Taking a chance with contraception (ie not using it!)

[harley81]

Hi ladies,

My bubba is almost 5months old. We had a tough time conceiving as I have pcos and we ended up having ivf. When we first started ttc him it took 6 months for me to get a period after coming off the pill.

After I had him I decided to go on the mini pill thinking that I would still get cycles (my period returned 8weeks pp despite ebf and I had 2 before going on the mini pill). The doc gave me cerazette which I didn't realise stops ovulation, so my cycles disappeared . I had a big chat with hubby about how I didn't want to fill myself full of artificial hormones again as we would like another baby in the not too distant future. The upshot is we decided to ditch the cerazette and let nature take its course. I realise that people are more fertile after having a bub, but to be honest our sex life is not exactly frequent at the moment so not too many chances!

Sorry about the essay, I guess I just wanted to write everything down. Does anyone have similar stories/ any words of wisdom? X

 

[HKateH]

Condoms? I won't take hormonal contraception and I had the coil fitted once = agony, so we use condoms. Always have and *touch wood* we've never had any accidents.

Unless you are planning on NTNP rather than just chancing it?

 

[Noodlebear]

We also use condoms, I don't like them but the pill doesn't agree with me at all. Perhaps you could use them until your cycles have sorted themselves out and you're ready to TTC?

 

[harley81]

Tbh it is hard enough to get hubby in the mood mostly, condoms are not really an option! Lol

I'm quite broody, but being sensible thought maybe a 2 yr gap would be good. But since I ditched the pill hubby had mentioned it a few times and u think he really wants another one now. I guess ntnp is probably the best description. I think wed both be over the moon if it happened.... But, could be a scarily short age gap!

 

[Noodlebear]

You could just try your luck with the pull out method then. Some people do it successfully for years, others find themselves pregnant after doing it once lol

 

[harley81]

Sorry my posts sound disjointed and vague. I guess it's all going around in my head and I just needed to write it down. After years of being desperate for our first and going through the ivf it seems so weird being in this situation!

 

[Noodlebear]

They don't at all, your feelings are understandable after having difficulty conceiving.

 

[MumToEva]

Why not just do NTNP - sounds like both you and your hubby would be delighted when you do get pregnant again, even if that was immediately, so why not!

 

[Lovn.sunshine]

We decided when LO was about 3-4 months old we would just "wing it" and ultimitely ntnp as it had taken 11 months of perfectly timed, tons of bd'ing to get her 3 months later and still no bfp for us, though not surprising as we're basically down to dtd once a month, so like you, not too much a chance I say, if you want another LO then no harm in ntnp since it took so long before and with the mini pill messing with your cycles it could be awhile before ovulation returns anyway. Good luck

 

[harley81]

Thanks ladies, I feel much better now I shared this. And reading it back you're right, ntnp I think is the way forward as we would be happy if it happened but I'm defo not ready to go all in trying yet. It would be scary if it happened soon, but actually it would be fantastic in its own way after thinking we would never have kids at all. Ntnp is what me and hubby have been talking about, without calling it that, but that is the gist. Thanks for making sense of my ramblings!

 

[DebbieF]

You could just try your luck with the pull out method then. Some people do it successfully for years, others find themselves pregnant after doing it once lol

This is what we're doing. I was on the pill for a LOT of years and don't want to go back to it. We would both be happy to add a new addition to our family so I'm not too worried about it.

 

[Seity]

We used a diaphragm, the one time we didn't use it because I'd been tracking my fertility and cycles and it was supposed to be safe... I got pregnant. (I OV'd a week early with no warning signs that month) Since we only wanted one child, an unplanned second convinced my husband to finally get that vasectomy.
The diaphragm worked great and no hormones. I would recommend it, just so you make sure to always use it if you really don't want another kid.

 

[Pearls18]

I have the non hormonal coil which doesn't interfere we have to be careful as we fall pregnant at the drop of a hat, but in your position I would NTNP

 

[nicksi27]

Im exactly the same, i dont want to take the pill because i took it for years and i just dont want the artificial hormones anymore and i have quite a strong history of breast cancer so im a bit wary of it now. tbh theres not much going on sex wise because were both always knackered so id be very suprised (but happy) if it happened anyway!

 

[Foogirl]

We ditched the Cerazette. Two years later we're still trying!

 

[Babybear85]

Just be sure.that you would both be happy if u were to fall pregnant. I was on the ivf list when I fell with my eldest and then when he was six months old I fell pregnant again after one time using there'll out method. It was a huge shock. As long as u would both be happy with a short age gap then that's cool. Your very fertile after having a baby

 

[Dolly84]

We're the same, it took 2 years and clomid tablets to get our ds, we decided as it took that long that after he was born we wouldn't use anything, and 1st time we dtd when ds was 3 month old I was pregnant. Sadly that ended as a blighted ovum. So were just using the pull out method at the moment until our wedding in June, then were gonna ttc again 😄xxx