strip clubs and porn

[1stimemomma]

Just wondering how others feel about them and why you feel that way. My OH is 20 and curious about the strip club and I done know how to feel about it. I personally am not a fan at all of porn and just really wonder why a man with a family would want to go watch some lady undress in their face. I know some woman like going too and so Im just wanting to hear other opinions and trying to keep an open mind.

 

[Frooty]

Men will be men they don't always think with their heads more with something else.

 

[1stimemomma]

I wish I could but it's just so hard for me to get over this.

 

[staralfur]

I never had problems with strip clubs until I got pregnant, and since then the thought of my OH at one makes me super uncomfortable. Perhaps because my body has changed, and not for the better, and I'm just feeling insecure. Or maybe it's like you said - he has a family now, it seems like that part of his life should be in the past.

I've never had issues with porn and don't think I ever will. It seems incredibly harmless to me and I even enjoy it myself from time to time.

 

[PAgal]

It's perfectly normal, especially at 20! That is so very young and he probably hasn't even reached his peak of sexual curiosity yet. If it bothers you, you could suggest going with him, some of my friends do this with their OH's. That way he gets the fulfilllment of it but you don't have to fret about what's really going on there. You have to communicate about it. If you go in with an open mind, it can be fun and exciting just trying something different (although it will probably be strange for you, that's normal too!)

 

[youngmommy2]

I don't have an issue with either of them for both men and women.. every adult is a sexual being and has needs/wants and a right to express them (unless it's something illegal-child pornography,snuff films,etc)

 

[Ruth 1980]

Big no-no in our relationship (of course every relationship is different). The point of a stripper is to turn on the men watching, i don't want another woman turning on my dh, and thankfully he doesn't either! If he ever went to a strip club it would be a major deal-breaker for me. But like I said, every relationship is different. If it makes you very uncomfortable/upset he needs to respect that because you're the woman that he loves at the end of the day! x

 

[OriginalDoll]

Strip clubs and porn are huuuuuge no-no's in our relationship. If he is wanting to watch porn or go to a strip club, there is no reason for us to be together.

 

[HayleyZahra]

I think theres right and wrong on both sides here!

xxxx

 

[NewMummyx]

Strip clubs are harmless imo, i had an interview set up to try out before OH threw a paddy lol!
The men look and cant touch, if they are silly enough to spend their money that way then let them!

Porn i enjoy myself, as long as your OH isnt watching anything illegal or weird (child, animal, crushing etc) it really is just a visual to get off to

 

[Kristin52]

I don't mind it.

 

[My_First]

Men are more visual creatures than women and so in order to masturbate porn offers that visual stimulation. (some women like it too I hasten to add). Strip clubs I see as just a bit of a giggle. They can't touch, but may come home gagging for it later! That said my oh went to a strip club abroad for a friends stag do, and it was more than just a strip club. I was slightly uncomfortable about that as a few of the party went and paid for a prostitute, but ultimately I have to trust him.

 

[Ozzieshunni]

Don't care if DH wants to go watch. I have an issue with him getting lap dance though as the woman is rubbing her body on his. I'm fine with porn too.

 

[sweetpea01]

I used to be okay with porn.....since having the baby it seems gross to me for some reason. strip clubs were never okay

 

[NewMummyx]

Men are more visual creatures than women and so in order to masturbate porn offers that visual stimulation. (some women like it too I hasten to add). Strip clubs I see as just a bit of a giggle. They can't touch, but may come home gagging for it later! That said my oh went to a strip club abroad for a friends stag do, and it was more than just a strip club. I was slightly uncomfortable about that as a few of the party went and paid for a prostitute, but ultimately I have to trust him.

My OH isnt going to a friends stag do in Amsterdam for this reason, but as you said you have to trust your man.

If he is going to cheat he will do it, regardless if he goes to strip clubs or watches porn imo

 

[painted_pony]

Both are 100% Deal breakers for me. If my man needs another woman to enjoy himself then we don't need to be married anymore. Simple as that.

 

[XJessicaX]

The ONLY thing that I dislike about strip clubs is how expensive they are and what a waste of money it is. My self esteem is high enough not to be concerned about cavorting women. Part of me pities them tbh rather than have any jealousy!

As for porn, all for it!

 

[Ozzieshunni]

The ONLY thing that I dislike about strip clubs is how expensive they are and what a waste of money it is. My self esteem is high enough not to be concerned about cavorting women. Part of me pities them tbh rather than have any jealousy!

As for porn, all for it!

I agree with that!

 

[painted_pony]

I have a feeling this thread is going to end up locked...that's what happens to all porn/stripping threads.

 

[XJessicaX]

I have a feeling this thread is going to end up locked...that's what happens to all porn/stripping threads.

Really? I haven't noticed an abundance of stripping threads!