Lirpa11
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Hi,
I will be 11-12 weeks pregnant when I stay with my mother and her partner for 2.5 days, or 3 nights.
I'm a bit worried as her and her partner are heavy smokers. I used to live with them as a kid and the house would be filled with smoke, unless they smoke outside now. I'm just a it unsure, as I know they smoke a bit and it will be on their clothes, furniture, bedding etc.
I will only be there a few days, and I would like to stay with her as I am leaving Australia to live in the United States. I am not sure when I will be back but will be a year to a year and a half before I'm back. She is really looking forward to it as well.
So I'm wondering, how would you approach the situation? Do I say that I am worried about the smoking and ask her to not smoke in her house for a few days at least before I get there (I don't know that I can ask this as it is her house, not mine). Do I just see how I go and have a hotel in mind in case the smoke is too much to handle (this is DHs solution)? Do I stay outside and keep windows open etc and just limit exposure if possible? I know she will be courteous, such as not smoking in my face etc so I'm not worried about that
I honestly don't know. I don't want to upset or insult her, but I also don't want to be living in a cloud of smoke for 2 days with a 11-12 week old fetus growing... Then again it's only a few days and some people live with this all the time and choose to smoke as well (that's their choice), I'm just unsure as hubby and I don't smoke and we don't really have anyone else around us who smokes other than his mom and she always smokes outside her house and you can't tell there's a smoker in her house. I know my mom will be a different story though, then again maybe I am making a mountain out of a mow hill
Anyhow, anyone have any experience to help me out with how your situation went? Or just settle my worries?
Thanks
I will be 11-12 weeks pregnant when I stay with my mother and her partner for 2.5 days, or 3 nights.
I'm a bit worried as her and her partner are heavy smokers. I used to live with them as a kid and the house would be filled with smoke, unless they smoke outside now. I'm just a it unsure, as I know they smoke a bit and it will be on their clothes, furniture, bedding etc.
I will only be there a few days, and I would like to stay with her as I am leaving Australia to live in the United States. I am not sure when I will be back but will be a year to a year and a half before I'm back. She is really looking forward to it as well.
So I'm wondering, how would you approach the situation? Do I say that I am worried about the smoking and ask her to not smoke in her house for a few days at least before I get there (I don't know that I can ask this as it is her house, not mine). Do I just see how I go and have a hotel in mind in case the smoke is too much to handle (this is DHs solution)? Do I stay outside and keep windows open etc and just limit exposure if possible? I know she will be courteous, such as not smoking in my face etc so I'm not worried about that
I honestly don't know. I don't want to upset or insult her, but I also don't want to be living in a cloud of smoke for 2 days with a 11-12 week old fetus growing... Then again it's only a few days and some people live with this all the time and choose to smoke as well (that's their choice), I'm just unsure as hubby and I don't smoke and we don't really have anyone else around us who smokes other than his mom and she always smokes outside her house and you can't tell there's a smoker in her house. I know my mom will be a different story though, then again maybe I am making a mountain out of a mow hill
Anyhow, anyone have any experience to help me out with how your situation went? Or just settle my worries?
Thanks