Ugh, Ginger.
So sorry to hear all your bad news! Sometimes WTT isn't a bad thing (I'm spinning positive here). If your OH is the kind of guy you could give vitamins to, you might be able to improve his SA. There's lots of info on here about that--does he do the bad things, like drink, smoke, eat poorly, wear tight undies, or etc? At a minimum you could try giving him some vitamins. I know women here who have snuck into their OH's food.
https://health.howstuffworks.com/pr...rtility/vitamins-that-increase-fertility1.htm
And I'm sorry to say it
, but they way you described your charts always sounded a little like PCOS to me. Mostly the fact that you would get bleeding when you didn't expect it, in a way that didn't seem to follow the usual rhythm. I'm sensing from you a reluctance to temp (I just gave up
), but you too could do some diet thing to address PCOS.
https://www.pcosdietsupport.com/
If yours is a mild case, it's possible some changes in how you eat could make a big difference.
So, my positive spin is that you could use a few WTT months to optimize for both of you, so that when you're back to TTC you could be in prime FERTILE form!
How was that? Bossy or helpful? Sorry if it's the former.
In the meantime, I hope both of you get the employment situation worked out quickly.
Not bossy! Helpful! I do have a reluctance to temp. Mostly because of a couple different issues, among them being I don't wake up at the same time every day (especially now that I'll be going back to work and be on mixed shifts). But also there are some more personal issues with DH. I could probably work around it, but it would be a MAJOR pain.
I never suspected I might have PCOS because I've had all these hormonal tests and even a trans-vag ultrasound to look for any potential causes to my wonky periods, and was told that everything was normal and that they didn't have any explanation for it. Now we run the same blood tests again, they all come back normal (with a hcg of 0), and suddenly he says I have PCOS like he knew it all along, and I should have known it to. My uncle's wife has PCOS and was never able to have children (they adopted one son), so when I started freaking out and asking questions, he just kept poopooing the problem. He said it was mild, and that we would conceive naturally. That it would just take longer. But that I'm not ovulating on my own... So how can I conceive naturally?! He prescribed me Provera, but wants me to wait after two weeks of protected sex and a negative pregnancy test before I take it. Even though I'm not ovulating.
I was going to just take it anyway, but I forgot to fill the prescription yesterday. And last night I had a dream that I got a BFP so dark that you could barely see the control line. So now I guess I'm going to wait just in case, even though logically I think there's no way I'm pregnant.
But PCOS does kind of make sense. I've always been heavy for my height, even when I was hardcore exercising every single day. Since I graduated high school in 2007, I've gone up almost 7 pant sizes and can't seem to loose the weight no matter what I do. I'm also having problems with some facial hair. And I don't know if this is related to PCOS, but I never had acne in my teens, but now I break out ALL THE TIME. Not just on my face either. I'm getting it on my shoulders and back too. It's painful and gross. A real confidence-killer.
I did get DH a men's multi-vitamin, and he is taking it so far when I take my pre-natals before bed. Previously, he was a bit of a diet pop addict, and would drink several a day, and he also had more than the occasional round of alcohol. I think that might have something to do with it. He didn't provide nearly the sized "sample" he usually does for the test, so maybe that too. He does wear boxers and pants that are loose in the crotch. He take hot showers, but they aren't long. Hoping that gets better by the time we can try again.
Ginger: Life has a way of kicking you when your down! Sorry girl, but thungs always have a way of sorting itself out. I bet DH lands an even better job, and maybe less stress (plus some vitamins) will help that sperm count! Like plb said, there are many ways to treat PCOS with diet. Look into it! It can really help!
I have to say that I am reluctant to WTT, maybe you should go with NTNP, as if it happens it happens, and maybe when the time is right, that lucky sperm and that little egg will meet, and it will have all been meant to be! Just an idea! That's what we're doing these days!
....
As for my friend: Turns out she lost her phone! Whoops! No wonder why she wasn't calling back! Lucky I only bitched about it on here and for a second to my best friend! I guess it's all on still and no need to worry! Sorry for the freak out!
We have found several job opportunities right up his alley that could be awesome. Several here in our back yard, but also a bunch around the country. (Including one in Honolulu, Hawaii!
) So we might move, who knows. There are a ton of jobs in the Seattle area, so I might even get to see the West coast for the first time.
We can't really NTNP, since I don't seem to ovulate on my own. And I wouldn't consider using Clomid to be NTNP. Also, knowing our luck, I would finally ovulate and get pregnant at the worst possible time.
We'll be waiting until things are stable before trying, especially since we'll lose our insurance.
I'm glad you got in touch with your friend!
So.... Do we wait two more months to really try and *hope* we catch a sticky one so our timing can be the way we want it? Argh. I don't want to wait. BUT a January baby would be especially bad since it's not only our birthdays (not a big deal), but BF's first kid, which would be a big deal. March is his second kid's birthday. 
to SB and Bubbles! We love our heathen graduates!
As long as it pays enough to cover the crazy cost of living there. 
We paid $1200 for a 2 bed apartment in Cali and a mortgage on a 3 bed condo would probably have only been $100-200 less. And Hawaii's even worse.
