seem childish and immature but it's not like act on those feelings and go out of my way to ruin special moments for her. Thanks to all the ladies who have offered their support and shared their stories. I don't feel as pathetic thanks to you. But thanks to lovely lady who has made me feel like like I can't even open up here anymore!

-AussieBub

 

[Glitter_berry]

My actual sister was like this, saying she was having a girl and I HAD to have a boy as this was her last child and she wanted it to have all the attention..

She got told 4 times it was a girl and when I found out I was having a girl too said, you have only had the one scan, I bet you will still have a boy..

She had her baby before me and karma bit her BIG TIME, she delivered a little boy! and then when I had my girl acted like I did it on purpose and demanded I buy all the girl things she had bought for her baby because I did "steal her thunder"

lol not a chance in hell!


Don't worry about her, enjoy your pregnancy and I hope you and DH get your little girl if thats what you want

 

[zanDark]

seriously, how can anyone think people had a baby of a specific gender "on purpose"?

it makes me want to continuously smack them on the forehead with a spoon until they promise to never say anything that stupid ever again