So SICK of ultrasound pics and BFP announcements on FB!

[Kimiw]

I am so tired of seeing yet another FB pregnancy announcement. I understand the excitement, I do, but OMG do you really have to flood the wall with pics of your ultrasound?! My friend announced on FB a few weeks back that she was pregnant and today I got on FB and I kid you not, she FLOODED the wall with pics of her 11 week ultrasound. She has like 5 posts, of different angles and such, they each have like 4 pics!

I am so angry right now! I am happy for her but it is like she is shoving it in my face! Then all her friends and family are constantly making comments about what a good mommy she will be, and that they can't wait, and they want to know what symptoms she is having etc. I'm sorry, I had to rant. I have been trying for 6 years, she tried for ONE month and BAM preggo!!!!!!

 

[aintlifegrand]

I hear ya sister!

 

[hopefull85]

yup im so with you on that one. my so called best friend made a post on facebook that just really got to me here's what it said....."being kicked and punched has never felt so good lol this child has been doing ninja moves all day!" im like yeah must be nice. the last time i was around her, her 3 year old was running around playing just being a kid and she looked at me and said "are you sure you want one of those" i was like yup sure am. then i excused myself to the bathroom then told her i had to get back home. there are a few others who say it as well. its like why would you say stuff like that to people who have struggled for so long just to have exactly that. we LTTTC'ers know that its not an easy thing to raise a child and we dont think that our children will always be perfect little angles. but we do want that. everything that comes with having a child. people who have children and can get pregnant just by standing next to their spouse really do not understand this whole struggle. no matter how much you try to tell them they just look at you and are like hmm ok.

 

[Kimiw]

Sorry, it just urked me! It is her first, so I understand she is excited, I just don't see why she felt she had to flood the wall full of ultrasound pics, one would have been enough...(or none). She sent them to her sister then her sister flooded the wall! I hope that if I get the chance to have a baby one day I don't get like that, and I know I won't. I won't lie, I will be super happy and will want to announce it, but I will also have a better understanding of how it feels to be on the other side and there is no need to rub it in.

 

[Kimiw]

yup im so with you on that one. my so called best friend made a post on facebook that just really got to me here's what it said....."being kicked and punched has never felt so good lol this child has been doing ninja moves all day!" im like yeah must be nice. the last time i was around her, her 3 year old was running around playing just being a kid and she looked at me and said "are you sure you want one of those" i was like yup sure am. then i excused myself to the bathroom then told her i had to get back home. there are a few others who say it as well. its like why would you say stuff like that to people who have struggled for so long just to have exactly that. we LTTTC'ers know that its not an easy thing to raise a child and we dont think that our children will always be perfect little angles. but we do want that. everything that comes with having a child. people who have children and can get pregnant just by standing next to their spouse really do not understand this whole struggle. no matter how much you try to tell them they just look at you and are like hmm ok.

OMG I had a friend ask me that the other day too. "are you sure you want one of those? your lucky, you have your freedom." I then asked her, "would you trade your kids for your freedom?" She got offended and said, "NO! they are my life! I couldn't imagine life without them!" Funny how quickly she got defensive at the thought of not having her children, thats EXACTALLY how WE feel about our unborn children!

 

[MrsAttard]

I have tortured myself over FB and friends....I even have a running list of all the people who were currently preg. I think this summer I had 15 friends all preg at the same time!

It makes me more sad that I can explain when I see it....but I can't get mad. They know nothing about the difficulties my DH and I are having, and may even assume I don't plan to ever have kids. They just don't know. The sad reality is that the majority of the population have no issues conceiving and forget that anyone else has issues. They don't realize that their joy could possibly bring others such sadness.

I've already decided that when I'm preg (and I WILL BE PREG one of these days soon! I'm staying optimistic!) I will keep my photos and comments to a minimum. Being away from family I can't keep it off altogether, but I'll show restraint in respect for any of my friends who may be having their own issues and I'm not aware of it.

 

[PinkPeony]

Yep me too. I'm not making any big announcement or posting any ultrasound on there. The ppl who actually know me and see me all the time will know and that's enough. I'm going to start hiding ppl. Honestly, I used to be on fb a few times a day and now I only go on there once in a while. I feel like looking at the newsfeed is like looking at a car crash - I speed through it trying to scroll past the baby/bump/ultrasound pics.

Also, it's not just us.... I saw something on the news that someone came out with a fb app that detects baby pics and replaces them with pictures of cats and flowers. Lol!

 

[Feisty Fidget]

Pink, that app sounds awesome!

I am ruthless and hide all pregnant peoples notifications from my newsfeed (accept one lovely LTTTCer from here). Our miscarriages and infertility have not been kept secret so if people actively try to engage me in their photo's updates etc, I am nice and polite once. After that I will be blunt and either be rude or bring up our problems - nine times out of ten, people back off.

I can highly recommend going through and unsubscribing from the pregnant people though

 

[StephieB]

I'm a heartless bitch. If you post a ultrasound picture of announce a pregnancy on my FB, your getting deleted. I dont care if they are friends or family, they're gone.

Don't even get me started on people that insist on updated their status, informing the world that little johnny slept for 6 hours last night, or that sally ann is teething, or that you've had to change baby bills nappy 3 times this morning. Nobody gives a shit! I dont update the world as to when Dh eats, sleeps and poos!

 

[Feisty Fidget]

Nobody gives a shit! I dont update the world as to when Dh eats, sleeps and poos!

You just made me proper at that one! Maybe we all should start doing that

 

[Kimiw]

thank you all for the responses. i am currently in the tww again...6 years of this shit get old...but I understand some of ya'lls points. I know that people don't always know, I mean, before I was diagnosed with infertility I thought that it was a very rare thing. Well, it is much more common. I think I mainly got upset because she FLOODED the wall. Like I said, I understand the exitement, and in all fairness she is a wonderful person who is going to make a very good mother, I think I got more jealous than anything because I know I would make a good mother too and I just want it to be MY turn for a change! But the ultrasound pics were a bit much, and I guess I just felt like she was shoving it in my face. When she first announced her pregnancy on FB I sent her a message (she knows about our problems) and told her that I needed her to understand that if I did not comment on anything or sound super excited she needed to know I loved her and I care about her but it is very hard for me to deal with pregnancies. She said she completely understood and would respect me because she knew how hard it has been for us. So, when she flooded the hell out of the wall I felt like she was slapping me in the face.

 

[hopefull85]

its so weird how close our cycles are and how long each other has been TTC after monday i will be in the 2 week wait as well hopefully the clomid has worked but im not holding my breath i send you tons of baby dust and lots of prayers

 

[charlottebear]

I agree, last night I threw my phone across the room not just cos of the ultrsound pics and congratulations and moans about being pregnant which I get sick of. But because someones commented ona celebrity being pregnant and I didnt know I was so furious. AArgh!! Try having my life for a few months see how you like it!!

 

[JENI12]

WOW i actually was going to come on here and write the same post - at least 5 of my fb friends have become pregnant in the last week and have about a total of 10 now showing their weekly pregnancy updates, not to mention my best friend just got pg after one month of trying...ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
like some of you said, I am happy for the people i care about, however, i think im going to have to start deleting or blocking people otherwise im afraid i may become bitter (more bitter lol)
Heres hoping one day it will be us

 

[Armywife84]

I actually got tired of deleting pregnant cows off, that I just deleted my FB. Now, I do have one that's only for certain pals on here, an IF friendly non-bragbook.

Personally, I never understood the need to brag about a pregnancy. It's something I would want to share with family. I can't be bothered to share it with someone I barely talked to in secondary school.

I think she could've toned it done a bit, by then again I'm more sensitive to people's problems.

 

[Kimiw]

I'm 8 dpo and tested today lol bfn, I know, I couldn't help it. THis is my second cycle of Clomid so who knows. I think AF is on the way, been crampy since yesterday...oh well

 

[Kimiw]

I agree, I am thinking of deleting mine too, the only reason I have it is to keep in touch with family.

 

[Feisty Fidget]

Maybe we should all start boring people with our LTTTC journeys?

Feisty Fidget

Well turns out what I thought was Egg White Cervical Mucus is actually left over sperm from last nights session I wish my ovulation was more reliable.

^^ How many 'comments' do you think that one would get?

BTW I totally wish that was my status but sadly not even trying this month

 

[MrsAttard]

Sooo..... who saw the new Facebook "Expecting a Baby" feature?!? It will basically allow people to list that they are expecting, in addition to their Married status and what not. I certainly hope some of the drop down options will be "Struggling" or "F Off"!!!

 

[tamithomas]

I agree seeing scans hurt and the over share of statuses are SOO annoying. but for me what irks me the most on facebook: scan pictures as profile pictures. Like really? Am I talking to a fetus inside of a womb or am I talking to an adult? I can't tell.. and please, it's already annoying that you have it as your main picture but do you gotta make it your timeline cover photo too? GAH