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[steph1505]

Wow!!!! Thats all i can say about tonights OBEM! That disabled woman was just amazing!! I cried a lot tonight!! And then OH came in from work with a bottle of lemon fanta for me (i was totally craving it the other day) and that totally set me off in tears haha!!

How did u get on sorting out DS's baby clothes? Im so jealous!! Haha! Xxxxxxx

 

[smiley330]

Ahhhh OBEM last night was so lovely!!

Steph - I reeeaaallly want some lemon fanta now!! My OH came in with a bar of galaxy for me... this made me very happy!

Yep, got through sorting the clothes, ah it was so weird. It's strange cuz the smell of all the little clothes just bought everything back - we must have been using really strong washing powder at the time cuz all the clothes smelt the same - haha, I sound weird now. But it's amazing what a smell can do! I CANT WAIT for this baby to arrive!!!

I think there must be some more bags somewhere though, either in the loft or at MIL's house - as I can remember specific outfits that weren't in there so will have to try and hunt them out!

x x x

 

[CertainTurton]

Hi Ladies,

Wow lots of chatter

Beauty - how exciting about your scan!! Not long - Im guessing girl (we're in the minority here )

Smiley - I have to admit I am now drinking fanta...thanks steph Glad to hear the appointment went well, it will be good to have a growth scan. Mine is on teh 7th Feb (the C sec decision day...eeek).

Steph - lovely pic such a cute bump!

OBEM was amazing - although its a shame the lady was so disapointed to have a girl! The disabled lady did so well! and was so emotional - even DH stayed to watch the episode! I had a sickie yesterday as was just feeling sooo rough and tired, did me good to just slob for a day..loads to catch up on today though!
Me and DH are off on our 'babymoon' to center parcs haha tomorrow...cannot wait as I have a mummy 2 be massage booked...woop! just what I need

xx

 

[steph1505]

Hello!

Certain - aw ur babymoon sounds lovely!! I hope us enjoy it!! What are your thoughts on whether on not to get a c-section? What would you prefer? And what would ur OH prefer? Even though he hasn't said it, I know my OH would much prefer I got a c-section!

Smiley - Aaaw I really wish I had Brandon's clothes to go through! I totally know what you mean about a smell! My mum was washing the dishes in our house one day and we use apple scented washing up liquid and I went in and she was selling up because it reminded her of when she used to wash my hair with apple shampoo! Lol! It's amazing!

AFM - all I'm thinking about today is my beautiful clothed coming!! Week! It's not arriving til 6pm though! Aah!

Xxxxxxxx

 

[CertainTurton]

lol steph I can tell you are excited

Yeah its also DHs bday on Tues so its a joint thing - Im looking forward to sleeping LOTS and eating...hehe.

Im really torn about the C section. Obviously I want whats best for DD but i am scared I wont be able to cope with the pushing (because of the chiari) and Im petrified of having an emergency C. I think if they give me the option I will go for a C because in the long run it will be safer but Im then worried I will feel like ive 'failed' a bit. Although tbh most births seem to have some intervention these days so its not very natural in that respect...Its sooo hard. Im kind of hoping they just tell me either way and thats that.
DH is really good about it all and doesnt push either way but I think he would prob prefer the C in that its more controlled (he is very organized ) and he isnt shy/worried about helping out when DD is here (which i know he would need to do more of if I had a C). He also hates seeing me in pain
What do you girls think? I value your opinions greatly!

 

[steph1505]

It really is a tough one for u becos as u say, u do have the chiari which could cause problems for u!

Obviously, ive had a csection but it was an emergency one and i really dont want to repeat that situation again! The actual operation isnt bad at all, the doctors do everythin to relax u and u have ur OH right there at ur head to make sure ur ok! The moment they hand ur DD to u, it all goes away! But im sure thats the exact same as a vaginal delivery!

I'm gonna be honest and dont really say this to a lot of people, but i have such a feeling of failure for the fact i had a csection but im not the same as u! I dont have any underlying conditions, my body just didnt do what it was supposed to do! I am absolutely terrified it happens again but i know that they wont let me get to the point that it got to last time!

It really is such a tough choice but like you say, u wanna do what is best! If i get told at my consultant appt that i need a csection, so be it! At the end we all get our babies...and its not the birth that defines the mother, its what you do after the birth!

Ive heard a lot of women say that a mother and child wont bond as well as they should if they have a csection...thats absolute nonsense! My son loves me! Im his mummy! And i dont think we could be closer! So dont let any of those comments get in ur head!

Sorry for rambling...its jst a thought that is constantly at the front of my mind!

Xxxxxxx

 

[smiley330]

Steph - Haha I can tell you are excited as well! Definitely need pictures!!

Certain - Ahh babymoon sounds lovely, hope you and your DH have a nice time! Re: the C sect - I honestly think just do what you are comfortable with. If that's the C then that's it! There is no point in going in for the vag delivery if you are just going to be more worried and it create more stress for you and baby. I really don't get the feeling guilty / failing for having a C-sect.... maybe I would if I had to have one, but to me however the baby comes is how they're meant to come!! As long as they come out!

Awww Steph - you should definitely not have a feeling of failure!! Your body just created a human - how on earth is that in any way failing??

As i've said before, the recovery time after a "normal" delivery is still longer than they'd have you believe. It's not like you just hop up and you're ready to jump fences - it bloody hurts. (well it did me anyway... maybe i'm just a wimp! haha!) It is not surgery so obviously in that respect things are quicker / should have less complications, but you will still need a bit of recovery time and help! And Steph - from what you've said, your recovery was fairly straight forward wasn't it?

x x x x

 

[steph1505]

Yeah my recovery was really straight forward! I got a slight infection in my wound but a wee course of anti biotics sorted it out! I remember it hurting for a few days but after that it was more just that i was aware of the wound, rather than it actually hurting!

The thing that puts me off another csection is the length of time u need to stay in the hospital!

Tbh, it was other people that made me feel like a failure, telling me that i hadnt experienced true child birth, even tho i laboured til i was 8cm...and that i wont have got the same feeling of achievement that i would have if id deliverer naturally! Ok, i doubt i did...but i still got my baby!

And thats a good point smiley... my body grew a human being! Thats the main thing!

So certain...do what u feel u need to! This is pros and cons to both and u just need to weigh it all up! Xxxxxxx

 

[steph1505]

Ugh!! This bloomin couple arent here yet and its 5 to 7!! I hate people being late! U would think they would be quite keen to get the £150 but nooooooo!!

Lol...imagine making a hormonal pregnant woman wait! Lol! Xxxxxx

 

[CertainTurton]

Aww ladies you are amazing thanks for being honest with your opinions. I will wait and see what the consultant says but I am going to do my best to be positive about whatever the outcome!

Steph - You are certainly not a failure and you have a lovely healthy DS When will you be told? I hope they arrived soon...its def not good to aggravate a preg woman! Im being so snappy at the mo not good.

So we had our first NCT class yesterday eve - was quite strange but they seem like nice couples. Was quite cheesy with picking out emotion cards etc but still, I really think it will help DH as well.
Woop off to Center parcs later...

How are you all today?

 

[smiley330]

Ah no Steph - How can they make you wait??? What were they thinking?! I hope it arrived quickly!!

Certain - Ooh I remember going to those classes when I was preg with DS, I do think they helped OH, at least get a bit prepared for what was going to happen in labour. That and watching OBEM

Hope you have a fab time away!!!! x x x

 

[kbkb]

Heyyyy girls!

Certain- I cant believe we're talking birth options already!! I agree with everyone else- you should feel comfortable enough to do whatever suits you and your body and your situation. there is really no point going through so much pain and/ or putting baby at risk just for the sake of having the vaginal birth. Dont ever feel like you are chickening out! so not true. You do what is right to you at that point of time with the information you have!!!
Have a super babymoon....aw, it will be just fantastic! be a while before you can get out again with DD, so make the most of it!!!

Steph- Say bollocks to the people who made you feel any lesser for having a C-Sec!!! this whole obsession people have just makes me mad!!!

Smiley- I am blaming you for the Strawberry slush I am having now

 

[steph1505]

Hey ladies!! Well they finally arrived at half 7! I wasnt best pleased lol! Its all built but we def need to re-arrange Brandons room lol! Its a wee bit cramped now with the way the furniture is! Will get it all rearranged soon!

I never went to NCT classes, just the ones at my hospital, but i do remember thinking they were helpful!

Enjoy ur babymoon certain!! Im not jealous at all xxx

 

[steph1505]

Hello ladies!

Hope everyones had a good weekend!!

Kbkb - u has that baby yet? Hehe!!

Weve came up to Inverness for a week to stay with my mum and dad! We hadnt seen them since November so we still had to do Christmas presents lol! So we came in & they'd put the christmas tree back up! And were having a proper Christmas dinner 2nite! Yum yum!!!!

So Brandon has been totally spoiled again lol! He got a wee keyboard and microphone which he absolutely loves! Hes so funny 'singing' into the microphone! And he got a kitchen too! Lol i seriously do need to move house now haha!!

Hope everyones enjoying Monday! Xxxxxx

 

[kbkb]

I'm so tired ........................Spent a restless night and my stomach has been hardening a lot - Braxton hicks?? Not had that baby yet!!!!

Lucky you, having a fun weekend I see Steph! Hurrah for lil Brandon the singer!!

 

[steph1505]

Aww sorry to hear u had a rubbish night last night kbkb! That definitely sounds like braxton hicks! Hopefully that's ur wee one getting ready to make an appearance sooner rather than later! Eek!

Have u stopped working yet?! Xxxxxx

 

[smiley330]

Hello ladies!

Steph - Ah a week away, i'm jealous! I'm also very jealous about the christmas repeat you are getting, how amazing!! Hope you all have a lovely time!

kbkb - Sorry you have not slept well, you are SO close to the end now - hopefully these Braxton Hicks are a sign that things will be moving on very soon for you!

AFM - Well I have had the day off today. Feeling very poorly sick today so i've spent the whole day in bed in and out of sleep and feeling sorry for myself!

On a brighter note, we have finished operation organisation!!! HIP HIP HOORAY! We had one last day of going for it yesterday (possibly why i'm feeling so poorly today, I think I over did it a lot) but everything is clean and tidy and organised and WOW, that's such a nice feeling. Now just need a baby!!

x x x x

 

[steph1505]

Aaw smiley hope u feel better soon!!

Thats really good uz are all organised! We are no where near where i would like to be! Im gonna raid my mum and dads loft cos thats where a lot of Brandona baby stuff is! So maybe once ive seen all that and know what weve got etc, then il feel more organised!

Well...im just off to tuck into my christmas dinner lol if anyone looks in my mum and dads window, they'll think weve gone crazy! Xxxxxc

 

[steph1505]

Smiley! I just seen ur pics on facebook and for a moment, thought young Squiggle had made an appearance...then realised it is prob a pic of ur DS with your cousins wee boy?

Regardless, i love the pic...ur DS looks so curious lol!!


Xxxxxx

 

[smiley330]

Haha nope, no early squiggle arrival! Yeh that's my cousins baby, he is SO tiny!! DS was so cute with him, has made me even more impatient for Squiggle now (if that was even possible)

How was your crimbo dinner part 2?

x x x x