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[steph1505]

Hi certain :wave:

Yaaaay to Eleanor being a routine! Thats fab!! Its great that shes goin the longer stretches at night! Def what you need these days!! Had to laugh tho at u sittin there tempted to wake her! The things we do haha!!

Aww thats so nice that u have lots of mummy friends! I dont have any uz are all i have haha!! None of my friends have babies, but they are great and such a good support!!

Lol everyone thinks Brandon and Oliver are OHs double!! No one ever says they look like me haha!!

And u do not look terrible!! Ive seen pics on facebook missy...u look fab!!

I def will ask abt the night time thing! I dont want to wake him in the night cause i didnt with Brandon, but i just think a 2 week old goin 10 hours is just a bit extreme! Altho, it was only 8 last nite...i dunno if thats more acceptable lol! Brandon was 6 weeks when he slept thru which i thot was really early, but 2 weeks takes the biscuit! He eats really well throughout the day so I dunno if maybe he gets enough and is just able to go longer at night! Lol wot we all like? Worry about too little sleep, worry about too much sleep! Haha!!

Ahh okay, i dont feel bad abt the bleeding then! Thanks! I hope its gone in 2 weeks, i have a spa day booked and wanna go in the jacuzzi haha!

Xxxxxx

 

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Steph - Ah that's good to know it isn't just me that's feeling like this with DS1. I honestly want to cry when I think about it and I can't shift this guilt. I'm just hoping that it goes soon!!

Wow - I can't believe Oliver is sleeping through already, I would just say enjoy it. I'm not sure what the official advice would be, but if it were me I would definitely not be waking him up. I would just make a conscious effort to make sure he's feeding lots in the day - if he's going 3-4 hours, maybe try and give him some more often? If he needs it that is, if he's gaining weight fine then just keep doing what you're doing!

Re: the bleeding - actually this time I have almost completely stopped bleeding already. But it is very normal for it to take up to 6 weeks, so I wouldn't worry at all!

Certain - Sounds like Eleanor is settling in well to feeding! It is so difficult when you don't really know how much they're taking, you've just got to trust they are getting all they need and to make sure you're feeding whenever they want it!

AFM - Well HV came and he's only lost 50g from his birth weight, so he must be taking in lots!! I don't know why i'm worried, I think it's just the not knowing for sure what he's getting! I think he's going to be a little chunk soon though (like his brother!)

He's had a bit of a crazy day feeding today, up until about 2pm he wanted to constantly feed on and off and seemed a bit unsettled. But he finally gave in and has reverted back to normal activity now! x x x x

 

[steph1505]

Lol i do cry with guilt about it all! I find it really hard having two! I hope once Olivers a bit older and can respond to Brandon and play a bit then il feel better! I can see us lying on the floor playing but Oliver obviously cant do that yet! I know this sounds soooo terrible, but i cant wait for him to be that wee bit older! I know that is an awful thing to say but im really not enjoyin this at the moment! I feel absolutely terrible saying that...but its true! Even just being a couple of weeks older where he can smile and laugh...! Me and OH have decided that were not having anymore! If ive found it this hard sharing between two, how the hell do u do it between three? Or four like we had planned?!!

I def think im just gonna enjoy the sleep while i can! By 11pm tonight, he'll have 24oz and the back of the formula box (a very reliable source ) says he should be havin 20oz so i dont think i need to worry about him not gettin enough!

Thats really good Oscar hasnt lost too much weight at all! Woo hoo!! Hes definitely feeding well then! No need to worry

Did uz manage to get out for a bit in the afternoon? We went food shopping and Oliver cried the whole time he fight sleep so much in the afternoon!

I feel quite bad that were giving it all this baby chat while Hoping and Beauty r still pregnant! Sorry gals! Xxxxxx

 

[steph1505]

Sorry...that last post was quite depressing...

Im having a hormonal day! Xxxxx

 

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Oh Steph I know exactly how you feel!!! It's so difficult isn't it I was thinking that it's this hard because if it's only ever been DS1 he can't really understand why he now has to share us, or why it's changed. Surely though for any potential future children they will be used to having a sibling around so it won't be such a change?? I don't know. Like u say tho, it will be easier when they are able to interact more with them!

No didn't go out in the end today, the weather was crap so I had a 2 hour nap - good times!!

Let us know how u get on with the HV tomorrow! x x x

 

[steph1505]

Thats a very good point actually! I never thought of it like that! Haha...maybe the thirds back on the table now haha!

Aww 2 hour nap sounds waaaay better than goin out! Good choice

Xxxxxx

 

[steph1505]

Morning ladies!!

So had the HV out yesterday! Oliver now weighs 8lb 3oz so thats 6oz since birth hes gained! So she said that its ok to leave him thru the night! She said shes a bit concerned because i told her that he can fair projectile vomit up his milk so i think shes worried he might have reflux...but im not too concerned! He only does it once a day & it doesnt seem to hurt him! If it were after every feed then id be worried!

Smiley, certain - does oscar or eleanor ever just sit awake and not gurn? Oliver will sit for maybe 15 mins max in his chair before he starts gurning! I cant remember wot brandon was like at this age!

How is everyone gettin on?

Xxxxxx

 

[smiley330]

Hiya!

Steph that's great news that the HV is happy for you to let him sleep through. I am so jealous of your sleeping baby 6oz that he's put on is good going!

Oscar will sit awake for short periods then fall asleep! Its prob not much longer than 15 / 20 mins each time tho. He's brilliant at sleeping in the day time. I can put him in his bed awake, he'll look around for a while then nod off. . . . He is a different baby at night though, last night he just would not settle anywhere at all. So I'm very sleepy today Zzzzzzzzzzz. Need to somehow flip reverse his day and night time activity!

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[steph1505]

Lol Oliver sounds like the exact opposite to Oscar! Oliver is unbelievably awake throughout the day! He has one long nap of a few hours and the rest of the time he just gurns, catnaps and wants us to walk about carrying him! Im wondering whether i should start walking him in the carrier that u strap to the front of u! What do u think?

I have no idea how u go about switching nights and days! Maybe he'l learn soon! My HV just said to make sure the house is lively and bright throughout the day and dim and quiet at night! Nothin we dont know! Hopefully he starts to switch abt by himself soon! Did u manage to get a wee nap this afternoon? Oliver went down at half 7 tonight and its been so nice to have an evening of quiet!

Hope everyones doin well xxxxxx

 

[smiley330]

Hello :wave:

How is everyone doing?

Steph - Haha, it does look like we have the complete opposites! Oscar will go about 4 hours between feeds (happily sleeping in his bed inbetween) from the morning about 10/11pm then the spaces between feeds gradually shortens to about 2 / 3 hours! If I could get this little time period shifted a bit it would make things a lot more ideal - but I can't really complain. Last night was much better than the night before, he was a lot more settled again, so hopefully that bad night was a little blip!!

Well I bit the bullet and bought a breast pump today - set me back like £70!!!! So had been putting it off to make sure i'm going to continue bf. I need to get some advice on when is the best time of day to express (as in what time after feeds etc?) I know shouldn't be doing it before bf is fully established, but gonna give it a whirl. Just don't want to create an over supply of milk!!



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Also - I forgot to say, we took Oscar to get registered today (I guess this means we're keeping him!) and did my first bf in public! (the waiting room for the registrar) - GO ME! Granted only 2 people briefly walked past the whole time, but it was a public place! Haha! It was a massive balls up, trying to use my big muslin to cover up but kept dropping it - lots of boob flashing. Note to self: more practice needed. Much more.

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[steph1505]

Aaaw! Glad uz had a better nite last night! Defo would be better if his feedings were more spread out throughout the night!

Ooh check u out!! I have no clue about expressing milk! I remember trying it last time but it was for about 5mins just to test out my pump! Maybe ask ur HV?

How are u feeling now about DS1? Any better? Brandon went to bed really upset tonight because i had to stay in our room trying to get Oliver to go to sleep! I did eventually go in and lie beside him for 5mins just to say night night!

Weve had a better day today with Oliver (up until abt 7ish) but gave him a bottle at 7.45 and hes been settled ever since! Will give him a wee dream feed about 11ish then hopefully that'll be him til morning!!

Ive been feeling so emotional today...dont kno if im just tired!

On a positive note...i managed to button up a pair of pre pregnancy jeans yesterday! Woo! They were still too small...i had a muffin top! But it took me 9 months last time to get my jeans buttoned! So im well chuffed abt that!

Hows everyone else gettin on??



Xxxxxx

 

[steph1505]

I never seen ur second post smiley!!

Congrats on ur first public feed! Go u!!

And congrats to oscar on becoming an official person xxxxxx

 

[steph1505]

Im absolutely heartbroken...

OH read Brandon his story tonight as I was puting Oliver to bed...

I went in once Oliver was asleep to say night night to Brandon and he says to me

"Daddy loves me. You dont love me, you love Oliver"

My heart has actually broken into a million pieces! I cant stop cryin! I kno hes only two, but i cant believe he said it!

Xxxxxx

 

[smiley330]

Oh Steph Massive hugs!!!!! I completely understand how you feel, but you know he doesn't mean that!! He knows you love him! What did you say to him? How has he been with Oliver otherwise?? You are doing a wonderful job to those 2 boys so don't be so hard on yourself!

I am still struggling with the same sort of thing with my DS. He has got better and last night actually went to bed without getting upset and it was such a break through - But I've had to really try and make sure that as soon as the bed time routine begins I have Oscar down and out the way as much as possible. But it's still hard, just little things he's doing are breaking my heart! The other night we were reading him his bed time story and I had to feed Oscar at the same time, so DS grabbed his softies and said "I sit on the naughty spot" and went and sat over there - I honestly could have broken down there and then!!!! I have no idea where that came from and he looked so sad. He's fine during the day, always says how much he loves Oscar / kisses him and strokes his head - but as soon as the bedtime routine begins we have to be really careful.

As I say, he has gotten much better and I hope last night means the end of the bedtime meltdowns - but we'll see.

I hope you are feeling a bit better about it today? Oh and HOORAY to getting your pre preg jeans on!!!! I had mine on the other day... yes, they were defo a bit on the tight side. But they were done up!!

Had the MW out yesterday for Oscar's 10 day check, and he's over his birth weight by 2lbs (ish) now (60g) - So that was good to see. Means he's put on 105g in 4 days! You can really notice it, he's really filling out - he's going to be a little porker!

Certain - How are you and Eleanor getting on? Hope all is well! Can I ask when she started having cluster feeds? Oscar hasn't had any periods of time yet where he's done this and i don't know if that's right? Or has it not reached the point where that begins yet?!

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[steph1505]

Thanks for those hugs! Really needed them!! I took Brandon out for lunch today and a wee walk round the shops - just me and him! So hes been better with me! He is brilliant with Oliver, cuddles him loads and says "best brother ever"...it seems to be me that he is being strange with! But i guess it will get better! When he said that last night, i lay down beside him and told him i love him to the moon and back (we always read the Guess How Much I Love You book) and that just because i have to cuddle Oliver and get him to sleep, it doesnt mean that I dont love Brandon! But i had to get out his room quickly cos I didnt want him to see me cry! I went into the living room and burst into tears...OH didnt have a clue what had happened!

Ur poor wee DS1 too! Bless his wee soul, goin to the naughty spot! U just wish u knew wot was goin on in their heads when they say and do these things! I hope ur bedtime tonight goes well again! We r all gonna bath Oliver and hopefully he'll go down quite easily, leaving me and OH free to do Brandons bedtime!

Wow...Oscar has put on 2lbs??!! Bloody hell thats impressive! So does he weigh 10lb odds now? Ur obv feedin like a trooper! Good on u!

Ahh good on u for ur jeans too! I cant actually wear mine yet, they def were too tight to wear lol! But hopefully in a few weeks i can start properly wearing them again! Yay! Wot a difference from last time tho! I still have over a stone to lose tho, but im hoping once i get back to the gym it'll fall off!

Hows everyones Saturday been? Good i hope! Xxxxxx

 

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Haha I'm an idiot, not 2lbs - 2oz's!! I'm going to have to blame lack of sleep and baby brain for that one.... 2lbs would be very impressive!!

Yeah I've found that doing things with DS1 when I can just us two has helped things. Just a bit of time playing or reading or just watching tv having a cuddle. He went to bed fine again tonight, so I'm very happy!

Ahh I know what you mean about not wanting them to see u cry, that's the only reason I managed to keep it in after the naughty spot thing - like u say, I have no idea what was going through his mind but I couldn't help but think bless his little heart. I hope that's the last of that, my hormones cannot take it!

That pic you've put up of Oliver and Brandon is so lovely, they are gorgeous boys! How much does Oliver weigh now?

Oh my friend (who was due a couple days after me) had her baby today!! Yay!! Another newborn to cuddle

When does your OH go back to work? Mine is back on Monday - boooo!

I have just poured a nice glass of red wine and shall be enjoying it and watching the voice and BGT!

Oh Steph - another Q (sorry there's been lots!) in the evenings where is Oliver? We have Oscar in his bed just in the lounge, then when he wakes up and I've given him his 10/11pm feed we all go up to bed. Do you have Oliver down with u or in bed in ur room?

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[steph1505]

Haha!! I was seriously impresed at 2lbs! Thot u must have super boobies haha!! 2oz is still a really good weight gain tho!

Aw im so glad that DS1 went to bed okay again! Long may it continue! Brandon shouted me in once to ask if i would come under the blanket with him lol! But he was asleep within 15 mins so he wasnt too bad!

Aaw thanks!! I absolutely love the pic! Oliver looks so awake in it! He was weighed on Tuesday and he was 8lb 3oz, HV is comin back out this week so il let u kno how much bigger he is again! I think he is goin thru a growth spurt at the mo, he is draining 5oz bottles! And he slept for 5 and a half hours today...hes never slept that long thru the day!

We keep Oliver in his basket in our room at night! Altho, right now hes in my arms! Im just in the mood for cuddling him! But, yeah his basket jst stays in our room! But we are all one level, do u have stairs? I think if we had stairs id have him down with us!

My OH goes back a week on Monday! I am totally dreading it!! How r u feelin abt it? I really hope Ive sussed Oliver out a bit more by then!

Aaaaw yaaaay for ur friend!! What did she have? How nice!! My OHs cousin had a baby a few days ago...she was in labour for 55mins!! Almost had him in the car!! Jeez!

Has Oscar changed any since he was born? Is he still DS1s double? Oliver has changed loads!

Hope ur enjoyin ur sat nite TV! Just watched BGT, need to watch The Voice now!

Hoping - hope ur okay, not heard from u in a while! Xxxxx

 

[steph1505]

I noticed u started a parenting journal smiley!

Ive started one too! Sorry if u think im copying u... Just think it will be a good place to get all my ramblings out haha!

Xxxxx

 

[smiley330]

Ah yeah, we're upstairs so it's just easier to keep him downstairs. But I was wondering about making sure he's upstairs from a certain time.... Hmmm, will prob do that when we introduce a routine to him!

I'm feeling ok about OH going back to work, would like it of he had more time off but I'm keen to start getting on with everything and trying to get settled into it etc! I think he's gonna take another week off at the end of May so that'll be nice!

Yeh Oscar has changed loads!! He is looking less like DS1 I think, but still very alike (if that makes sense!?) - its amazing how fast they change isn't it!

Oh yay!! Im glad u started a journal, Ill add it to my 'stalk' list! It's a great idea, I think it's so good just to have somewhere to write it all down!!

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