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Awww sorry jjbubbles, hope the next one works
It's all done to luck and timing unfortunately, the right egg and the right time they perform the IUI.
I think my 2nd one was badly timed since I'd already Oed and the 3rd one was probably too close to actual O. I actually got a copy of my journal and it seems the 1st IUI may have been a bust because DH's count was only 4 million (no wonder she didn't say anything)
So this 4th IUI may have been better timed and his count was good.
patience: Yes candy is tempting, I'm trying to cut down at the moment since all that sugar can't be good for my eggs I only eat it on the weekends but still.
So after having talked to another nice member on this board, I've come to the conclusion that my brother suffers from NPD like our mother does
So I'm giving up on having a good relationship with him and just going to avoid talking to him as much as possible (no problem since he never writes and has never, ever called me), avoid seeing him as much as possible (no problem since he only comes here every 3-5 years and only has time to see us 2-3 days at a time) and avoid being baited into a discussion and stop defending myself when he attacks me and my person. It serves no purpose other than he gets what he's after and I'm left upset and confused. Not only that, I'm giving up on my sister as well since she seems to be under his spell and ditto for my cousin. My family will from now on be my DH, our child, our cat and his family. It's sad but I can't keep on trying for something that's never gonna happen. Sometimes it's better to give up, especially if it's something that's going over your emotional and mental health.
It's all done to luck and timing unfortunately, the right egg and the right time they perform the IUI. I think my 2nd one was badly timed since I'd already Oed and the 3rd one was probably too close to actual O. I actually got a copy of my journal and it seems the 1st IUI may have been a bust because DH's count was only 4 million (no wonder she didn't say anything)
So this 4th IUI may have been better timed and his count was good.patience: Yes candy is tempting, I'm trying to cut down at the moment since all that sugar can't be good for my eggs
I only eat it on the weekends but still.So after having talked to another nice member on this board, I've come to the conclusion that my brother suffers from NPD like our mother does
So I'm giving up on having a good relationship with him and just going to avoid talking to him as much as possible (no problem since he never writes and has never, ever called me), avoid seeing him as much as possible (no problem since he only comes here every 3-5 years and only has time to see us 2-3 days at a time) and avoid being baited into a discussion and stop defending myself when he attacks me and my person. It serves no purpose other than he gets what he's after and I'm left upset and confused. Not only that, I'm giving up on my sister as well since she seems to be under his spell and ditto for my cousin. My family will from now on be my DH, our child, our cat and his family. It's sad but I can't keep on trying for something that's never gonna happen. Sometimes it's better to give up, especially if it's something that's going over your emotional and mental health.
If he'd sent me a similar mail now I'd tell him I'm sorry he feels that way about me and sees things that way and tell him it's maybe for the best they don't come then. Oh well, know what to answer next time if a similar situation comes up e.g. our child's Christening in the future. Don't even know if I'd invite them at this point though but we'll see, it might be moot at that time
Worst part is I'm starting to fear like it'll never happen for us and that my eggs are to blame
