My OH over the past few years has done his degree and is now doing a postgraduate in radiotherapy. Now he is saying he wants to do medicine which would require us to move down south as there arent many choices for this course up north. The thing is, whilst i am proud of the things he has acheived i feel that it has been at the exspense of our family and whilst we have just struck a balance with work and family life i dont want this struggle again. For a start when he was doing his degree course i pretty much cared for lo alone, and even though my family visited when they could they all work and live an hor away so it got pretty lonely. I dont want this is a strange city much further from family than we are already, alongside juggling a job (which i only just started and love but would have to give up if we moved). Also if we moved we wouldnt be able to afford a second child which would be heartbreaking for me.
On the otherside, if OH did qualify as a doctor then financially we would be in a great place but by then Isaac would be in school so we would have to stay there. It would probably be too late for another baby as i really dont want a huge age gap and it would be at least 7/8 years if we went ahead. I feel that the financial side of things in 7 years isnt enough for the years of financial struggle and the strain on family life that is inevitable.
I want to be supportive but whilst i try to see his point of view i dont think he even considers mine. When he mentioned it last night he said "there is nothing stopping us just packing up and moving, i suppose there is your job." He doesnt even consider things like schools, money, or even our families. Im so torn. I think i will just hope it all goes away!
On the otherside, if OH did qualify as a doctor then financially we would be in a great place but by then Isaac would be in school so we would have to stay there. It would probably be too late for another baby as i really dont want a huge age gap and it would be at least 7/8 years if we went ahead. I feel that the financial side of things in 7 years isnt enough for the years of financial struggle and the strain on family life that is inevitable.
I want to be supportive but whilst i try to see his point of view i dont think he even considers mine. When he mentioned it last night he said "there is nothing stopping us just packing up and moving, i suppose there is your job." He doesnt even consider things like schools, money, or even our families. Im so torn. I think i will just hope it all goes away!