I don't know if I'm in the right place but here goes.
My husband is an only son. He has three sisters. Out of his four uncles there is one cousin who is a boy and one son from him. He has a lot of girl cousins. For my family I have three nephews and one niece my mother would be thrilled with a girl my father already has a grandson named after him.
for me I am fine either way really girls are cute but I have so many nephews I'm comfortable with little boys. My fear is my father in law. My husband doesn't even want him to know so we don't get his hopes up. This is going to be my last pregnancy. I've had three miscarriages trying to get to this point and I just don't have it in me to keep trying for a boy when we don't want more than one baby. We are both in our thirties and I'm already an older mom. Having a baby pushing forty is just not okay with me.
But my husband is warning me that there will more than likely be attitude and disappointment his stepmother may be less than nice about another granddaughter. I just feel horrible that my daughter if I have one won't be welcomed into the family because she isn't a boy. And I have all this pressure to produce a boy when they are already so dang few and far between in that family.
My husband does want a son but he isn't going to be heartbroken if it's a girl he's just a little afraid and thinks it will be more stressful and he will be more protective. But he remembers his sister's being daddy's girls and wouldn't mind that part at all.
I keep thinking boy and calling the baby him just because it would make everyone happy. Part of me wants a girl because she will be MINE and the family won't be as invested in her. I agreed to not telling in laws until we know for sure. About a week and a half away but how do I deal with their condolences when I'm still scared to be pregnant and all I want is a good pregnancy and a healthy child?
My husband is an only son. He has three sisters. Out of his four uncles there is one cousin who is a boy and one son from him. He has a lot of girl cousins. For my family I have three nephews and one niece my mother would be thrilled with a girl my father already has a grandson named after him.
for me I am fine either way really girls are cute but I have so many nephews I'm comfortable with little boys. My fear is my father in law. My husband doesn't even want him to know so we don't get his hopes up. This is going to be my last pregnancy. I've had three miscarriages trying to get to this point and I just don't have it in me to keep trying for a boy when we don't want more than one baby. We are both in our thirties and I'm already an older mom. Having a baby pushing forty is just not okay with me.
But my husband is warning me that there will more than likely be attitude and disappointment his stepmother may be less than nice about another granddaughter. I just feel horrible that my daughter if I have one won't be welcomed into the family because she isn't a boy. And I have all this pressure to produce a boy when they are already so dang few and far between in that family.
My husband does want a son but he isn't going to be heartbroken if it's a girl he's just a little afraid and thinks it will be more stressful and he will be more protective. But he remembers his sister's being daddy's girls and wouldn't mind that part at all.
I keep thinking boy and calling the baby him just because it would make everyone happy. Part of me wants a girl because she will be MINE and the family won't be as invested in her. I agreed to not telling in laws until we know for sure. About a week and a half away but how do I deal with their condolences when I'm still scared to be pregnant and all I want is a good pregnancy and a healthy child?