Slimming world advice please :)

[AngelUK]

I am so sorry Bailey! This really sucks! How horrible!
What is he like as a dad? Do you think in that respect at least you can work something out with him?
And well done on the weight loss! And you are right, don't let him take that away, this is something that is for you and you can and will succeed! The occasional treat won't harm you as long as you are on plan the rest of the week. And I do think the fitter and better you feel, the more it will help you also to get over this. Tons of in the meantime!

 

[baileybubs]

Thanks Hun. He's a great dad and I think in a few weeks time it's gonna really start to get to him that he's not living with them any more, but if he genuinely doesn't love me anymore then he'll have to get used to it. My mum seems to think he's just running away coz he's not coping with the responsibility and he's confusing a tough time in the relationship with not loving me. I'm not getting my hopes up that's the case though, I'm just gonna keep on moving forward as if he doesn't love me. If he does and he turns around and asks to come back we'll have to go from there and see what happens but I can't live hoping one day he might decide he wants to come back.

 

[AngelUK]

You seem to have a very healthy attitude towards it all. You are obviously a very strong woman and you are going to be a fantastic role model for your kids and especially your little girl. I always think we should not accept things we would find unacceptable if they happened to our own kids. Stay strong!

 

[nicki01]

As angel said, your very level headed through all of this. Your doing amazing. And the weight loss too is fantastic.
I hope things go smoothly for you however things turn out.

I'm doing ok this week I think, although I keep eating the same things most days because I can't be bothered to be adventurous lol! Laziness at its best!!

I haven't got a car today as my partner has taken it into work for an oil change! He's a mechanic who has his own garage so its really handy!
I was going to walk a good 2 miles up to the range and matalan and have a look for Xmas but now its raining and as much as I don't mind the walk with my loaded double pushchair as it will be good for me, I really really don't want to get wet!

 

[AngelUK]

I know what you mean, the LOs are all nice and cozy under the rain cover and you get soaked lol. I actually have a huge oil cloth hat for that but of course one still gets wet and it is just so uncomfy. I like walking in the rain in the country side but in a city I find it just horrid.
FX for your weigh in, I think it is tomorrow, right?

 

[nicki01]

I too don't mind walking in it but I have to go down a 2 lane main road and I just think it will horrid walking down it as that's the lengthiest part of the walk! Hope it stops by lunch and I will make the trip!
Yes weigh in tomorrow. I'm nervous but optimistic! I haven't cheated at all, but still don't ever seem to be confident.
One thing I am really pleased about is how when I started sw I was having a sandwich with side salad for lunch and it wasn't enough, I still need a yoghurt and fruit too but over the last 3 weeks that has for better, now the sandwich and salad fills me up! And the last 3 evenings I have had my dinner and then not got hungry for my biscuits.

 

[AngelUK]

Excellent progress
I think you will get more of a feeling for how you did as you get further along in the diet, maybe.
The other day we went to a favourite cafe again for the first time in over a month and the lady there said that not only could she see that I had lost weight but she thought my skin looked really good too! Was lovely to hear of course and I think all that fruit and water really does help the skin too. I really love this diet even if it is slow!

 

[nicki01]

That's really good that people can notice a difference, gives you a boost that's its all worth it.
I haven't noticed a change but 5lb isn't really much so I've still a way to go before its visible. My partner said my boobs have shrunk slightly lol! That's about right, I want to loose my tummy and my chunky edges but instead my boobs go first lol!

 

[nicki01]

Oh and I just remembered I will get my Xmas book tomorrow :-D excited!!

 

[baileybubs]

You'll notice soon enough Nicki , I'm already fitting into my old jeans that wouldn't go over my fat bum now and that's with just 8lb lost! I don't know if other people can see it but I think my face looks less fat too lol!

Oooh wish I could have got the 12 week countdown, no money though til my single benefits come in though.

I'm really gonna struggle this week coz a) I don't want to eat!! And b) I cant afford to go good shopping til next week so I've got to use up all the crap I've got in the cupboard and freezer!! It sucks!! So I'm ready for a gain next week!

 

[Katerz]

Eeek behind again.

1/2 a lb on this week but I'm fine with that still well within target and not bad for a night on the town Saturday followed by a cheesy chip wrap! Lol

Hope everyone is ok... I shall try to catch up.

Xmas book goes on sale next week I believe (not that I NEED anymore SW books hah!)

 

[nicki01]

Bailey its tough when you have nothing in but crap, I do find I keep popping to the shops midweek to fill up on fruit and salad which I never done before so its costing me a bit extra! I'm sure once your settled and got your money sorted you will be back on track, just do the best you can with what you have, can't do any more than that!

Katerz I imagine that cheesy chip wrap was well worth the 1/2 lb!! Mmmmm! You will drop that no problem!

I lost 1lb this week. I left the house saying as long as I lose a lb I will be happy, well actually I'm not happy lol. I secretley wanted 2 but didn't tell anyone that!!
Got to get another lb off for next week for my 1/2 stone!!

 

[AngelUK]

Every loss is good! But I know what you mean. I am trying hard to eat more super free than free and constantly look for new recipes that are easy like that. The cauliflower cheese bake is nice if you are a bit generous with the mustard powder and use extra mature cheese. And it is not expensive But yes I too buy lots of fruit salads. I have bought whole watermelons but they are a bit hit and miss on ripeness at this season. Maybe I will look into froze berries more, that might be another thing one could stock up on and they'll taste lovely in yoghurts etc

 

[Katerz]

Tonight I did beef and bean hotpot from the all in one book it was sooooo tasty I had seconds and enough for two lunches....oh and fed hubby with it too.

Love comfort meals mmmmm

Have you Googled what a lb of fat looks like? Give it a go if not you may be surprised, I used to get disappointed with 1lb losses but felt much better after being able to visualise it I always send the pic to my mum when she is disappointed.

 

[baileybubs]

Katerz I was gonna tell Nicki the same thing! If you look at a picture of what a pound of fat looks like you won't say "only" a pound, coz it's massive lol!! A loss is a loss and sometimes your body slows and speeds up for no reason. You might find you have a bigger loss this week (however I do get what you mean, I'm the same I say I'd be happy with a pound but secretly would only be happy with 2lb or more lol!!)

Mmmmm that beef and bean hotpot sounds delish katerz!!!

Angel I get frozen berries, they are ok for in yoghurts or you can make instant ice cream with them, blitz them whilst frozen with some quark and sweetener. I made some and ate it straight away and it was yum but don't then freeze it coz then it goes a bit bitty and grainy. It's best to just make as you want it. It's very tart but I like that lol!

Ladies I'm going to lose this week purely coz I'm not eating!!! Which means when I eventually do start eating I'll gain again! I just can't bring myself to eat, it's pure laziness coz I can be bothered cooking and I'm feeling sorry for myself. Need to snap out of it and just move forward don't i?

 

[AngelUK]

Unfortunately on this diet if you do not eat, your body will start conserving energy and you won't lose any and yes, pile on weight as you start eating. It is a real bummer. So do try to eat a little bit at least! I hope things get sorted out for you really soon! xxx

 

[baileybubs]

I know, I know I'm being bad!! I've done better so far today, I made myself eat breakfast!

And I've got stuff sorted for tea, just need to sort lunch now but I'm thinking potato and cottage cheese with salad

 

[AngelUK]

Sounds perfect!

 

[nicki01]

There was 3 pumpkins on the table and she made us pick them up and guess the weights! The biggest one I guessed to be a stone. I was so happy when she said its was 6.5lb as I've lost 6 so far and it really was quite heavy!
I know a lb is good and I'm still pleased I lost but still can't shake the fact I was secretley hoping for 2!

I'm doing spag Bol tonight but its a jar so I need to look at the syns. I've got extra lean 5% mince and carrots and mushrooms to throw in but haven't had any syns today so I'm ok for the jar in there, I never eat alot of spag Bol anyway. I'm going to get walking again this week as I want to get more Xmas shopping done so will hit the high street, last week I didn't do much so maybe that didn't help me.
I'm dreading if I stay the same or get a gain I think I will cry lol.

 

[nicki01]

I'm also getting fed up of people's comments, whilst most would think its a good thing its really annoying the hell out of me!
'Oh you don't need to lose weight, why are you going to sw'
I really want to say, do you want me to strip naked and point it out! Whilst I'm pleased you think I don't need to lose weight, I actually do! I have back fat, love handles and underneath this floaty top a tummy that looks 5 months pregnant, also a double chin that if I even slightly move my head in one direction will stick out! Lets not forget my bum that now has cellulite dimples in it! But hey I won't go because you think I look ok with clothes on!!!'
Ahhh! I could scream! I can't wear fitting clothes because I will get mistaken for being pregnant again, which has happened once already!!
Why can't people accept its a personal thing??!!