Silly things people say. What's your experience?

[Schmelly]

"It obviously wasn't meant to be" after miscarriage has got to be one of the most frustrating comments I've had. By that logic, all the child-abusers, alcoholics, schoolgirls, etc etc etc getting pregnant and having healthy babies...............they WERE meant to be?????????? Are you kidding?

And "So when are you going to have kids then?".......like it's that easy...you just decide you want one and piff paff poof there's a baby!

And the friends who spend ages persuading you to have kids because it's so amazing. Well-intentioned, I suppose, but so painful to hear.

It's just such a tough journey...after 19 months I'm clutching at straws to find some pma. And I know there are lots of you who have had a far longer, tougher journey than me. Thank goodness for BnB...a place where people understand and a place to vent!

 

[smokey]

Just to add my thoughts on this

My top 3 idots of all time over the last few years.

1 "think yourself lucky most women would kill not to have it every month" (my Dr after going to her when I was 16 to find out why I only had about 3 perieds a year)
2 "well its not like youd want them anyway" ( my boss after telling her i didnt think I could have children after 5 years trying)
3 " I did the test and turns out im pregnant but I dont want it, oh haha you can have it cant you?" (girl just after me telling her I had been trying for nearly 8 years)

 

[smokey]

Although there are some nice things people have said like today.
My husband knows I get sudden urges to test for no reason, im sure I cant be the only one to get those just in case urges.
So im flapping about on the phone today because iv run out of tests at home, im not realy due to test for a few days yet but im impatient and stupid.
So my husband says "dont worry ill pick you one up on my way home, my treat" it just made me smile

 

[buffycat]

another excample for you....someone at work said this to me....

"we've been trying to get pregnant for 3 months now and we are getting so frustrated that it hasnt happened yet....."

?!?!!!

 

[Clueless]

And another one... my friend laughing after I'd told her we were still ttc and saying "you were on the pill for all those years and didn't even need it"...wtf?

 

[jeanettekaren]

And another one... my friend laughing after I'd told her we were still ttc and saying "you were on the pill for all those years and didn't even need it"...wtf?

That's disgusting and unforgiveable, I hope you gave her a piece of your mind.

My best friend keeps telling me that I should be pregnant by now, yeah thanks "mate". She also loves telling me that the morning after she had sex (after being off the pill for a day) she knew she was pregnant - err hello, I don't think it quite works that quickly otherwise we wouldn't have the hell that is the 2ww!!

Who needs enemies....

 

[Schmelly]

And another one... my friend laughing after I'd told her we were still ttc and saying "you were on the pill for all those years and didn't even need it"...wtf?

OMG.............is she still your friend???

 

[bailey4eva]

Hi girls, I have just come here to open my eyes up a little bit to long term TTCers n those who may not have children. When i was younger I was taught that you can get pregnant at any point in ur cycle etc etc. which is true, but it also makes u believe that u can get pregnant very easily. Since I came on here wanting a baby, I have realised that in most cases it usually involves waiting!! I have said some of these things in the past *bad me!!!* and just simply because I dont know what it is like. I do apologise for this though, sometimes im good at empathising but sometimes im not so good. So rather than me giving advice to you all....(coz it wouldnt be very good!) I just want to say GOOD LUCK to you all, you all deserve to be pregnant and have all the children you want to have, I do now think about the situation with knowing some people who are finding it a struggle. I actually cant see any reason why a woman shouldnt be able to have children if she wants them, they are guna be loved and not taken advantage of (like some ppl can wen they dont have to "try"). OK maybe im goin towards sayin more stuff that mite not be good to say, i do mean well though.

Good luck once again with your journeys xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

*baby dust to you all* !

 

[CurlySue]

Today, by a FERTILITY DOCTOR

"We'd have to do a different type of treatment than we'd do for normal women."

 

[Jan34]

Grrrr, CS, how awful for you. That's so insensitive! Do these people not understand that the field they work in requires a little tact?

My favourites are;

-From the receptionist in the maternity department, whilst I am waiting to go in for my US and getting a little distressed at being sat directly opposite a screen running useful tips for pregnancy and taking your baby home from the hospital (yes, really) I got "Ahhhhh, my son had the same problem as you. I think they've given up now".

-Friend's husband - "I wish it had taken us longer to get pregnant, we'd have got to have more sex that way". Say that again buster and the kick I will impart to your gonads means you'll likely never have sex again!

-Well meaning relative. "We got pregnant the 2nd month we tried. I thought I was pregnant the 1st month, and I was sooo upset when I found out I wasn't". Yes love... just multiply that by 20, each one progressively worse than the 1st, and then you can talk to me.