Soon to be 34 and feeling pressured, anyone else?!?!

[LeahMSta]

You know, I realize you don't know me terribly well on here, Leah, but one thing I can say for myself (and there are still some gals that frequent this thread that can vouch for me on this one), is that I'll always put my $0.02 in...and I just call it like I see it, basically.

So, I'm going to say that I'm not sure that it's the best idea to put a time limit on such a thing as this. I think in doing that, you're making the next couple of cycles even more horrendously stressful, and that if you don't conceive within your time frame, I fear you'll both be devastated, and eventually regretful. Those of us that have gone on to actually have babies from this thread...well, some of us it took a great deal of time to conceive. And as you know well from firsthand experience with DW's ectopic, some of us did conceive, only to miscarry, and some of us, like myself, lost more than one pregnancy before having it "stick". And as hard as it is to trudge along month after month, if you stop trying, you won't have a baby. If I would have stopped trying with Brad, we would not have Hannah...and now I KNOW that it was worth the pain of continuing to try. We went a long time on this thread with no BFP's ever... and finally, we'd have a sporadic pregnancy here and there, and now, most of the old gang has kids. You have an extra challenge, as you're inseminating, and your wife has one tube...but honestly, weirder things have happened that have led to pregnancy. I do think it could be a long road for you two...but I also have tremendous faith that if you continue to plod along, and not give up, that you'll end up having a baby at some point.

I know that the road to a baby is hard. Lord knows I know this. In the end, it's your personal choice, and it's a choice you have to make with your DW, obviously. You know how much you can take...but it always saddens me to see people want this so badly, and to put extra pressure on an already difficult situation.

What I'm saying, is that if it doesn't happen in the next couple of months, I think you should keep your options open, and if you feel that you must continue, then you probably must continue...

Wookie, if there is one thing I value above all else it is honesty. Thank you for taking time to put in your .02! It lets me know that you consider and care for my well being as well as DW and I truly appreciate it.

We are only doing this and 2 more cycles, then we are taking time so she isn't super pregnant or just post delivery for the wedding next summer. Durring that time she will do some reflecting on what she is willing to do as far as seeing an RE, meds, natural fertility cleanses etc. She is the final vote in all of this but I suspect she isn't just going to throw in the towel. I'm just trying to brace for all eventualities, just in case.

 

[wookie130]

Certainly. I hope for both of your sakes, you choose to continue on the road to conception...again, your choice and all of that.

I just want to see everyone on this thread have their babies, no matter how it happens!

 

[joeys3453]

i agree with you wookie! i will be here to cheer everyone on or just to listen if you need it!!!

 

[LolaM]

Looks like we have a permanency hearing on August 8th

 

[onebumpplease]

Yay, good news.

 

[LeahMSta]

Looks like we have a permanency hearing on August 8th

that is wonderful news Lola!

Things here are plugging along. I have no idea what's happening with DW's temp. This is THE most nutso one we've ever had. I joked with DW that after all of the text book pretty ones that we've had that ended with BFNs, it would be somehow fitting for this hot mess to be our BFP. I am just waiting to find out what is next.

 

[LolaM]

Looks like we have a permanency hearing on August 8th

that is wonderful news Lola!

Things here are plugging along. I have no idea what's happening with DW's temp. This is THE most nutso one we've ever had. I joked with DW that after all of the text book pretty ones that we've had that ended with BFNs, it would be somehow fitting for this hot mess to be our BFP. I am just waiting to find out what is next.

I would jsut stop temping,since its not making any sense. My dad says a permanency hearing could just be to extend his length of care, it doesnt really mean anything. Ive got rotten PMS, ive got the "FMLs" and the woe is me's and hubs isnt helping even a little bit

 

[wookie130]

Leah, have you two been using OPK's also, or are you just charting? I would recommend those digi smileys from CB Easy. I used that stupid CBFM contraption for MONTHS, and I never got pregnant while using it...I use digi smileys, and honestly, they were far better for us. Internet cheapies leave a lot of ambiguity, and it's just easier to either have circle, or a smiley. Get a smiley, boom...3 days of consecutive inseminations. Piece of cake. Although having said that, the month I got preg with Hannah, I had two separate smiley incidents in the same cycle, but that could have been the Clomid I was taking.

Hmmm...that is one funky chart there. Perhaps she O'd on CD 20? Is that what you're thinking? Huh.

Lola- Great news there!!! How is your little man doing right now? How old is he again?

 

[LolaM]

Lola- Great news there!!! How is your little man doing right now? How old is he again?

If only it were as easy as 3 days of fun and VOILA! Baby boy is great, is working on crawling and it just infuriates him that he cant get around, he is 5 months old now and Dr said we could start him on rice cereal and he is in hte 90th percentile in all areas. We started his savings account today.

 

[wookie130]

Lola, I should clarify that 3 day thing I stated above...it's recommended that one bd's the day of the smiley face, and then the following two days beyond that, as ovulation usually occurs somewhere between 24-72 hours of that first smiley. I wasn't saying that this results in automatic pregnancy! LOL! Lord knows it wasn't all badda-bing-badda-boom for me, I'll tell you. I had a very rough time conceiving, and probably would not have, as I wasn't ovulating properly...Clomid helped me. And once I conceived, I lost two babies in a year's time. It sucked donkey balls, I tell you.

5 months! Hannah will be 4 1/2 months next week. If your little guy starts crawling soon, I'd say he's waaayyyy ahead of the game! That would scare the socks off me if a baby that young became mobile!!!! Look out world! LOL! I hope your hearing goes off without a hitch, and that he is soon all yours officially! I'm not terribly familiar with the adoption process, but I know from talking to others that these things can drag, and be quite nerve-racking at times. Good luck to you!

 

[LeahMSta]

Leah, have you two been using OPK's also, or are you just charting? I would recommend those digi smileys from CB Easy. I used that stupid CBFM contraption for MONTHS, and I never got pregnant while using it...I use digi smileys, and honestly, they were far better for us. Internet cheapies leave a lot of ambiguity, and it's just easier to either have circle, or a smiley. Get a smiley, boom...3 days of consecutive inseminations. Piece of cake. Although having said that, the month I got preg with Hannah, I had two separate smiley incidents in the same cycle, but that could have been the Clomid I was taking.

Hmmm...that is one funky chart there. Perhaps she O'd on CD 20? Is that what you're thinking? Huh.

Lola- Great news there!!! How is your little man doing right now? How old is he again?

We normally do use the smileys. This cycle we kept forgetting to get them and then the CH happened. I was thinking CD 20 May have been it. Then again, I am at the point that I will just keep plugging in temps and if she hasn't gotten AF by CD 40, then I guess we'll test but I am not exactly busting with hope.

 

[wookie130]

Leah, good! I think they're just so much easier than trying to interpret lines on regular OPK's. I always thought they were much better at pinpointing my surge...better than the CBFM, even. That thing truly went wonky on me more than a few times, and by the end of it, I damn-near chucked that thing out my window. LOL!!!

Interested to see where the temp is at today!

 

[LeahMSta]

And there they are. The illusive crosshairs have made an appearance. As DW insists that she felt ov pain on on the night of cd12 and where the cover line fell, that she may have ovulated twice. anyhoo....I guess still nothing happening really. If she really only had an eggy pop on CD23 only, I am pretty sure we're out of luck.

 

[DHime]

lola - FX for you babe. Wookie is right. I have an aunt who adopted 3 kids and she had ups and downs too. eventually it is all done though.

joeys - Can't believe 15 weeks already..... be here before you know it.

leah - FX for you too.

 

[LolaM]

Lola, I should clarify that 3 day thing I stated above...it's recommended that one bd's the day of the smiley face, and then the following two days beyond that, as ovulation usually occurs somewhere between 24-72 hours of that first smiley. I wasn't saying that this results in automatic pregnancy! LOL! Lord knows it wasn't all badda-bing-badda-boom for me, I'll tell you. I had a very rough time conceiving, and probably would not have, as I wasn't ovulating properly...Clomid helped me. And once I conceived, I lost two babies in a year's time. It sucked donkey balls, I tell you.

5 months! Hannah will be 4 1/2 months next week. If your little guy starts crawling soon, I'd say he's waaayyyy ahead of the game! That would scare the socks off me if a baby that young became mobile!!!! Look out world! LOL! I hope your hearing goes off without a hitch, and that he is soon all yours officially! I'm not terribly familiar with the adoption process, but I know from talking to others that these things can drag, and be quite nerve-racking at times. Good luck to you!

oh wow-well, he is on hands and knees rocking, so it may be a while but hes workin on it, he starts daycare toomorow!

 

[LeahMSta]

Ok...So I am trying not to obsess. I'm not even discussing this with DW but I am so crazy about this chart. It has ov on CD20 in research which means some hope is possible, CD23 on advanced which means next to no hope, and originally the CH were on CD13 which would have been ideal. Now I know.....timing isn't everything and miracles happen but I just prefer to know what I'm working with and this is obviously not a cycle that I'm gonna be able to do that. Just keep waiting.....

 

[joeys3453]

leah good luck and stay strong!!!

lola good luck at daycare today or this week? hope it goes well!!!

Dhime - today we are 16 weeks and it feels like it is cruzing right by. i have been so moody though i feel bad for hd

 

[wookie130]

Joeys, will you be finding out the gender of your twinnies? Ooooh!!!!! So exciting!!!!!

Leah, yeah...I wish I had more input. I don't see why pregnancy couldn't occur if O didn't happen until CD 23...as long as you're still timing your inseminations within 24-48 hours of CD's 20 & 23, you have a good shot. Late O just means that usually the egg is quite mature. Some speculate that the egg is "overripe" and that it is no good to fertilize, but honestly, without a detailed ultrasound, there is no way to know the quality of that egg. So, your best to just wait it out (ugh, I know!), and see what happens. You have as good a shot as any, the way I see it.

 

[joeys3453]

wookie oh yeah we have to find out because i don't want to wait till the end to try to get things together! but can't wait have my ob appointment tomorrow so will get to hear the heartbeat so that will be great. this is the only appointment i won't be having an u/s

leah i totally agree with wookie on this. try to relax and we are hoping this is the good one!!!

 

[LeahMSta]

Joeys, will you be finding out the gender of your twinnies? Ooooh!!!!! So exciting!!!!!

Leah, yeah...I wish I had more input. I don't see why pregnancy couldn't occur if O didn't happen until CD 23...as long as you're still timing your inseminations within 24-48 hours of CD's 20 & 23, you have a good shot. Late O just means that usually the egg is quite mature. Some speculate that the egg is "overripe" and that it is no good to fertilize, but honestly, without a detailed ultrasound, there is no way to know the quality of that egg. So, your best to just wait it out (ugh, I know!), and see what happens. You have as good a shot as any, the way I see it.

Oh...I didn't mean our shots based on her egg age. I meant due to insemination timing. Our last insem was on CD19. I feel like Ov on CD23 is a bit of a stretch timing wise. I suppose what will be, will be.