People with kids keep making snarky remarks that I need to sleep as much as I can, because I'll never have that luxury after the kid arrives. They say, soon you'll have no time for anything. They tell me, "don't be too hard on yourself when none of your plans for after the birth work out." Some of them laugh like I'm naive when I say I'm not planning to become a stay-at-home-for-YEARS mom with no personal life or even time for gym. I want to start gradually (at least 1 day per week) working 6 minths after, so I don't lose touch with reality. I want to go to the gym twice a week as soon as my health allows (or at least once for a thorough work-out). The only thing they're not doing is patting my head to make me feel even less in control of my own life. People without kids fortunately don't treat me like a naive little child and they just say, "I hope you're ready, because that's a 20-year commitment you're not gonna get rid of.". Don't tell me that! Just so you don't get the wrong idea here, I'm not a child. I'm 24, well educated, been together with my hubby for over 5 years, married for over a year, etc. But still - concearning people with kids - why do they have to live out their own failings on me? Why do they think I'm gonna end up making the same mistakes as them? They list the things I'm gonna feel unhappy about, the things that can barely be helped. Like the baby keeping the parents awake. I'm sure gonna try to sometimes keep the baby awake during the day, so they get a good day-night pattern. It's healthy! And it keeps me sane! I don't know why they never tried it. We do have an impact on the life we have after we give birth. We will still make our own choices. Maybe I'm wrong and I will lose all control over my life. And maybe babies really are all about staying up all night and not having a personal life ever again, then why do they tell me this now?! I don't want to know. Has any of you had that problem with other people making sure you know how hard it's gonna be?