smoking while pregnant.be honest

[honeygrl]

I also knew this girl - she was very young, lived with my friend and couldnt even make herself a pack of noodles (she didnt know how)- couldn't look after herself then tried for a baby!!! Got pregnant strait away (yea how unfair is that) then kept smoking i asked her y she was still smoking she said she wasn't going to change her life for a baby and get this... didn't want to give birth to a big baby so if she smoked them hopefully her baby would be early and small!!! selfish girl!!!!

Holy crap what a ditz! I make jokes about that stuff but I didn't know anyone actually believed it for real! I told a friend today that I needed to start smoking again because I just knew if I didn't the baby was going to have a huge head just like my husband! But I was just kidding, I hope she didn't think I was serious!

And don't worry... she will get a huge dose of reality when her baby comes and it's nothing like she thought it was going to be. Either that or her mom will end up raising it and her mom will realize what a screwed up job she did the first time around!

Or the kid will end up like my oldest sisters first kid.... cutting class in kindergarten and getting banned from the entire county by the time he was 10.

 

[MiissMuffet]

I also knew this girl - she was very young, lived with my friend and couldnt even make herself a pack of noodles (she didnt know how)- couldn't look after herself then tried for a baby!!! Got pregnant strait away (yea how unfair is that) then kept smoking i asked her y she was still smoking she said she wasn't going to change her life for a baby and get this... didn't want to give birth to a big baby so if she smoked them hopefully her baby would be early and small!!! selfish girl!!!!

Holy crap what a ditz! I make jokes about that stuff but I didn't know anyone actually believed it for real! I told a friend today that I needed to start smoking again because I just knew if I didn't the baby was going to have a huge head just like my husband! But I was just kidding, I hope she didn't think I was serious!

And don't worry... she will get a huge dose of reality when her baby comes and it's nothing like she thought it was going to be. Either that or her mom will end up raising it and her mom will realize what a screwed up job she did the first time around!

Or the kid will end up like my oldest sisters first kid.... cutting class in kindergarten and getting banned from the entire county by the time he was 10.

But she wasn't joking! She smoked all through her pregnancy and knew we didnt approve so she would go and hide behind the car and smoke. egg!

 

[honeygrl]

Wow! That is the most horrible thing I've heard all day. Smoking on PURPOSE to have a small baby?!

yea ay-not to be mean but she is one of those "slow" people that just don't really have a clue. It really sux that people like that get pregnant right away and people who are actually ready and have so much love to give can take years, and may never be able to concieve.

You should watch the movie Idiocracy.. it's about a guy who gets frozen in a military experiment and wakes up way in the future.. where the stupid people have over bred and the smart people kept putting off kids until later in life when they were ready for them and eventually ended up extinct while the stupid people overpopulated the world. It's a really silly movie but when it's over you start thinking about how the general idea of it is already starting to happen.

 

[honeygrl]

It's so easy for me to criticise, because I've never smoked a cigarette in my life. I therefore don't know how hard it is to stop when you find out you're pregnant, and most importantly; I don't understand what's going through peoples' minds when they're pregnant and they smoke.

But I admit I don't understand, and if I lose friends by saying it, then so be it. I hate to say it, but I do think badly of pregnant women who smoke, but it's only because I don't understand what it's like to be in that position.

The nearest thing I have to this is my migraine meds. I get the most debilitating migraines, and I have done for 15 years now. I can have a migraine for 9 days straight, and I will be at home in bed for the duration. They literally took away my social life. I finally found a med that kicks it within a couple of hours, and it honestly changed my life. But the moment I found out I was pregnant; I stopped carrying them in my bag. I actually gave them back to the chemist, because I don't want to risk hurting my baby. I would rather be in agony than risk my baby not developing properly. And my migraines haven't eased off since being pregnant either; 90% of the time, I have one, but I still only take paracetamol (which is useless by the way).

My mother smoked with both my brother and I, and I have told her I don't like that she did it. It's compromising the baby's health, and protecting the baby should be the most important thing in your world.

Sorry, but I'm being honest.

You have no reason at all to apologize.

I was a pack and a half a day smoker before I got pregnant. I've smoked for 15 years and tried to quit a hundred times. The only time I've ever been successful at quitting was while I'm pregnant and breastfeeding. Any time outside of that I will go outside in the rain, sleet or snow if I have to but quitting makes me a crying mess for days on end. When I see 2 lines on a pregnancy test, I can put them down and not even think much about them again until I quit breastfeeding and happen by someone who's smoking my brand. It's the strangest thing. I guess it's really all about motivation. Knowing that it's directly affecting a little baby is the motivation I need.

Also, quitting nicotine IS tough when you aren't ready to quit. You have to be dead set in your head that it's going to happen with no doubts at all. One little doubt will lead to one little cigarette. But if you ARE ready and it's dead set in your head that it's going to happen, it's not so tough at all. I would have slapped myself for saying that 6 months ago but I realize now that I just wasn't ready and the cigarette was still my very best friend. Now my best friend is this little baby and it doesn't like cigarettes!

That said, I really can't look down on women who have trouble kicking the habit when they get pregnant. It's a poor choice but I still drink coffee and soda and I know I'm not really supposed to. My willpower sucks when it comes to those things. Most of us have our little things we can't seem to give up, whether it's caffeine or fried foods or cigarettes. Some women even keep riding motorcycles until late in their pregnancy! I think that's more dangerous than all the other stuff combined yet these women say their doctors tell them it's OK!!

And I assure you that the women who don't give up their smokes will definitely suffer for it before the baby even comes. A friend of mine said that her sister kept smoking through her pregnancy and people would actually yell at her on the street and cuss her out whenever they saw her even though they didn't know her and it wasn't their business. Luckily for the babies, the chances of it hurting them are fairly small and they will likely come out just perfect despite the mommy's poor choices. I know there is a picture of my mom in the hospital when she had me with a pack of cigarettes on the table next to her. I think I came out pretty healthy though for the most part! Hell, I lived through infancy with an alcoholic and an idiot and still somehow made honor roll in high school!

 

[Minstermind]

I've read through the first and the last few pages of the thread cause it's a lot to get through! Obviously it's a passionate subject for people.

When I was pregnant with my son, I had been smoking both cigarettes and pot pretty regularly. I quit smoking pot straight away when I got pregnant, but found cigarettes to be much more difficult. I did finally put them down for good at 7 months into my pregnancy, and I have never went back to them. My son was born not breathing and spent the first five days in the intensive care unit with an oxygen mask over him. I will never know with certainty whether the smoking was responsible for that or if it would have happened anyway, but just the speculation that it *might* very well have been the reason he was born that way was enough to send me into spasms of guilt for a long time afterward, and I would never visit that experience on this pregnancy, or myself for that matter, ever again.