Support..seeing there is no help

[Desi's_lost]

I was with my fiance, yes he gave me a ring in december, for nine months and we were happily going to have a baby until he told his parents and they turned into...evil vile beings...and now he wont even so much as talk to me, his number has been changed and he lives 45 minutes away so i have no way of ya know, beating him senseless. anyway basically i had to choose between having our baby and keep him. considering he broke every promise he made, it was no contest. anyway, now my life is really hard and just yuck. He's going to be 18 in 2 months and i'm already 18. i wish there was something i could do to make him stay at least for the baby. it just isn't right. honestly, i'm considering calling Steve Wilcos. i dont know, but...support please

 

[aob1013]

Firstly please don't call any TV shows

You can't make a guy stay hun, i don't know what the policies are like in the USA but he may have to pay maintenance? x

 

[leoniebabey]

Big hun! I dont really know what to say but you need to be strong for your baby! and if he doesnt want anything to do with the baby then im sure you will do a fantastic job on your own. Yes it will be hard but making him stay just for the baby's sake will do more harm than good. Maby he just got scared at the thought of being a father, is there no way you could go to his house and have a chat about things. remember it's not so bad being a single mom, do you have a supportive family to help you ?

 

[Natasha2605]

Aww I really don't know what to say to you. Many of the girls on here will tell you there OH's and FOB's can be such twats! I'm sure the girlies on here will support you as best as we can, we do try support each other Hopefully things sort themselves out in time xx

 

[amygwen]

You poor thing.

If you're going to be on any TV show, be on Steve! I love Steve Wilkos he's amazing, anyways.. you can get child support off of him if you know where abouts he is. That's really the only thing.. you can't force him to be apart of his child's life if he doesn't want to.. but you can definitely get money off of him.

 

[Marzipan_girl]

You poor thing.

If you're going to be on any TV show, be on Steve! I love Steve Wilkos he's amazing, anyways.. you can get child support off of him if you know where abouts he is. That's really the only thing.. you can't force him to be apart of his child's life if he doesn't want to.. but you can definitely get money off of him.

Yeah exactly ^
And sometimes...thats enough at first. Alot of guys start to come round to the idea after they realise there's now way they can just run off for good!

Altho you may not WANT him in your lives by then, if money is the only way he will help! But at least he can't get his own way. He helped start this...

 

[Desi's_lost]

thanks everyone. the thing is we talked about this. it was only after his parents turned into the keepers of hell that he started being like this. but i am running out of patience fast. And yes, i could get money out of him, but i don't want his money! i want him to make good on his word and his responsibilities. I some what wonder what someone yelling at him, but telling him the truth and reality not "I'm going to kick you out of the family if you stay with her," which has nothing to do with right and wrong and what he should do, that maybe he'd change his mind. Also, i somewhat have a supportive family but...its hard. I was with Zach EVERYDAY. always. and now everything is just so fucked up and i'm stuck.

By the way what are OH's and FOB's? Sorry, i'm new to all of this.

 

[leoniebabey]

OH > other half
FOB > Father of baby
dw, you'll grasp all the abbreviations soon!
Glad your family are being supportive, do you have many friends ? (i dont mean that in a horrible way) it sounds a bit awful saying it like that. but friends that would be supportive to you aswell!

 

[Desi's_lost]

Here's the funny thing, i did have a couple of close friends, until he decided he didn't like them and me being the stupid girl that i am said oh...okay. i mean to some point i didn't care for the people anyway, because being with zach sort of changed my opinions on a lot of things, but i also gave up a lot of friends because he wanted me to. it got to the point where i couldnt talk to guys at all, but i didnt mind cause i had him and thats all i needed. even now, if he figures out that i talk to a guy, he'll talk to me for two seconds to yell at me then say bye.
i KNOW he doesnt treat me well and i know it was wrong to let things be that way...but it was hard to say no. it still is now. even though i can get so mad, i still miss him.

 

[leoniebabey]

Ohhhh huge
Maby you could try and getting out and making some new friends ?
try a new hobby. You sound like what you really need is some support right now
x

 

[Desi's_lost]

thank you
i should..but i'm afraid that if i do start making friends and god forbid talked to a guy and the FOB decided to come around he would probably change his mind...because thats how he is.

 

[Desi's_lost]

So i have an update, i'm soooo tired of him acting like a little boy. he ran to his mom saying that i'd been messaging him on facebook (and why the hell shouldnt i be able to talk to the little coward??) and she called up my mom ranting and raving. and this bitch who had been attacking me on facebook who's friends with them tried to say i was going after her but surprise surprise i have all her messages and unless she made up anything she can't say nothin cause i was just defending myself. so anyway, i'm so fed up with him and i've decided as much as it hurts i'm moving on. i blocked him and her and i'm just sooo done.
by the way, who here knows that if you are upset, your baby is upset? that girl is about 5 months pregnant and she's starting things with me, knowing i too am pregnant and i told her what are you doing you're upseting both of our babies. she said "what the hell are you talking about freak" ...hmm and she's much older than me.
anyway, i'm ranting sorry but oh my god i'm just so fed up!

 

[lily123]

Awh i feel sorry for you hun, thats an awful situation to find yourself in
I think you did the right thing in moving on from FOB, he sounds like a very nasty piece of work!
There are a lot of girls on here who have had similar situations with FOB, losing friends etc, so you will be well supported here
x
x

 

[Desi's_lost]

thanks =]
ug its just so annoying. his family tries to make it sound like 'woe is them' when we want nothing from them if the FOB isnt gonna stand up. they legit attack us. they even offered me 10k to abort the baby. although they wouldn't say that to me. only to my mom on the phone. but he's gonna find out soon that no other girl is going to put up with him and baby him the way i did. he'll be back and i sure as hell hope he's ready to kiss my feet.

 

[AriannasMama]

I love Steve! lol, though I wouldnt recommend calling any TV shows, if he doesn't want to be there, you cant make him, but you can take him to court so he has to pay child support, even if he doesnt sign the birth certificate, they will just do DNA on him and your baby. big hugs to you.

 

[pinkribbon]

Maybe he'll come to his senses and stand up to his parents? I'm not the best with advice atm, me and OH aren't on good terms right now....

 

[Katumz]

Wow this is just horrid......and his family is what turned him this way? It makes me sorta nervous cuz my trevor (fob) hasn't told his family yet and his dad is going to explode.....and i'm pretty sure his mom is going to cry. I love his mom to death but his dad creeps me out......anyway I know he would drop his family if they really made him choose but I really hope they don't..........but I think you did the right thing by just getting over him he seems like an ass now and what kind of person tries to bride you into abortion? What monsters!

 

[Desi's_lost]

i dont mean to scare you, but PLEASE be prepared. I thought he'd drop his family too, but it doesnt always happen. his mother was suppose to be the nicest woman in the world who would do for anyone (i knew that was always bull)...but thats not always how it is. i havnt even bothered telling half of the *stuff* i've got from them.
BUT
if your OH is emotionally stable ie didnt try and control you like mine did and is more sure of himself you're better off than i was. i wish you all the luck in the world.