Soon to be 34 and feeling pressured, anyone else?!?!

[Jazavac]

Yay, joeys!

As for sleeping... well, don't ask me. I share the bed with the hippo. Hah.

 

[LeahMSta]

Hi all. We are starting the count down to the end of our TTC journey. We inseminated tonight, Tue, and Fri. We are just going to continue temping and hoping for the best. We have agreed that this and (if needed) 2 more cycles are all that we are going to do before we take a "time out" at the very least if not ending our journey all together. DW is on vacation from work this week so maybe the relaxation will help. My solace in all of this is that this is the exact way our Angel was conceived so there is a tiny shred of hope.
We have made some changes to our home. I took the "nursery" (that has been pulled shut since we moved in waiting for our rainbow baby) and made it a guest room. Our basement has been turned into a mother in law's apartment and we are having a family friend that has fallen on hard times stay with us and all of the changes that we made to "baby proof" have been undone. We are moving toward moving on just in case.

 

[onebumpplease]

Leah. Well I completely understand, but hope that you will need to re-babyproof in around 9-11 months

 

[LeahMSta]

Leah. Well I completely understand, but hope that you will need to re-babyproof in around 9-11 months

Thanks. Secretly, I am hoping that we can "trick" her body into relaxing by taking some of the perceived pressure off. Shhhhhhh. It's our secret.

 

[LolaM]

Hi all. We are starting the count down to the end of our TTC journey. We inseminated tonight, Tue, and Fri. We are just going to continue temping and hoping for the best. We have agreed that this and (if needed) 2 more cycles are all that we are going to do before we take a "time out" at the very least if not ending our journey all together. DW is on vacation from work this week so maybe the relaxation will help. My solace in all of this is that this is the exact way our Angel was conceived so there is a tiny shred of hope.
We have made some changes to our home. I took the "nursery" (that has been pulled shut since we moved in waiting for our rainbow baby) and made it a guest room. Our basement has been turned into a mother in law's apartment and we are having a family friend that has fallen on hard times stay with us and all of the changes that we made to "baby proof" have been undone. We are moving toward moving on just in case.

Have you considered adoption?

 

[LeahMSta]

Hi all. We are starting the count down to the end of our TTC journey. We inseminated tonight, Tue, and Fri. We are just going to continue temping and hoping for the best. We have agreed that this and (if needed) 2 more cycles are all that we are going to do before we take a "time out" at the very least if not ending our journey all together. DW is on vacation from work this week so maybe the relaxation will help. My solace in all of this is that this is the exact way our Angel was conceived so there is a tiny shred of hope.
We have made some changes to our home. I took the "nursery" (that has been pulled shut since we moved in waiting for our rainbow baby) and made it a guest room. Our basement has been turned into a mother in law's apartment and we are having a family friend that has fallen on hard times stay with us and all of the changes that we made to "baby proof" have been undone. We are moving toward moving on just in case.

Have you considered adoption?

We have. We are just not exactly what Colorado looks for in foster adoption programs. Being a bit racial lesbian couple even presents a challenge through agencies and I don't know that with my health issues, that we would be considered "acceptable". There are so many variables that make us feel like it isn't a viable option.

 

[Jazavac]

You never know before you try. Our hair stylist and his partner have two beautiful adopted children!

(I can imagine it being difficult, though.)

 

[LolaM]

You never know before you try. Our hair stylist and his partner have two beautiful adopted children!

(I can imagine it being difficult, though.)

I have to agree. Never give up on your dreams and never let anyone else tell you what your dream should be

 

[GeekChic]

Must have been the super moon after all. AF arrived yesterday along with a picture text from my bestie of her 12 wk scan, perfect timing eh. Will speak to our gp on Thursday about an IVF referral, NHS or private I don't care we clearly need some help.

 

[LolaM]

Ugh girls I feel awful. I started taking dong quai for my icky AF I'm on cd 18 and I'm spotting and crampy since this afternoon. Guess that was a bad idea. Guess I'll just stick with midol lol

 

[LeahMSta]

We are officially in the 2ww. 4dpo here and all is well. DW went for a mini get away for a few days to her best friend's house and will be indulging in total laziness for the next few days. I have to say though, something very different happened this cycle. We had spent the day before her 2nd insem baby sitting a friend's 4 month old and out of nowhere, DW got choked up and said that seeing me with him made her remember just why we are doing this and she knew that I was born to be a mommy. *TMI ALERT* the bd that night was exactly how I imagined that Ttc would be like in the beginning. It was spiritual, physical, and so completely connected to the love we share. I can only cross my fingers and hope that we worked the magic with our love to make our forever baby. I do know that DW ovulated out of the side with the tube this month so cross your fingers, say a prayer, or think good thoughts. We need all the help we can get. Lol!

 

[DHime]

Joeys - my twin and I shared a bed but I would ask the doc if things have changed. My mom said we would just cry if sleeping separate. We were also fraternal just like yours.

 

[onebumpplease]

Oh Leah! I really hope its the one. I am so hopeful for you!

 

[wookie130]

Leah, you guys are 6 dpo, right? Fingers, toes, and hair crossed for you!!!

 

[GeekChic]

Wishing you all the patience & hope you need to get through the TWW. It is such a tough time.

I'm on cd5 and loosing my mind in the pit of despair, our IVF paperwork arrived today and I realised I'm probably looking at an earliest possible date for embryo transfer of first week in Oct, urgh feels like a lifetime away and would give us a July 2014 baby IF it worked first time, I hate this feeling but there seems to be no escaping it.

 

[babybemine]

In the 2 week wait. Not much hope on this side but keeping my fingers crossed none-the-less. DH and I had to try naturally for this cycle since I had the MC last month. DH switched job and now works days while I worked nights so we took advantage of the time we had which was not that often. Then to make matters worse....DH pricked his finger with a dirty needle and has to be on prophylactic medications so no BD for us. FX real tight that this week is a BFP for us. 10 more days until AF is due or not due...

 

[LolaM]

ugh...that sucks but you're not out yet....stranger things have happened

 

[LeahMSta]

Holy disappearing cross hairs barman!! I'm leaving no stone unturned. Just in case we have a shy egg on our hands, I am putting more baby batter in there tonight. This is annoying. Especially with this being one of our last cycles.

 

[wookie130]

You know, I realize you don't know me terribly well on here, Leah, but one thing I can say for myself (and there are still some gals that frequent this thread that can vouch for me on this one), is that I'll always put my $0.02 in...and I just call it like I see it, basically.

So, I'm going to say that I'm not sure that it's the best idea to put a time limit on such a thing as this. I think in doing that, you're making the next couple of cycles even more horrendously stressful, and that if you don't conceive within your time frame, I fear you'll both be devastated, and eventually regretful. Those of us that have gone on to actually have babies from this thread...well, some of us it took a great deal of time to conceive. And as you know well from firsthand experience with DW's ectopic, some of us did conceive, only to miscarry, and some of us, like myself, lost more than one pregnancy before having it "stick". And as hard as it is to trudge along month after month, if you stop trying, you won't have a baby. If I would have stopped trying with Brad, we would not have Hannah...and now I KNOW that it was worth the pain of continuing to try. We went a long time on this thread with no BFP's ever... and finally, we'd have a sporadic pregnancy here and there, and now, most of the old gang has kids. You have an extra challenge, as you're inseminating, and your wife has one tube...but honestly, weirder things have happened that have led to pregnancy. I do think it could be a long road for you two...but I also have tremendous faith that if you continue to plod along, and not give up, that you'll end up having a baby at some point.

I know that the road to a baby is hard. Lord knows I know this. In the end, it's your personal choice, and it's a choice you have to make with your DW, obviously. You know how much you can take...but it always saddens me to see people want this so badly, and to put extra pressure on an already difficult situation.

What I'm saying, is that if it doesn't happen in the next couple of months, I think you should keep your options open, and if you feel that you must continue, then you probably must continue...

 

[joeys3453]

Joeys - my twin and I shared a bed but I would ask the doc if things have changed. My mom said we would just cry if sleeping separate. We were also fraternal just like yours.

dhime oh thanks i have read that for like the first month they can sleep together but because of growing should be in their own crib so we will have two cribs set up and see how that goes.

i want to wish you all good luck and sending lots and lots of