strip clubs and porn

[My_First]

It was a flippant comment. I actually don't mind that my oh gets turned on by other women, it's a fantasy,just like porn, to me. If he was going regularly and it was affecting our sex life and pocket, I would have a massive problem with it. Once in a while for Stag night, I see it as harmless fun. I would also not call you insecure, if you aren't happy with it, that's your choice, I say live and let live.

 

[Ozzieshunni]

Men are so easy to turn on. Really, come on now. Men think about sex a zillion times a day.

 

[Rhi_Rhi1]

meh, i'm not really fussed lol

 

[Ozzieshunni]

I was just thinking about the women that say they don't want their guys turned on by other women. I bet you money at least once they have thought about another woman during sex.

 

[Boothh]

Porn doesn't bother me in the slightest, I know when he's looked at it because the Internet history gets deleted LOL I always say as long as I don't know wha he's actually looking at it doesn't bother me, if I did I might get abit jealous if he's looking at opposite to me and turned on by it haha, so I'd rather not know! Since I've been pregnant we've hardly done anything so I can't blame him if he wants abit of 'me time'
Strip clubs is a massive no though, pictures don't bother me but I don't want a real live girl shoving her tits in my husbands face thanks! He knows how I feel about that and I know he wouldnt go out of respect for me
X

 

[mumandco]

Porn doesn't bother me he watches it I watch it we watch it together.

Strip clubs I would be bothered by it,I would be half willing for a stag do but I wouldn't be very happy about it

 

[marilou]

*sigh* I do try and stay clear of these threads but this one touched a nerve...

What really is the difference between strip clubs and porn?? Seriously...

The circumstances in both situations are practically the same but yet alot of women on here are ok with porn and not strip clubs, it baffles me.

You cant touch a women in a porn movie and neither can you at a strip club (or so im told)
A man is turned on by a women during porn and at a strip club
..... so the only defining difference is because of a screen monitor?

I dont like either, and yes im pretty insecure, but im not prude, practically ever where you turn, tv adverts, newspapers, everywhere is sexualised now... If I dont want my OH going to a strip club, I certainly dont want him watching porn either, for me, both are just as hurtful. Porn is looked upon as something which could possibly hurt one another, otherwise why would so many men hide and lie about it? If they are lying, surely they understand that their actions are deceiving and hurtful.

I dont know what my OH does when im not around.. I dont keep a tab on him, but he knows that if he were to ever hide and delete some history because he fancied getting his kicks off at the computer whilst im upstairs... that would make HIM the bad person for lying.. not me for thinking porn is wrong.

 

[momsarah24]

I HATE strip clubs I think they are NASTY!! there is no reason for anyone to get paid to take there clothes off. Time and place at home in private not for the whole world to see.

 

[jamielou]

I wouldn't be happy with my other half going to a strip club! Why would he need some other bird turning him on, thats my job haha! Porn don't bother me, tbh if his watching it behind my back i obviously ain't providing what he needs which thankfully i do and the porn he does watch is usually in context of texting me or messaging me things he wants to try ;-)

 

[jamielou]

*sigh* I do try and stay clear of these threads but this one touched a nerve...

What really is the difference between strip clubs and porn?? Seriously...

Depends on the context. If your other half is watching it behind your back and you believe your open to trying anything sexually with him then no there's no need for it but we are human, like if my other half wanted anal sex and i didn't want to and he was curious it wouldn't phase me him watching it as long as i knew, think its the deceit that bothers people. FWIW it should be a joint thing, me and my other half dont watch it to get aroused but we both do like to get ideas from porn to try with each other and you can get some fresh ideas from it

 

[PAgal]

I was just thinking about the women that say they don't want their guys turned on by other women. I bet you money at least once they have thought about another woman during sex.

I was thinking the same thing! But once?! More like every time they have sex with us! Men get bored very easily, but they would never admit it!

 

[toffee2010]

I don't have a problem with strippers as I've known a few but my man knows nt to go there . He doesn't even see the point in threesomes lol he is a lot more sexually civilised than I have been before we met but he is happy with being that way . Some guys want to go out and experiment but my oh doesn't . I've been with a lot of fakers who tell u shit u want to hear ,so can read em like a book . Plenty of men cheat and the most popular time is during pregnancy .... Sad but true . Every mans mind will wander bt wether they act on it or not is the question .

 

[1stimemomma]

I think the thing that bothers me most about porn is that I feel like he hides it even when he swears he doesn't. I hate coming home to my passwords not working because the history has been needed. Obvious, even more so when Every time I come back and the doors are locked. That just grinds my gears!!! To come home, to a place where we NEVER lock the doors and have to wait to get in my home because " he doesn't like surprises". Bull. Shit. We tried it together and both agreed it wasn't our thing. I just hate getting rushed out of my home so he could have "me" time. I get that sometimes it makes him get off faster so he can get it done and over with but still I just done like it. I wish we could see eye to eye with it but we talked last night about it and he knows how I feel ands swears he will respect my feelings. But as for strip clubs he told me he didn't know that he had to pay. Duh! And just wanted to see what they are all about. Im more of an intimate type that can have fun too but just think that sort of thing was meant for you and your mate. He makes good points as far as they are all just paid actors and nothing more but like I said I feel those feelings should stay between us two. Thumbs up to the girls who are all for it, and to the girls who are not, I feel ya!!!

 

[Lottie86]

I bet you money at least once they have thought about another woman during sex.

I was thinking the same thing! But once?! More like every time they have sex with us! Men get bored very easily, but they would never admit it!

God that's depressing!!

 

[Ozzieshunni]

I bet you money at least once they have thought about another woman during sex.

I was thinking the same thing! But once?! More like every time they have sex with us! Men get bored very easily, but they would never admit it!

God that's depressing!!

It's nothing against the partner, I think. Men's minds just wander

 

[Zizzle]

To be fair, can we all honestly say weve never thought about someone else, just once?

 

[Ozzieshunni]

To be fair, can we all honestly say weve never thought about someone else, just once?

I used to with my ex all the time I actually can't say I've thought about another MAN while with DH

 

[jenniferttc1]

To be fair, can we all honestly say weve never thought about someone else, just once?

Nope never. But can't say I have never thought of having 2 of my husband at once I don't even think my husband thinks about anything during sex. He had no imagination at all! Lol

 

[Zizzle]

Hahaha Ozzie! Yeah I've done that one too Jennifer!

I don't know if I'd like to know what OH thinks about, I'll stay blissfully ignorant

 

[StarrySkies]

Hmm, I dunno how I'd feel if my oh ever went to a strip club, I think I'd be more annoyed at him for wasting money than anything tbh.
Porn used to bother me when I first got with my Oh, Iv been with him for 13yrs now though and it doesn't really anymore.