Support thread for all the atheist,agnostic,non-religious and secular humanist TTCers

[tsyhanochka]

For what it's worth, I was having really sluggish and mostly brown periods pretty much for a good year. I picked up some red raspberry leaf tea and tried it (was willing to try anything while I waited out the year...) And I didn't follow the daily dose of a cup right away but I did notice a change and then I flaked for a few months and the cycle before my bfp I did drink a cup a day through my whole period and it was bright and red and heavier than it had been in years! (usually I was very light and short so this gave me some hope).

I'm not selling it as a sure fire way to get a bfp but I did think it helped me have a more normal AF which is kind of important too. And I was feeling that my sluggish periods were a large part of my problem. I mean they just didn't seem healthy.

I picked it up at a health food store, it's labelled as a uterine tonic. And I think I'll be taking it in my 3rd tri, if my midwife is ok with that. They say it should help with labour... and as I'm going for natural... I'll need all the natural help I can get LOL

 

[GingerPanda]

I'm going to try to go natural as well. I don't even want to give birth in a hospital. I want to do a water birth in a birthing center, but the closest one is two hours away. Not gonna work. So then I thought about doing a water birth at home with a midwife, but it's illegal for midwives to practice homebirths in Kentucky without a license... which they stopped issuing in the 70's.

So basically, the way I want to give birth is illegal.


Kentucky has one of the highest C-Section rates. I do NOT want that!

 

[Duckieshoes]

I'm with ya ladies! I want to go natural, though I don't mind being in a hospital. My mom had no meds with her three kids, Neither of my grandmas did with each of their three kids either...so why would I think I need it when they don't? (not at ALL that there's a problem with women that want the meds...it's a personal decision to make and I won't make it for others)

My mom's advice is to talk with your doc about your birth plan and if they're not on board, find a new doc. They should honor your requests, and you can even ask the nurses to not offer the drugs to you either. Docs are prescribing pitocin early in labor to speed the process along...but darn it, I wanna let this happen naturally! Besides, if I'm anything like my mom, the labors will be SHORT. (She delivered my brother in 6 hours, me in 8 though she delayed the labor by putting her feet up for a few hours so that she could let my dad sleep...she didn't tell him either. And then for my sis, a whopping 4 hour delivery)

I think ya just gotta be forceful, make sure they KNOW what you want. Discuss the fact you don't want meds and stick to it! I've told my husband I won't want it and told him that sometimes in labor people say things they don't mean, so if I ask for it, he should make sure I really do want it (he said he'd give it to me the first time though...lol, the man doesn't want me in pain! But my mom might be there too)

 

[tsyhanochka]

Midwives are licensed here and are permitted to do home births if everything looks ok after 37 weeks. And the best part... it's all covered under our provincial health care! Just like it would be with an OB and a hospital... just way less expensive for the gov't. So they are actually opening up some birth centres soon too. Which is cool, but they won't be ready in time for this little bean.

I have a friend who discussed a drug free delivery with her husband. And they agreed on a 'safe word' for her to use if she really REALLY meant it when she asked for drugs. LOL I may need to go that route if I end up with a hospital birth.

 

[GingerPanda]

Midwives are licensed here and are permitted to do home births if everything looks ok after 37 weeks. And the best part... it's all covered under our provincial health care! Just like it would be with an OB and a hospital... just way less expensive for the gov't. So they are actually opening up some birth centres soon too. Which is cool, but they won't be ready in time for this little bean.

I have a friend who discussed a drug free delivery with her husband. And they agreed on a 'safe word' for her to use if she really REALLY meant it when she asked for drugs. LOL I may need to go that route if I end up with a hospital birth.

Lucky. Here, a lot (if not most) of insurance companies won't cover home births or anything but a hospital. And my OB only works with one hospital... a bit cesarean-pushing Catholic one. I don't want any of those things in my birth experience. Hahaha.

 

[tsyhanochka]

The hospital our MF has privileges at has a 90% epidural rate... so I'm kinda freaked out about that. I was hoping for the community hospital in my neighbourhood but if our goal is a home birth it won't matter... and if we have complications that mean a hospital birth, the one we'll go to is one of the best so it's a silver lining.

I love that your ticker says Nerdy Baby... I've had this conversation with my sister that my kid will have no hope of ever being cool with me as a mom LOL

 

[GingerPanda]

Hey, hey! Our babies will be all sorts of cool. Whether anyone else knows it or not!

If my kid doesn't come out screaming about wanting to fight dragons, I will be shocked. At the very least, I hope they like art and drawing. That's my biggest thing next to games. I drew my avatar picture.

I think my biggest fear is having a girly-girl. What would I do?!

 

[GingerPanda]

PS: Your ticker is also awesome. I particularly found myself giggling because the aliens in the new Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles show are called the Krang. Reminded me of that.

 

[tsyhanochka]

Well Krang was in the original TMNT cartoon that I watched.... he was the super villain that was just the brain.

 

[GingerPanda]

I'm too young to remember much of the original show except the song. I was more interested in Inspector Gadget at the time. Lol.

But the aliens are brains in robot suits.

 

[tsyhanochka]

I'm too young to remember much of the original show except the song. I was more interested in Inspector Gadget at the time. Lol.

But the aliens are brains in robot suits.

Yes that is what the original Krang was. He was stripped of his body and banished.

And I don't know what I'd do with a girly girl....or even a fashionably gay son...I'd be out of my depth for sure lol

 

[GingerPanda]

I am all of a sudden thinking of normal childhood things that scare the shit out of me. Like dolls, clowns, Sesame Street puppets, and people in mascot suits like at theme parks or Chuck E Cheese. I really hope my child does not like any of these things...

When I was little, my grandmother's guest bedroom was where she kept her collection of clown porcelain dolls. NIGHTMARES.

 

[hanibal766]

Well ladies,

After me being such a BFN-phobe and not wanting to test early, even though I had loads of symptoms and I kept telling myself that I can only test the day after AF was due (15dpo), I have indeed been very patient and tested at 15dpo this morning.
I discovered my fears were totally unfounded. I could have got a BFP days ago, because I got a VERY this morning!

 

[GingerPanda]

Sure you don't need me to tweak that for you?


Holy crap! SUPER POSITIVE!

https://t3.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcRDWr5QJ4Nqk-DMNTkrJDU3FGZ0ptg99IWarAFMh7g6DQkDiKm84RLbfDsK

 

[Skyler2014]

Wow nice lines!

 

[tsyhanochka]

Wait to go Hanibal!!!! It looks like mine! I got a super positive too. And I also held out until AF was due because I just couldn't believe that what I was feeling were symptoms at all.

Congrats! Looks like this thread is picking up many BFP which is great!

We can talk heathen babies on the thread that I see pbl had actually started:

https://babyandbump.momtastic.com/p...agnostic-non-religious-secular-humanists.html

But of course still hanging out here... cause this is a great group of ladies and I wouldn't want to lose touch!

 

[Sbmack]

Hannibal, how amazing. Congratulations!!!

Gingerpanda, I had an aunt that had an insane collection of American Girl dolls. Maybe that's not what they were called...I'm not really sure, but they were super realistic and they were scary. I was a child at the time and I didn't like them. I hope if I have a little girl, she will think they're creepy too.

 

[bubbles82]

Ooh BFP! Congrats Hannibal, well done for being so patient, lovely lines!

 

[GingerPanda]

Gingerpanda, I had an aunt that had an insane collection of American Girl dolls. Maybe that's not what they were called...I'm not really sure, but they were super realistic and they were scary. I was a child at the time and I didn't like them. I hope if I have a little girl, she will think they're creepy too.

Ugh, yes. The American Girl dolls. Super realistic dolls that you can order to look just like doll versions of your kid. With their creepy, lifeless glass bead eyes. Ever staring, ever following. Waiting to suck out your soul. *shudder*

I hate dolls. I was more of a dig in the dirt for worms and odd-shaped rocks that I could call "fossils" kind of kid. I was obsessed with dinosaurs. Haha.

 

[Sbmack]

I just came back from my first fertility appt. Luckily, today was cd3 so they did bloodwork. The dr. also did an endometrial biopsy. A long skinny tube was inserted into my uterus. It did not feel good at all. It hurt more than the sonohysterography. I have another appt. scheduled for next Friday for an ultrasound to check follicle development. Ill get my bloodwork results then too. Because I keep getting vaginosis, the dr. recommends IUI right away. I am very excited! I also met with thier insurance specialist and she told me I have very good insurance. It covers 80% of all treatments and there's no limit on IUI cycles. I left the appointment in a much better mood. Also, the dr. never said anything about me coming in at 10 months instead of a year.