Six fertility friends -TTC #1 to BFP

[DandJ]

Loving those tests Sophia! I know a lot of people, my SIL included, who whose homemade cleaning solution.

Yay Cupcake! I hope it sticks


I watched the Great Sperm Race and it really does put into perspective of how little the chances are for the egg to be fertilized! Making the DH watch it with me because it's so interesting

 

[Mississippi03]

Keeping my fx for you cupcake.. Keep us up to date and post a pic!!

Lol dandj, i watched it the other day.. Dh refused hah but after i watched it, i dont mind because im sure he ould be like 'your vagina fights off my sperm ' and blame my vagina for the fact that we havent gotten pregnant lol

 

[stellaluna431]

Crossing all my crossables cupcake

 

[DandJ]

Haha, I wouldn't let him blame my vagina! I'd have him get a SA

 

[Mississippi03]

Haha, I wouldn't let him blame my vagina! I'd have him get a SA

We go for that tomorrow.

 

[Mintastic]

Brooke - I hope the SA goes well and you get good results!

Amanda - Fingers crossed for you!!

 

[KBCupcake]

Thanks so much for the support y'all

I had very sharp pain and pressure in my left side last night (I figured it was implantation pain but it was more painful than I'm used to) followed by general cramps. I told my husband I felt like I was going to miscarry again. It's really very early on to say but after 2 MCs I can't help but feel pessimistic. This morning I took another test (same test type, same batch) and it was even fainter than yesterday. DH couldn't see the line this time.

WHAT THE HELL. I'm so angry. I hope this wasn't a chemical because that would be my third freaking MC. I have a box of FRER that'll arrive tomorrow so I'll take one of those, but I'm so disappointed. I've spent my morning googling this situation and it seems most likely it was a chemical. Ugh.

Hoping everyone has a lovely Monday.

 

[DandJ]

Ugh, that is so disappointing.. I'm so sorry Cupcake!

 

[Mintastic]

Sorry Amanda that things are not looking good. There is still hope until AF shows though.

The only other hope I can offer is that maybe if you showed DH the Walmart test after the time limit (the way I read it in your earlier post but not totally clear) that faint line could have been an evap which is only hopeful in the sense of it maybe not being an early loss/"chemical" after all.

 

[stellaluna431]

I hate the term chemical. It makes it feel so impersonal. Like you weren't actually pregnant and weren't already attached to your baby. I am so sorry if that's what you're going through, but I sincerely hope that when your FRERs come tomorrow you get a good line. Sending prayers your way

Brooke, how did the SA go? I know you don't get results right away, but he got the sample and stuff there on time alright?? Been thinking about you guys today.

 

[Mintastic]

That's why I usually put "chemical" in quotes.
I don't when talking about my own though as I do think of it that way more than an early loss since it happened at a time when we were actually trying to prevent and while I got a little excited at first and we would have made it work the disappointment wasn't heartbreaking at that time.

Also, Elena - are you around. Haven't seen an update from you in a bit - unless I missed it.

 

[Mississippi03]

I have read just not in the mindframe to formulate thoughts right now.
Sophia you are a beautiful person
I will come back on in a couple of hours after I have had time for a glass of wine and update.

 

[Mississippi03]

WHAT THE HELL. I'm so angry. I hope this wasn't a chemical because that would be my third freaking MC. I have a box of FRER that'll arrive tomorrow so I'll take one of those, but I'm so disappointed. I've spent my morning googling this situation and it seems most likely it was a chemical. Ugh.

Thinking of you girl. Have you gotten a blood test? Keeping my fingers crossed for you.. Hoping you start feeling better!

Brooke, how did the SA go? I know you don't get results right away, but he got the sample and stuff there on time alright?? Been thinking about you guys today.

Today was weird. Sorry I was a grumpy gus when I got home from work.
SA was done and handed in on time. We can get the results next week, so dh will call for that. But the whole thing was weird and caused a big fight between dh and I.

He knew when we left that this place a strictly a med lab.. Meaning they didnt have a place for you to go into to do your business. He just intnded to do it in the car while I drove.. Because it was an hour away and it had to be there within 30 minutes. Well we get there and he still hadnt done it. THEN acted shocked that he couldnt go inside. There was a gas station next door so I tried to get him to go in the bathroom there vs sitting in the parking lot where anyone could walk up. But noooooo.. He wanted to do it in the car and I was utterly embarrassed. Finally I drove to an empty large lot next door. Well he starts doing his thing and I burst out laughing because it was just freaking weird. Then I get in trouble for laughing of course lol..

Well when we were at the drs to get the requisition she says 'you only do it once. It wont be a lot. But you dont do it four or five times to try ane make more. Small is normal' dh brushed it off.. Well he does it today, looks up the cup and goes 'that sure is small' lol i think he almost died thinking his load would be this big thing and it wasnt lol

But then on the ride home he was insta mad.. Like grilling me about everything. We had it out big time lol nooo idea what his deal was. But then he decided to ignore me. We both went to work.. I came home over it, he came home with an attitude so it ruined my night too. Im wondering if now that its done and hnded in hes worried bout the results and this is just his way of dealing with it. I have nooo clue.. But im hoping he gets over it soon.

Thanks for thinking of me girls.. And i saw your post in my journal mint. I will just copy this post to my journl lol to much to retype. But i apprecite your thoughts xo

Onto the next step lol US on thursday!

 

[Mintastic]

Men get really sensitive about this kind of stuff. Unfortunately for most women (generalization I know) sensitive means getting weepy or moody and for most men I know sensitive translates into being either standoffish or total jerks. Sigh...

That is crazy about the med lab not having any place to do it when the sample needs to get there quickly - what do other people do?! I would have laughed too! Honestly I don't think my DH would have been even able to finish in a situation like that.

At least that part is over now and just waiting. Always with the waiting this whole TTC game!

 

[DandJ]

Wow, I concur with Mint.. how come the lab didn't have a restroom to deposit the sample into? Crazy! I would feel uncomfortable watching DH trying to jerk off beside me in the car in the OPEN. Oh yes, my DH is sooo sensitive about his performance that I just ignore him.

Give him some TLC and hopefully he will come around

 

[DandJ]

So I had 3 days of watery cm and then today I had creamy cm? I haven't O'd yet due to my temps not spiking... ideas?

 

[Mintastic]

Do you have a link to your chart Jill?
Doing OPKs?

 

[DandJ]

No OPKs this round as they confused the heck out of me last time, just temping & checking cm. Here it is!

https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/45a186//thumb.png
My Ovulation Chart

I must add that my temp spikes end up in the 98* or higher when I O.

 

[stellaluna431]

Wow I can't believe they don't have a bathroom or something he can use. I mean, I understand it's a medical facility, but when that's the nature of their business I would assume someone would think of that.

I, too, would have cracked up if I was in your situation. It would be so awkward hahaha- just sitting in an empty parking lot watching your husband masturbate... definitely hilarious. I think he might just be lashing out because he's a man and he's worried about the results, just like you and Mint say. Since it's so upsetting to him, I'd take it as a good sign. He really seems to care about this and wants everything to be okay.

GL at your US tomorrow. Thinking of you as always

 

[Mintastic]

I wouldn't worry too much about the CM Jill - mine sometimes changes throughout the day. And you aren't late to O yet.
One of my apps says it is better to check it at night (not after BDing or when aroused though obviously) anyway so maybe check it again later. Even FF says it is normal to have patches of fertile cm at different times in your cycle.