Struggles of trying to conceive... Help!

[RachaelP1027]

Hi! I am new to this forum and over the last few month of trying to conceive I haven't really had anyone to talk to about how I feel because of course I want it to be a surprise to my family and friends!

A little background: my husband and I got married last October! We've been together since I was 16! My one and only. He's now 26 and I'll be 23 in May. We started trying to conceive in January. I have a history of irregular periods so I went into this expecting it to be difficult. I started taking a herb called Vitex to help regulate my cycles... My last 4 cycles have been between 20-22 days which is way better than before when I could go up to 3 months without a period! Now my problem is pinpointing my ovulation. Last month I was sure we got pregnant, I felt it in my heart and it turns out we didn't. So this month we made it a point to hit almost every day of my fertile window (or so I think). My last period was on March 10 and according to my pinkpad app my ovulation day was the 18. So now I'm playing the waiting game, and I stress so much I feel like I'm going crazy.

Does anyone else have or had this problem?? I'm so worried it's not going to happen for us. My one friend who was in my wedding got pregnant the night of my wedding... It was like nothing! I unfortunately woke up with my period on my wedding day! And another one of my good friends got pregnant "by accident" last march and had her beautiful baby girl this past December.

The waiting is torture.

 

[Dizzy dolly]

Hi Hun I'm new to this group too me n the hubs are both 29 started this emotional rollercoster 6 month ago straight after we got married I no how you feel the stress of it all can drive you mad so I came on here hoping to get support from ppl in the same boat. It's hard when everyone around you gets pregnant by barely trying.

If you want someone to stress at I don't know much about charting but il happily listen

 

[RachaelP1027]

Do you have irregular periods too? Or are you still trying to figure out your cycle?

 

[Gem26]

I have irregular cycles! Currently on preseed, what did you feel like when you thought you was preg? I feel like that no but ive took 3 tests and all negative xxx

 

[Dizzy dolly]

My 1st one off BC was 35 then went down to 28 since been increasing each month back to nearly we're I started not sure if I'm irregular or just my body settling down after yrs of taking it

 

[BeachyFeelin]

Hey ladies! The OH and I are on our 6th cycle of TTC (currently CD2). I really thought it would happen sooner....it's all been such torture since I don't have anyone to talk to either.

My cycles since being off BC have been fairly normal, a couple short ones (27 days) but in general are between 28-31. I definitely recommend using the site Fertilityfriend.com to track your cycles...it's the most accurate, and they do have an app.

Those other apps....they can't be trusted. They are just a best guess as to your ovulation date based off the average cycle. Really the only 100% way to know if you are ovulating is to temp.

It's super hard watching everyone else get pregnant (though I'm sure some struggled they just aren't saying so)...I feel like once a week I find out about a new pregnancy! Facebook is NOT my friend!!!

 

[Dizzy dolly]

Hi I started with ff ap last night mid month prob not the best way haha but logged what I could from last few week think I'm gonna start with using opk nxt month properly lol guess I just thought give it a couple a month n I'd b preggers I'm sure it will happen wen it's right but wish it would hurry up n happen

 

[PriandRafa]

Hi Ladies, may I join this conversation?
I'm new too!!
Wishing good luck for everybody and hoping all of us can get our wishes to come true!!

My periods were very irregular and then I started with the birth control pills, and everything was fine until we decided to get pregnant.
I stopped with them January of last year, but we actually only started to ttc naturally maybe July or August of last year. Periods very irregular and long, so no idea when I actually ovulated each month.
November we decided to make an appt with an RE and he asked us for hubby and I to do a loooot of tests before he could start treatment.
Well, turns out I have PCOS and this makes it difficult to ovulate, reason why periods were late and irregular.

Hubby is fine with his sperm counts and quality.

So, right now I am on my 2nd cycle of Clomid to help me with my folicles and good egss, Ovidrel shot to trigger my ovulation, TI and progesterone suppositories after my fertile days.... All this is DRIVING ME CRAZY!!!!

And almost no one of my friends know about this, my family has no clue as I want a surprise too, and I hear everybody here, all my friends are pregnant or with baby already..... such a weird feeling

So right now, I am on CD 24, 7 days post ovulation and waiting for my appt next Monday for blood work to confirm if we got it this time or not yet....
So half way through my 2ww

wishing all of you good luck!!! Keep this thread coming!!!

 

[BeachyFeelin]

I swore off OPK's but after my last cycle of having such wonky temps and not being sure, I want to be sure this time!

I'm also going to drink green tea twice a day until O day...I hear this helps EWCM, which I have none of! Anyone else have this problem and have any advice?

 

[Dizzy dolly]

I did use opk 1 month then said no as felt I was puttin pressure on hub but def gonna go back on to them for next month ewcm is one thing I seem to have too much of 6 days last two cycles haha x can't drink green tea makes me gip used to take the tablet form instead but don't bother any more

 

[Dizzy dolly]

Hi Ladies, may I join this conversation?
I'm new too!!
Wishing good luck for everybody and hoping all of us can get our wishes to come true!!

My periods were very irregular and then I started with the birth control pills, and everything was fine until we decided to get pregnant.
I stopped with them January of last year, but we actually only started to ttc naturally maybe July or August of last year. Periods very irregular and long, so no idea when I actually ovulated each month.
November we decided to make an appt with an RE and he asked us for hubby and I to do a loooot of tests before he could start treatment.
Well, turns out I have PCOS and this makes it difficult to ovulate, reason why periods were late and irregular.

Hubby is fine with his sperm counts and quality.
So, right now I am on my 2nd cycle of Clomid to help me with my folicles and good egss, Ovidrel shot to trigger my ovulation, TI and progesterone suppositories after my fertile days.... All this is DRIVING ME CRAZY!!!!

And almost no one of my friends know about this, my family has no clue as I want a surprise too, and I hear everybody here, all my friends are pregnant or with baby already..... such a weird feeling

So right now, I am on CD 24, 7 days post ovulation and waiting for my appt next Monday for blood work to confirm if we got it this time or not yet....
So half way through my 2ww

wishing all of you good luck!!! Keep this thread coming!!!

That's a lot to deal with how irregular was you if don't mind me asking

Never realised how long 2 weeks could last lol

 

[PriandRafa]

Hi Dizzy dolly,
2 weeks are long, tooo long!!!! LOL

after I stopped with the bc, my periods would come after 40 days, then 45, then, out of the sudden, 30, then, 40 again and so on....
then I had people and blogs telling me that if you want to start ttc, you should go to a doc, just to make sure everything is ok with both of you, just so you dont "waste" a year, for then go to the doc, so I gave it a shot.

 

[Dizzy dolly]

I'm giving it til June then I'm going t make an app if even just for advise had a stressful 12 month with work issues so hoping now everything's calmed down might help they say stress can play a big part maybe that's not helped

 

[PriandRafa]

Yes, stress definitely does not help!!
Hope things can calm down so you can relax a bit. Have you tried some yoga or meditation? I heard this helps!! I have been meaning to start yoga, but so far it is only me talking about it LOL

 

[RachaelP1027]

Hi! Oh man, last month when I thought I was pregnant, it was just this feeling of "YES!" and I began to feel protective of myself. I would be walking around somewhere and just get this overwhelming feeling that something was depending on me. It was really great. But then when we found out, I was thinking to myself, "I am crazy. All I did was try to convince myself that I was when I really wasn't. Those feelings weren't real." But they were real! They were real to me! And my good friend who is expecting baby #2 told me that I have those feelings for a reason and even if I'm not pregnant (which I wasn't) don't discredit those feelings!

 

[RachaelP1027]

So my cycles vary from 20-22 days... If I ovulated on the 17 or March (CD1 was Mar 10), I'm currently 7 days DPO and hubby and I def made sure to hit the "window of opportunity" this time. But now I'm freaking out because I read that just because I get my period doesn't mean I ovulated! And I'm wondering if that's why I didn't get pregnant last month when we tried. This is only cycle 4 of trying... so I know I need to give it more time, but I'm just so anxious.

 

[BBYfever]

Hi ladies!
I have long cycles too...super frustrating!! This last cycle was my shortest since bc and it was 35 days, I am taking pregnitude which I think is helping tighten them up, but I think it may have also caused my luteal phase to be shortened as well (10 days last cycle) so I'm debating on if I should start taking vit. b6 as well. Plan on talking to my dr. About it when I go in April. I am currently on cd 7 and probably won't ovate until around cd 25... If it's like last cycle. I hate late ovulation!! I will be getting
On clomid if we aren't pregnant by July. Just trying to have it happen naturally. I am temping/charting, using opks, preseed and SMEP this cycle! Fx this is it!!!
Wishing you all Bfp's as well!!!

 

[BBYfever]

Oh and I am with y'all with the stress and anxiety!! That is my biggest issue that is hard to work on! I know it doesn't help, but it almost stresses me out more when people tell me not to stress bc it can cause problems with fertility! Lol ahhhhhh!!
So, I've started yoga along with meditation, plan on getting a massage every month, and am thinking about acupuncture, has anyone tried that?!

 

[Dizzy dolly]

No I've not tried anything yet struggle to find time beyond work sometimes lol from nxt week doing less hours so plan to start building fitness levels back up n release some happy hormones haha

No unfortunately even if you are having periods ur not necessarily ov even if u get ewcm and a pos on a opk I think it's still not def just means your bodies prepared itself to release the egg

 

[Dizzy dolly]

Hi ladies!
I have long cycles too...super frustrating!! This last cycle was my shortest since bc and it was 35 days, I am taking pregnitude which I think is helping tighten them up, but I think it may have also caused my luteal phase to be shortened as well (10 days last cycle) so I'm debating on if I should start taking vit. b6 as well. Plan on talking to my dr. About it when I go in April. I am currently on cd 7 and probably won't ovate until around cd 25... If it's like last cycle. I hate late ovulation!! I will be getting
On clomid if we aren't pregnant by July. Just trying to have it happen naturally. I am temping/charting, using opks, preseed and SMEP this cycle! Fx this is it!!!
Wishing you all Bfp's as well!!!

Sorry if I sound stupid what does clomid do is that to regulate cycles more?