Single Moms of 2+.. Hows dating?

[ilvmylbug]

I just recently became a single mother and I have two daughters, 3 yrs and 5 mos. Can anyone with 2 or more kids tell me how your love life is?

 

[Laura2919]

Non existent No honestly I am trying to give the girls a stable surrounding before I even think about getting with someone else. I 'see' people but not around the girls and I don't like the idea of anyone being here around them just yet. Chloe and Jaycee deserve a good upbringing and we are just starting to settle into nursery, get used to only seeing their dad every other weekend and I just want to make sure all is well with them first.

When the time is right someone will come along. Until then just make sure your happy and your children are happy and when it comes you'll be ready

 

[teal]

I only have one child but I really agree with what Laura has said.

I did meet someone else but he just didn't understand that I couldn't give him all my attention all of the time. My son will always come first. When I realised he wasn't ever going to accept that I ended it with him.

I'm not even bothered about meeting someone at the moment. xx

 

[Laura2919]

It worries me that I might meet someone who doesn't understand my life and how busy I am. I don't think I have time for a man right now anyway so I know its definitely not the right time.

 

[Dezireey]

Can't say from personal experience but I guess this is something for me to consider in future - my friend has basically got a rule, after having her fingers burnt with two men. She refuses to introduce any new man to her little girl or bring him home unless he is very serious about her and she is serious about him. I think I will follow this rule as I really don't want my son in the future to get attached to any man I am seeing unless it gets serious (ring on finger stuff!) especially as he probably won't have his real father around.

 

[cherry_pie]

I have one little boy who is seven months and will deff have the rule about it having to be verrry serious before they get to meet my son. I dont know if I will ever marry again but it would need to be to the point of wanting to live together before I would introduce them. I can only imagine dating is going to be tough because my son will always come first and i don't like late drinking nights out etc anymore as I want a good routine for my son of putting him to bed etc. I will see other people when im ready, but they wont be having anything to do with my baby. All this does make me sad b

 

[Octobermommy2]

My girls are 2. I did not date until they were about 6 months old. Their father and I split when I found out I was having twins at 10 weeks pg. I am now with an amazing man. Him and I are due to have another baby in June . Dating is hard and a scarey process with babies. I thought I would never dtd again!!!!! Things will work out if u allow them too .

 

[v2007]

Same as Laura

V xxx

 

[Snowball]

I've got 4... It's impossible

I am still a bit messed in the head from my marriage though so I know it wouldn't be right for me right now. I've been offered on dates and instead of thinking, "Oh yes, I'm looking forward to that!", I just think, "He blatantly wants a one night stand and I'll never hear from him again"... I need to change my outlook before I think about involving someone else iykwim?

I want to get the little'uns a bit older and more independent, get the current access arrangement changed and then think about it in the future

 

[rustii]

iv 3 kids under 4,dating is out of the question indefinately ..i think i will find it very difficult to find a man willing to take on 3 kids dat arent his

 

[cherry_pie]

I know it sounds daft but Im terrified if I ever do meet another man of getting pregnant again but if this time doesnt work out it means I will have 2 kids to 2 different fathers and still be single. I know thats a really bad outlook to have...

 

[Cazamatazaaa]

I have 2 kids with 2 different dads and I thought my second dad was the one turns out the opposite I'm now petrified of all men and completely give up

 

[v2007]

I have 3 kids by different men.

Never hasd any problems or assumptions.

V xx

 

[Cazamatazaaa]

I dont mind it as such, I am just one of those people that really worry what people think, we all have different names too which i cant stand

 

[cherry_pie]

I really hate my son has a different name from me. Im hopign to get it double barrelled down the line. Have no idea how to go about it though I know my ex will never agere, I dont know if that matters.

 

[LightningBugs]

Dating what's that then? I only have 1 and wouldn't have the time or energy to look for someone else, if I did find someone by a miracle then I'd never be able to go out as I have no one to babysit.

 

[laura3103]

impossible i have 2 and havent got time to date but would love too as once kids are in bed at 7pm im lonely

 

[v2007]

My eldest and youngest have different surnames

Doesn't bother me so why should it bother others!!



V xx